Ghiop Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 From August-December 2012 I was in the UK and I met this girl. She was the first and only girl I have ever been able to laugh and flirt around with without it being awkward. Then I came back here, and I've been missing her so much. Lately I've been getting really depressed over it and I find my relationships with my friends here are falling apart quite drastically. She presumably doesn't know I like her this much; I haven't told her. She told me that in a year she's going to come over here. We live literally thousands of miles apart. We used to message a lot over Facebook however now she always ends a brief conversation that I seem to always start. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 You had 6 months to show her/tell her that she meant more to you than a friend. You did not use that time. That is such a shame. You've been too long apart and there is no indication on your side that you want her to be more than a friend. She has probably kept on living her life, met other people and you are no longer a big part of her life. Not as a friend nor as a potential lover. I think you have 2 choices. Or maybe 2,5. You go all out, book a trip to the UK, look her up and find a moment to tell her how you feel (if she is still interested in hanging out with you). No happy endings guaranteed but at least you tried your all. You tell her online that she means so much to you, that you want her to come over to make that connection and that after that you want to be in a LDR till you can be together forever. I think your success rate with this one is very low. You let go of your fantasies of her. Stop hanging all your hopes and dreams on the connection that you thought you shared with someone who lives far away and likely not feels as strongly about you. You go out in the world and find someone who you can share such an amazing connection with and this time you take a chance and TELL them. She was the first girl you felt comfortable with. The good news is that you know now you are capable of feeling at ease with a woman. She won't be the ONLY girl you will be comfortable with. Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
tryingmybest Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 A lot of time has passed. Maybe you are scared that you never took the chance. But believe me your friends should be more important than her, Open up to them and tell them why you have been indifferent with them lately. They will understand. I think you should forget about her, it seems like she has with you. If she does move to your country, and its a big if then great hang out with her get a connection back but don't wait around for a year for something that could never happen. “You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analysing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the **** on.” ― Tupac Shakur Use this as a learning curve, Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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