Am I reading this situation wrong??? I'm not good with women's "signals"

[ShyBoy74]

I'm a complete idiot when it comes to reading women. I never have a clue if they are interested in me or not, if they want me to "make a move", etc...

So here's the situation.

I met this gal on the Platonic section of the personals. Here post was regarding finding a platonic friend to do things with. Nothing sexual or romantic.

We talked about possibly going to a movie and just becoming friends. As we emailed each other I mentioned that I give a pretty good massage. She expressed interest in getting a massage as she hadn't had one in a long time.

So we had a first meeting at a bar for a drink and then we went back to her place for the massage.

I told her to get comfortable and when I returned to the room she was completely naked except for a "teeny" towel which did not cover her nether regions

She then said she had oil she wanted me to use and it was a Sensual Body Oil.

As I massaged her she moaned a lot and as I did her upper thighs she spread her legs a good amount. I felt like maybe she wanted me to give her a sensual massage, but since she never specifically expressed it I didn't go there. But she wasn't shy about exposing any and all parts of here body.

Should I have asked her if she wanted more??? Or slowly worked my hands up to the "hands off" regions of her body and see her reaction.

I wanted too! But didn't want to get slapped if I crossed the line

[MidwestUSA]

For a ShyBoy, you did pretty good.

 

There's only one way to find out. Call her up and offer another massage. Ask her up front what type she would like.

[L1ght]

I'm a complete idiot when it comes to reading women. I never have a clue if they are interested in me or not, if they want me to "make a move", etc...

So here's the situation.

I met this gal on the Platonic section of the personals. Here post was regarding finding a platonic friend to do things with. Nothing sexual or romantic.

We talked about possibly going to a movie and just becoming friends. As we emailed each other I mentioned that I give a pretty good massage. She expressed interest in getting a massage as she hadn't had one in a long time.

So we had a first meeting at a bar for a drink and then we went back to her place for the massage.

I told her to get comfortable and when I returned to the room she was completely naked except for a "teeny" towel which did not cover her nether regions

She then said she had oil she wanted me to use and it was a Sensual Body Oil.

As I massaged her she moaned a lot and as I did her upper thighs she spread her legs a good amount. I felt like maybe she wanted me to give her a sensual massage, but since she never specifically expressed it I didn't go there. But she wasn't shy about exposing any and all parts of here body.

Should I have asked her if she wanted more??? Or slowly worked my hands up to the "hands off" regions of her body and see her reaction.

I wanted too! But didn't want to get slapped if I crossed the line

Are you serious?

Nah you are obviously winding us up.

A naked women laying down and moaning for your touch? And you do nothing? Get outa here. lmao. If you are for real then wow...speechless. She obviously wanted you to f*ck her. Didn't you get a giant boner? I would have and I would have whipped it out and gave her the real treatment she was looking for. Unbelievable.

*smh*

Edited May 4, 2014 by L1ght

[ShyBoy74]

Actually, this is a completely honest post.

You have to understand I met my ex-wife when I was just out of my teens and she was my first girlfriend/lover/partner/etc....

We were together for 20 years. So I never really had the opportunity to go out on dates with multiple women when I was younger.

And I have always been very shy, even when I was a teenager and it certainly hasn't improved.

So I'm not the most experienced guy on the block when it comes to flirting with women and reading their signals. Sorry, as pathetic as I may sound, it's the truth.

Was just looking for some honest opinions.

[AdrianCrawley]

I'm a complete idiot when it comes to reading women. I never have a clue if they are interested in me or not, if they want me to "make a move", etc...

So here's the situation.

I met this gal on the Platonic section of the personals. Here post was regarding finding a platonic friend to do things with. Nothing sexual or romantic.

We talked about possibly going to a movie and just becoming friends. As we emailed each other I mentioned that I give a pretty good massage. She expressed interest in getting a massage as she hadn't had one in a long time.

So we had a first meeting at a bar for a drink and then we went back to her place for the massage.

I told her to get comfortable and when I returned to the room she was completely naked except for a "teeny" towel which did not cover her nether regions

She then said she had oil she wanted me to use and it was a Sensual Body Oil.

As I massaged her she moaned a lot and as I did her upper thighs she spread her legs a good amount. I felt like maybe she wanted me to give her a sensual massage, but since she never specifically expressed it I didn't go there. But she wasn't shy about exposing any and all parts of here body.

Should I have asked her if she wanted more??? Or slowly worked my hands up to the "hands off" regions of her body and see her reaction.

I wanted too! But didn't want to get slapped if I crossed the line

 

Normally... what you have described is an invitation to sex. I may be horrible at dating, but I'm not blind.

[salparadise]

As I massaged her she moaned a lot and as I did her upper thighs she spread her legs a good amount.

 

So you said, "I think we're done here?" Sonny, when you're rubbing on a woman's thighs and she starts moaning and spreading her legs... never mind. Maybe men and women can be platonic friends after all.

[Radu]

Tbh, i believe the OP because this is exactly the kind of question i would have asked just a few yrs ago.

Yes, i was that bad at reading hints, and that scared of messing it up.

 

OP, you should have went for her other regions, and see where it went from there, but she was definitely into you.

Give her a call, and flirt a little, offer her another massage ... maybe it's not too late.

[Bruce Leigh]

I met this gal on the Platonic section of the personals. Here post was regarding finding a platonic friend to do things with. Nothing sexual or romantic.

 

In OP's defence he met her through the platonic section of the personals.

 

Sounded like an opportunity missed or a trap you didn't fall into.

 

Only way to find out is the next meeting the both of you have.

 

Good luck.

[ShyBoy74]

You are exactly correct Bruce.

Not only did her ad state "not looking for anything sexual or romantic" but she also stipulated that when we were first emailing each other. She was just looking for friendship.

So I was hesitant to do anything while massaging her.

But I have contacted her and we are going to a movie on Friday and drinks after. Hopefully the evening will end with a special "massage" for both of us

Thanks

[d0nnivain]

She's got serious problems if after placing an ad in a platonic section of the paper she meets a strange man for drinks, takes him back to her apartment & gets naked while spreading her legs as you massage her.

 

Really, do you write letters to PentHouse?

 

No woman who doesn't want sex does what she did. She's lucky you are a good guy. Behavior like that is going to get her raped if in the middle of something like that she says No.

 

Before you go anywhere sexual with this woman, demand that she get checked for STDs & show you the medical test results.

[Smilecharmer]

Wow, she was a little forward exposing her bum and spreading her legs. I thought that only happened in porn.

[MidwestUSA]

Wow, she was a little forward exposing her bum and spreading her legs. I thought that only happened in porn.

 

 

 

A 'little' forward?

 

 

I hereby present you with the 'understatement of the day' award.

[Frank2thepoint]

I didn't know LS had an erotica section. This is exciting!

 

I told her to get comfortable and when I returned to the room she was completely naked except for a "teeny" towel which did not cover her nether regions

She then said she had oil she wanted me to use and it was a Sensual Body Oil.

As I massaged her she moaned a lot and as I did her upper thighs she spread her legs a good amount. I felt like maybe she wanted me to give her a sensual massage, but since she never specifically expressed it I didn't go there. But she wasn't shy about exposing any and all parts of here body.

Should I have asked her if she wanted more??? Or slowly worked my hands up to the "hands off" regions of her body and see her reaction.

I wanted too! But didn't want to get slapped if I crossed the line

 

Regardless what message she posted, obviously there was enough chemistry for her to feel really comfortable with you to be next to naked and receiving a sensual massage from you. You went to the "hands off" regions and she moaned with excitement. You could of easily progressed to fully sexual and she definitely wouldn't have minded. I think you spent too much time thinking about the "friendship only" ad while you had your hands on her naked body. This is not about you misreading the signals, it's you not allowing yourself to stop thinking and go with the flow of the situation.

[ShyBoy74]

Yeah, when I came into the room after I left her to get comfortable, I think I silently mouthed the words "WOW" when I walked toward her feet and saw the towel was halfway up her bum and I could see she was completely shaved down there.