How to cope with no contact and how to really move on when dumper is dating someone e

[Emptynesswithouther]

Hello im new to this web and ive recently gone threw an breakup after a year and four months. Im a lesbian and I met my recent ex from fb, we had an awesome connection off rip, but after a couple months I noticed she was a big liar but never really had problems about other females, it was dumb lies she just could not stop. I met her at I time she was living with her mother, but that place was a war zone to say the least. So I new she had a hard life and so did I so we connected on a whole different level than any other person ive dated. I love jer beyond anything but all we did is argue, she said I downed her which I did cause she constantly lied but I never knew how to walk away and she did either. Long story short she had no job at the time and we helped eachother AT FIRST, but then after she got a job she changed to me 9 days after her new job she told me she met someone else at work and I said some real F`d up.stuff like I hate you and said things abt her sick mom... I lost it she didnt talk to me fore three days then called and called and when I answered she said she forgave me and she sorry she lied about liking that female at her job...now that was a couple days ago she`s suppose to bring my clothes tomorrow:( I miss her bt im going no contact, the hardest part is I cant stop going on her instagram and twitter I feel like crap afterwards:(

[Jiivy]

Try to break up your posts with gaps to create paragraphs...and use more full stops. It's much easier to read rather than staring at a big block of text.

 

 

It sounds like a very passionate affair you two have here. She's already apologies to you, have you apologised to her about the things you've said? Relationships have no room for vindictive hatred. It's childish.

 

You've both got a lot of growing up to do - decide what kind of relationship you truly want in your life right now. Is it a fling? Is it serious? Do you want to be in for marriage & (adopted) children?

 

Understand that relationships are hard work, but they ONLY work if you're both mature and on the same page.

[Emptynesswithouther]

Thanks yes we have talked about all of those things, it seemed very promising besides her constant lying about childish things. Ive spent these days trying to better myself also, I just dont get out she can move on so quick when before she woyld never talk to anyone else.

 

 

It seems to me ever since she started to wirk she feels she dont need me anymore and founda chick who could treat her better than me. I do admit i had an horrible mouth.

I suppose I should of seen it coming, the biggest arguements we use to have was about how sensitive she was. We began to argue alot about that I felt she let people dog her and talk crazy to her.

 

Im guessing after a year of me saying the same things and a year of her crying saying she wish people just accept her the way she is....now I wish I did, but I always felt like I need someone who was strong and felt secure with. I constantly told her that was an deal breaker but now she has left and I can`t stand the thought of her with that girl smh we had so many plans, I feel she`s gonna fall off track with this new wild chick.