overseas2004 Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 I met a guy six months ago that is about 10 years older than me. I had a six month relationship with him while I was working in Europe. During that time, I cheated on him once and I told him about it afterwards (except I did not talk about having sex). He decided to forgive me and we stayed together. The reason I cheated. Well my bf, is 10 years older than me but he looks even older than that. I am 37 and he is 47. Anyway, to make a long story short in December I decided to go home because I got a job offer in the U.S. Also my BF was going through alot of financial problems since his business went bust in 2003. I had no way to stay with him because he was not financially independent. I am working here now (in the U.S.)and I am not happy to have come back home. I have been working in Europe for the past 5 years and have grown quite accustomed to it. In addition to that I think about him all the time. I admit that there is a certain problem, well actually only one problem. I am not attracted to him that much. But I love him and I love his personality. And except for looks he is EVERYTHING I have ever ever wanted in a man. I am 37 years old and I really want to have children and I know my time is running out for having children. I have pretty much convinced myself that I should just throw in the towel, resign my position here and go back to him. I plan to do that in six months, because by that time, I will have enough money to help him start another business (and that is something that he is working on now). So what is the problem? The truth is he isnt a slam dunk. You can tell that from my letter. But he is the best I have seen in all my years of dating. And I do love him. So please tell me what do you think...... Overseas no longer.... Link to post Share on other sites
emopunk Posted February 7, 2005 Share Posted February 7, 2005 I am not attracted to him that much. But I love him and I love his personality. And except for looks he is EVERYTHING I have ever ever wanted in a man. Looks are passing. Get someone who is physically stunning... and in 20 years they won't look the same. Everything changes on the outside. It's inside that is eternal. If you can carry on conversations for hours with the guy now, you'll be able to 30 years from now. That's a priceless attribute. So what is the problem? The truth is he isnt a slam dunk. You can tell that from my letter. But he is the best I have seen in all my years of dating. And I do love him. You said it yourself, you love him...so yeah, what IS the problem? Link to post Share on other sites
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