Does she not trust me anymore?

[Jerry17]

This girl (Let's call her Abby) and I are in high school where I'm a junior and she's a freshman. We ride the same bus and stay a few streets away from each other. We have had a complicated situation for almost 8 months. At the start, she was always giving me mixed signals as she always stared at me and did things to catch my attention. I told her I liked her, but she told me she had a boyfriend. He actually goes to another school. He threatened me once after I tried to ask Abby about the mixed signals so me and her stopped talking. But eventually, we started back talking. Then people started asking me if her and I go out and her sister even told me Abby likes me. I asked her about it, but she told me that she doesn't see me as a boyfriend.

 

Though we started to get closer, I began to get jealous that she was talking to her friends at school, but not me. And then she was giving more attention to her boyfriend so I was jealous and felt unimportant to her. One time, I tried to get her jealous by telling her that my friends don't want me involved with her(actually the truth) and she became really angry with me so we stopped talking. I sent several messages and one that included a screenshot of our messages showing her getting mad at me. I sent it accidentally, trying to send it to my friend because they wanted to know what happened. So, a month later, on my birthday, she stared at me the whole day, but didn't say anything. So I messaged her, but she ended up telling me to move on.

 

Soon enough, we started messaging again after I decided that I still wanted to be friends with her and she agreed; However, I still felt jealous. I ended up telling her how I felt about everything and she told me she doesn't care about it anymore and doesn't see me that way. And I believe her and her boyfriend just broke up when it almost hit a year. I just want to be friends with her, but I always get jealous if she stops messaging me, thinking she is messaging someone better. I cut off all contact (Kik, Instagram) with her. My friends are starting to tell me that they think that I was her side or she was playing me because she already had a boyfriend.

 

On her birthday, many people told her happy birthday and gave her hugs so I didn't feel any way important to her. And when she hugged this guy, it seemed like one of those hugs you don't want and she was looking at me as she was hugging him. I messaged her later after discovering that she had a bad birthday and we started messaging again. The conversation actually seemed to be going good, so I followed her on Instagram again. But a few mins later, she again stopped responding. Then after a while, I realized she followed me back. So I don't know if she got mad because of that or just didn't want to talk.

 

What do you guys think? I feel like she doesn't trust me anymore. She's confusing me too much.

[Frank2thepoint]

What do you mean she doesn't trust you anymore? You never even dated her or had any intimacy with her. The entire time she kept saying she has a boyfriend and/or she doesn't see you as a boyfriend/romantic interest.

 

This girl knows you like her because you've told her. She's clearly told you she doesn't see you that way. She probably enjoys making you jealous. When you ignored her, she got mad because she couldn't make you jealous at that moment.

 

I think you are confusing yourself. You have spoken to her, you tried, you were honest, you showed initiative. Unfortunately she's not smitten with you. I recommend for you just leave her be. If she talks to you, great, if not, oh well. You have friends, and there are plenty of other girls in your school that you can try with.

[R3d]

Women, listen up. These are the type of girls we despise. Don't do this ****.

 

Anyway, yeah she's a tease. Drop that bitch. She's not worth it anyway. I wouldn't date a girl like that no matter how beautiful. Drop her like a rock. Mixed signals are so gay (excuse me).

[Jerry17]

What do you mean she doesn't trust you anymore? You never even dated her or had any intimacy with her. The entire time she kept saying she has a boyfriend and/or she doesn't see you as a boyfriend/romantic interest.

 

This girl knows you like her because you've told her. She's clearly told you she doesn't see you that way. She probably enjoys making you jealous. When you ignored her, she got mad because she couldn't make you jealous at that moment.

 

I think you are confusing yourself. You have spoken to her, you tried, you were honest, you showed initiative. Unfortunately she's not smitten with you. I recommend for you just leave her be. If she talks to you, great, if not, oh well. You have friends, and there are plenty of other girls in your school that you can try with.

 

I think Abby doesn't trust me anymore because we were so close that we were having deep conversations about my life and her life. I screenshot our conversation of when she got mad and accidentally sent it to her. And I told her I didn't mean to send it to her. So she knew I meant to send it to someone else. So I'm thinking she felt like I was telling everything we talk about and that's why she's now distant and doesn't hold a conversation that long. She doesn't even give me an answer if I know she has had a bad day and I ask her what's wrong.

[Jerry17]

Women, listen up. These are the type of girls we despise. Don't do this ****.

 

Anyway, yeah she's a tease. Drop that bitch. She's not worth it anyway. I wouldn't date a girl like that no matter how beautiful. Drop her like a rock. Mixed signals are so gay (excuse me).

 

She was actually very nice to me. We always texted after we got home from school and we would have deep conversations about my life and her life. But as soon as I broke her trust, she's never let me get close to her like that again.

[Frank2thepoint]

I think Abby doesn't trust me anymore because we were so close that we were having deep conversations about my life and her life. I screenshot our conversation of when she got mad and accidentally sent it to her. And I told her I didn't mean to send it to her. So she knew I meant to send it to someone else. So I'm thinking she felt like I was telling everything we talk about and that's why she's now distant and doesn't hold a conversation that long. She doesn't even give me an answer if I know she has had a bad day and I ask her what's wrong.

 

She was actually very nice to me. We always texted after we got home from school and we would have deep conversations about my life and her life. But as soon as I broke her trust, she's never let me get close to her like that again.

 

With your initial post, you painted her as someone that wasn't nice. With this new piece of information, then yes, you probably betrayed her trust and aggravated her by sending that message to her. You can let her cool off for a few days, give her space, and then approach her to apologize and leave it as that.

[Jerry17]

With your initial post, you painted her as someone that wasn't nice. With this new piece of information, then yes, you probably betrayed her trust and aggravated her by sending that message to her. You can let her cool off for a few days, give her space, and then approach her to apologize and leave it as that.

I have given her space, but I don't know if I actually should try to talk to her. She and her sisters don't seem to like my close friend for some reason. They always say something sly when me and her are walking. I don't know why Abby acts nice when its just me and her talking or kiking, but around other people she acts like a different person. Then they still talk about me on our bus. Even a few of my friends have heard them so one of them told them not to talk about me like that. And when I got off the bus one day, Abby's sister looked at me and asked her sister something but I heard the word boyfriend being said to Abby. But I didn't notice any expression on Abby's face.