Ztw Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 So my ex broke up with me a year ago. We didn't speak for about half that time. He then tried desperately to talk to me by contacting my sister then finally emailing me. He dropped a note off at my house in my mailbox in January.. I gave in & gave him my new #. We talked almost everyday & he said he wished things were different & that he missed me a ton. Basically told me how he's making his life better for us.. We met up a few times & kissed, nothing else. I could have slept with him but I have not & he's tried on a few occasions. he told me he never wanted to hurt me again but was very busy with school. -Then he sorta just stopped texting me all the time. I told him I loved him & could not be just friends with him. He responded with he's making too many moves forward & wants to be real close friends. & dosnt understand why we can't. He also added That he would never string me along or put me on the back burner... He still randomly texts me & said he got me a gift when he was in Spain. (The whole time he was in Spain he texted me.) When he got back I didn't hear from him at all for a week. Then all of a sudden he wanted to meet up.?? I've completely blown him off because I love him & I'm so freakn confused.. I don't understand what is happening? He knows how I feel about him. Is he playing games with me? He knows I can't be friends. What should I do? We dated for 8 years. I've never felt such terrible pain in my life... * I feel so foolish for opening up to him again.. Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 If you're in pain the only person who can protect you, is yourself. Block his number, and any other outlet he could use to contact you. There are guides on this forum. Search for "no contact". Link to post Share on other sites
Mondmellonw Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Don't feel like a fool, Ztw You did what you thought was better because you still care for that relationship. Truth is, you must leave this guy on the past. He will just use you and you deserve better than this. Go NC. Hugs! Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 He also added That he would never string me along or put me on the back burner... My ex told me this too but here I am on LS in my process of healing because she did what she said she would not and I fell for it. It's really not fair that you know you cannot be friends, he knows that, but yet he's trying very desperately to keep the friendship. He should just respect your request and leave you be, especially since he was the dumper. Like the others have said, go NC. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Full no contact and don't give in. He may just be looking for friends with benefits, and even if there are feelings behind it it's clear he doesn't care about your feelings in this. Selfish idiot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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