spook1 Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 (edited) Hi there, I've been separated from my husband for a year and a half now and I don't for see any chances of reconciliation of our relationship. I love him and I told him I would wait for him but how long is it to wait? I know he has tried on line dating sites and he cut almost all communications off with me. A text here and there when we use to talk and text all the time. I actually thought we were getting closer. Obviously I am wrong. He use to tell me good night and etc. I don't even get that anymore. We share a son together and lately we don't even talk about him. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel so hopeless. I don't want to lose him and I don't want him to move on. I tried everything I could to make up lost time but nothing seems to work. He doesn't even want to be around me neither does he ask me to do anything we our son together. He filed for divorce but hasn't proceeded with the divorce according to the clerk of courts. I don't understand. I want him back in my life. Anyone else going through the same thing? Help! Edited May 5, 2014 by spook1 added more text Link to post Share on other sites
realfriends Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 All you can do is move on. You have been delaying your healing for a year and a half now! I could barely last with the pain for 5 months, I dont know how you are doing it, tourturing yourself. Look, we all love the person who tore our heart in half, thats why its so hard. But he doesn't want you in his life and theres nothing you can do but honor his request. Bow out of his life for good, and go completely silent (hard because you have a son of which I dont know how old he is and not sure it entirely matters). You really need to heal. Im sorry for your pain 1 Link to post Share on other sites
livingnightmare Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I don't know what to do anymore. I feel so hopeless. I don't want to lose him and I don't want him to move on. I tried everything I could to make up lost time but nothing seems to work. He doesn't even want to be around me neither does he ask me to do anything we our son together. Sometimes we just have to accept what we want and what our partners want are two different things, you must try to let him go. The more you grab for him the more he will want to run. Honestly you will make this much worse for yourself by trying to convince him to come back, each time he resists, you are knocked back to square 1. I fought many battles in my mind for a long time now because I couldn't let go fully, the more I pulled the faster she ran, the more I fought her reasons to leave, the more punishment I inflicted on myself, made my self less appealing each time, damaged my self esteem and pride, and confirmed her reason to leave. You must let him go, it is only you that is adding to your hurt now, you will see this with time. You must move forward and learn, grow from this experience, use it to become an even better person, things will get easier, but the longer you resist his wanting to go in your mind, the more you will punish yourself and prevent self healing. Implement low or no contact, and only keep communication about your son.... Nothing more! Let him go, it is the only option to heal, nothing else will work! I learned the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 He's not your husband anymore and you've wasted enough time waiting for a miracle - which would pretty much be the only thing with the ability tog et you two together as perfect working couple - to happen. Time to be strong. Especially for your son. Link to post Share on other sites
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