McDonald Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks, we've hugged, kissed and made out p, she's come out when I invite her... But for some reason I can't make any other move. I feel like I'm just going to confuse her if I continue to not try to close.. If that makes sense. My self esteem is still shot from a breakup, I think I haven't closed because I'm afraid of rejection still... Anyone have tips? I feel like the longer I wait, or the more I text and she replies, I fall deeper in the friendzone.. Link to post Share on other sites
PlanetJanet Posted May 5, 2014 Share Posted May 5, 2014 Well, what do you want with this girl? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Rejection sucks but if you want more you have to be honest about what you want or need from her......and what you want to give in the relationship, how fast or slwo you want it to go and then reach some sort of future goal for the both of you that makes both of you comfortable and happy.....delaying making it known what you hope for,.....isnt that possibly more destructive than rejection????...time wise i mean and heart wise too.....if you arent on the same page it is better to know sooner rather than later ...the deeper and longer you develop feelings or fall the harder it is to climb back up and the longer it will take for you to move on ...........i fear abandonment and rejection even when what i fear is right in front of me and i am literally shaking i still stand.....i used to think i was a pathetic coward because i shake when i am afraid, and i face fearful things to me, but maybe i am not......maybe i am actually stronger than some........ i remember once when i stood with a door to my back and faced two wild eyed drunk guys with knives wanting to mutilate my teenage son...me a single mum with five kids inside and their friends....i was scared then too....... so rejection well...rejection is scarier as is abandonment for me.......standing alone when i tell someone how i feel.....i can face it even shaking on the inside even though that is so much more scary than guys with knives....even if i do shake on the inside.....ill be ok..i talked my way clear which i am rather proud of..... and i didnt pass out then.........so will you....say what you want or need to be happy, mean what you say and never fear that you are caring about someone to want them in your life more ............... best of luck from me to you....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author McDonald Posted May 8, 2014 Author Share Posted May 8, 2014 Thanks for the reply, guys. Well the thing is, Im not really sure what I want. In three weeks she will be leaving for a new school... So I probably wont see her again. Unless we run into eachother after college. She mentioned two nights ago how she is leaving soon.. I told her I just want to have fun until we cant. I feel like I would be, and want to be dating this girl, if she was staying at this school. I just feel like im out of time. I want to spend a lot of time with her, but I dont want to be obsessive.. She also is acting kinda weird.. like two nights ago we were having fun, flirting, hooking... she invited me over last night to hang out. I try to put my arm over her, and she leans foward out of it... and then has to go to bed.. I feel like she is self conscious when we are together and around others. Her room mates werent in the room, but in the house... Maybe she is a afraid to show affection in public, because she doesnt want to begin to fall. Im not really sure what I am trying to say. Its just hard to understand what I truly want. I mean, I think I know what i want, but its just not possible with her leaving. a LDR isnt in the question either.. Im young, in college, and dont really know this girl- the commitment would be too much too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author McDonald Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) Wow is such a great that young man like you take care about woman fellings so much. Happened something today, with your girl? or its still same? She went back home on thursday, we havent really talked much since. I dont want to overwhelm her. I plan on talking to her tomorrow... but I dont want everything I do with her to have to be planned out.. I mean, i dont want to think: Okay o I wont text her today but Ill text her tomorrow after class at 6.. It doesnt seem very natural.. i want to be able to text her whenever I wanna have a conversation.. but i dont think we are there yet. I just feel like there is no time left (school ends in the next few weeks and we do live ways apart, espcially since she will be attending a whole different uni) I have a really bad tendency to overthink things and read into things... Like we will be snapchatting (i know such a adolescent sounding phrase) and she will just stop.. it makes me think if I did anything wrong.. but its probably her just being busy or maybe over the convo. Which should be fine, I blow things out of proportion. Edited May 12, 2014 by McDonald Link to post Share on other sites
Author McDonald Posted May 19, 2014 Author Share Posted May 19, 2014 She leaves for good by the end of the week. After that, I will rarely see her, or not see her at all. Not because we dont want to see each other, but its just the way things are gonna work out. We've hung out, but for some reason when I try to make a move, like always, she is a little timid... Probably because she is leaving very soon and doesnt want to fall. Sadly, I have though. Since my school year ends about a month after hers, she said she would come up and visit some weekends (she live 2 hours away form the Uni). Im just rambling off here. It doesnt really seem fair that Ive finally met someone liker her a year and a half after coping from my previous breakup, and shes leaving. But I do respect her and where she is coming from. Shes about to embark on a new journey, and though she did say she wish she met me earlier, its just how life is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author McDonald Posted May 24, 2014 Author Share Posted May 24, 2014 Well thats it. I left my university to go home this weekend. She leaves school for good tomorrow. We didnt even get to say bye. But at this point it was probably for the best. I could feel like she was trying to push me away towards the end. I think we both fell, and it was for the better. We hung out last night, but didnt really talk at the party we went to. I texted her this morning, but no reply. So im not gonna text her again I guess. I wanted to tell her that it was great meeting her, but theres no point in that. Well so much for this one. took me a year and a half to let myself fall for someone again, and of course its someone I cant have. Link to post Share on other sites
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