STM206 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I never deleted my photos aside from social media. I still have everything backed up on my computer. I don't think you have to delete them, just tuck them away. Those photos are also a part of your life as well. Right now it's too hard to look at them, but in 5 years time you'll be able to look through them and be glad you didn't delete them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I have things in "The Box" from an ex of 20 years ago. He recently found me on Facebook. He messaged me the other day for my phone number to text sometime. I just realized he hasn't texted and I could care less. . . I guess that's indifference. I mean, I wish him well but don't really care if he texts or not. I suppose that's why I can look at those things and smile because we did have some great times and I really loved him. Hopefully it won't take 20 years to get over my "latest" hahaha! To be honest, it seems impossible to imagine indifference with him but I suppose we all feel that way the first few months, maybe even years. Best of luck to everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 nothing wrong with keeping the odd pic. Good times are nice to remember. That's human. yeah but he's obsessing over the pic. he should delete it. Link to post Share on other sites
FredJones80 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I never quite understood why people would keep pics with Exes and their notes. Do you actually believe your new BF / GF / Husband / Wife is going to help you put together a scrap book of you with your Exes? All my buddies had that crap in a box in the attic and eventually threw them out because it's not like you look at them and nobody else cares either (especially the new BF / GF / Husband / Wife). I tend to agree with you, but its a toughy. Years ago when people more than likely stayed together "for life" they had a big box of memories they could share. As things go, not many people will have many memories up until their last partner, kind of sad, but I understand your point too. Plus if your new partner knew you got dumped then they might struggle with feelings you never wanted to let go of for that ex. If you dumped the person in the photos that's slightly different perhaps. Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I never quite understood why people would keep pics with Exes and their notes. Do you actually believe your new BF / GF / Husband / Wife is going to help you put together a scrap book of you with your Exes? All my buddies had that crap in a box in the attic and eventually threw them out because it's not like you look at them and nobody else cares either (especially the new BF / GF / Husband / Wife). I get what you're saying. I can only speak for myself but for me, it's more about MY life than THEM. Kinda hard to explain but almost like a map of my life. Not necessarily pictures but movie tickets, cocktail napkins, a plastic shot glass. Things like that. I even have prom pictures in there. I don't really think of them when I go through it. I think of how far I've come and all the wonderful memories I've made. If that makes any sense. It's something just for ME I would never break it out and look at it with anyone and no one really even knows about it. Even though it's just for myself, I would never mention it, just out of respect. If my boyfriend has a "box" I don't want to see hid either. hahaha! Some things are just private and sacred. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 PROM (high school) not porn. haha! Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 It doesn't bother me if my GFs has that stuff or even on their Fakebook. I have only seen a girls Fakebook I dated a handful of times (when she wanted to show me picture or something on it). My only request was hide / remove pictures that are not appropriate or disrespectful of me / our relationship. Meaning... My family / friends who have Fakebook shouldn't see her making out with past bfs or half naked in a bed with them. To date, none thought I was being unreasonable and I assume they did it. Double Standard - From what I hear from men, women have a much bigger issue with this than we do. I just think it's due to how women are "wired". If I was a guy, this is a "battle" I would waste my time fighting over. I get what you're saying. Make out pics and stuff like that. Tacky!!! peace Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 The only photos I have that aren't on social media are a couple of family photos in frames that family members gave me as gifts on random holidays/birthdays, and the photos I have on social media were almost all taken by someone else. I don't really get sentimental about photos at all and really couldn't care less about keeping photos of me with my actual friends, much less ex-girlfriends. My memory is good enough for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I have gone through old pics with GF`s. People sometimes like to see what a terrible scamp you were when you were 15. Ive done it,` really those trousers?` `Why do you have a small cat on your head?` Hair was like that then! All about trust and comfort. But Mtn, if you are looking at them in the `Cure` song type way. Then maybe left for better times? But you don`t have to delete. Take care friend, got some `Spitfire beer` having one for you. I never quite understood why people would keep pics with Exes and their notes. Do you actually believe your new BF / GF / Husband / Wife is going to help you put together a scrap book of you with your Exes? All my buddies had that crap in a box in the attic and eventually threw them out because it's not like you look at them and nobody else cares either (especially the new BF / GF / Husband / Wife). Link to post Share on other sites
WYSWYG Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Came across an old pic of my ex on my phone. Just one... Just like I remembered... she is so hot. So beautiful... To be honest, I have never even met a more beautiful woman, let alone dated or had sex with one. I wonder if I will ever meet one again like her... Hmmmm.... OP, I feel this ,too.... Me and my ex even had videos. I miss her when I watch them but then also reminds me of the bad stuff so it evens out and actually sets me straight again on life. I know this filthy rich guy who told me once (and no offense intended): "....You can pay for sex w/ someone gorgeous. I luv driving my Ferrari but will never give up my Toyota." Link to post Share on other sites
WYSWYG Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I totally understand this. I'm a sentimental fool! LOL!!! I have all kinds of things saved that I just can't bear to throw out. I even have fall leaves from Central park stashed from a trip an ex from way back and I took. It's nice to open that box once in a while. Kinda like a time machine. Of course, it will be a while before I can look at anything that reminds me of "him" Someday, I'll look back on him and smile. Just not anytime soon. "Time Machine" That's exactly how I feel about it. I never deleted or threw away pics. At some point, you're indifferent and well over that person. I look at them to remember the fun times and how good life was and even if it didn't work out in the end. Some blessings in life are disguised.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
STM206 Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 I never quite understood why people would keep pics with Exes and their notes. Do you actually believe your new BF / GF / Husband / Wife is going to help you put together a scrap book of you with your Exes? All my buddies had that crap in a box in the attic and eventually threw them out because it's not like you look at them and nobody else cares either (especially the new BF / GF / Husband / Wife). I agree for the most part. I however have photos from my very first cruise, trips that we took together, holiday memories and so forth. They're a part of my life as well. Just because the ex is in a lot of them doesn't mean I need to erase my memories as well. Right this moment I can't look at them, but they'll one day be reminders of the good times. However I would never expect my new partner to sit and look through them with me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 Always delete the nude pictures of your exes. Always. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted May 5, 2014 Author Share Posted May 5, 2014 Always delete the nude pictures of your exes. Always. This ex wouldn't even go there with me. LOL!!!!! I do have some from a previous ex though Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 This ex wouldn't even go there with me. LOL!!!!! I do have some from a previous ex though Why? That's pretty weird. Link to post Share on other sites
oracle Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Probably not. But atleast you got to. Nothing in this world lasts. Your EX will get old and ugly too. Cheer up brother: You are born into a losing proposition - just like the rest of us. Came across an old pic of my ex on my phone. Just one... Just like I remembered... she is so hot. So beautiful... To be honest, I have never even met a more beautiful woman, let alone dated or had sex with one. I wonder if I will ever meet one again like her... Hmmmm.... Link to post Share on other sites
oracle Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Are you kidding? Just imagine how much those will be worth if they ever become someone important! Always delete the nude pictures of your exes. Always. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted May 5, 2014 Author Share Posted May 5, 2014 Why? That's pretty weird. Cause they are dirty and hot!!! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Cause they are dirty and hot!!! lol still doesnt make it less weird. Holding on to ex's...um private photos just seems creepy to me. I guess we will agree to disagree. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 This ex wouldn't even go there with me. LOL!!!!! I do have some from a previous ex though I kept some from my old ex for a while. Then I got a new phone and accidentally left my old phone (which was useless except for saved pictures) on an airplane. Whoever picked it up got a nice bonus, but in general, I'm glad I don't have them anymore. You can get pictures of hotter, younger, more adventurous chicks all over the internet. Why the hell keep pictures of someone that you had/have an emotional attachment toward? Just a bad idea. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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