Should i ask my ex out as friends

[M1987]

Ok, so about 1 and a half years a go me and my ex finished after about the same length of relationship time, it was very intense for the majority of it, but towards the last 2 to 3 month she was distant, partly i think because she fell for somebody she worked with, who she started a relationship with months after. I could make excuses, but the icing on the cake was when i came to blows with her ex boyfriend, and we fought. She ended it, I believe now that if i never begged, and hounded her i could have got her back, in the end i started going out 4-5 times a week and drinking, sending her messages, sometimes loving ones, sometimes really nasty. This went on for about 8-9 months, We never spoke for 1-2 months and saw each other out eventually, and it was like nothing had changed, we still got on really well, and you can tell there's something between us but she was still in a relationship and living with this guy. Shortly after this, I was told by her mother that she had spoke about me, saying she missed me and she still likes me, and there is something there, she's just not sure what. I’m kind of in a position where I get told things about her I shouldn’t really know, she doesn’t know I know this.

 

So moving onto the last three months, she split up with her boyfriend and tried briefly to get back with her ex (the one previous to me) but it never worked out. We argued about this when we saw each other. About a month ago i found out this had ended, so i text her, she was really nice about it although It was always me initiating the conversations.

 

Roll on friday just gone, i text her and i never got anything back, I heard things that she may be dating again, and she likes another person, however this doesn't deter me. I never got a message back, with this in the back of my mind i text just putting the ball back in her court, just saying i though it would be a good time to try be friends maybe meet up.

 

Since i sent this she has been more responsive, She was hinting she was bored and had no plans on Saturday so i suggest we meet up. She said she was unsure as she didn't want my friends to think she was messing me around again, and it would just be as friends. I agreed with this as a lot of time has passed and I'm not sure if i want to go through it all again. I said we should leave it for tonight and let her think about it. We carried on texting through to sunday and she asked where I was and came to the same club, she doesn’t usually come here, I never approached her but she asked me to go outside to chat, we did, it was great, funny and again like nothing had changed. She text me later on the night saying it wasn’t so bad our chat, and I agreed saying we always did get on so well, to which she agreed. We carried on texting up until Monday night, it was late and my last one never got a reply, probably because It was brief.

 

I always get the feeling it’s not fully over between us yet. Do i meet her as friends and see if anything progresses? I sent the last text, do I wait to see if she texts me? I don't want to put pressure on, do i tell her i still might want something more even if i'm not sure? Ask her if she’s thought about going out?

 

Can anybody offer me any advised please?