Mrmista Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 Hey all- So here is my story. I recently/ currently am going through a separation with my wife of 2 years (7 years together with 2 year old daughter). She left me about 6 months ago and moved across town. Since the initial separation we continued to still act like we were together but living separately. I found out she had been cheating on me during this period and things went bad. She told me she had found someone else and it was over for us. This hurt me a lot but I have been ok and have finally gotten over it. I found a new girl online and we have just started dating. My ex who who is supposedly "so happy" in her new relAtionship finds out and decides to come by and we end up having sex. It was weak on my part but I missed her and **** happens... Turns out her new bf found out we had sex because of some texts he found on her phone and freaked out on her. I'm really struggling and confused I don't think I want her back. I really like the new girl I am dating and don't want her to be hurt (only been dating for 2 weeks). The marriage will never work out we have been through too much crap. Not really even sure what I'm asking but need advice. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 Ending a marriage is more complicated then just breaking up (although that's not easy either). One step forward two steps back. It's unfortunate that both you & your stbexw cheated on your new partners but you aren't the 1st nor the last. Tell your new GF that you slipped up & ask her to forgive you. She might walk away but better now than later. If you genuinely don't want your marriage to work out, avoid being alone with your stbexw in situations where sex is a possibility. It will cut down on the temptation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FredJones80 Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 we end up having sex. You don't just "end up having sex" - its a choice. How did you feel when your wife cheated on you? You've just done exactly the same to your new GF. So the pain you felt, you've now inflicted that on someone else innocent in all of this. Do your new GF a favour and send her packing for her own sake. Then man up, find a new GF and stop dipping your wick where you shouldn't be. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrmista Posted May 9, 2014 Author Share Posted May 9, 2014 Thanks for the advice. She is not really my girlfriend yet. We have been on a couple dates and haven't had a talk about being exclusive. The reason I feel bad about it is because I don't want to hurt her. I am going to tell her either way because if this relationship does turn more serious I would rather have it in the open now. Thanks again for the responses. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
karnak Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 My ex who who is supposedly "so happy" in her new relAtionship finds out and decides to come by and we end up having sex. This is the kind of thing that clearly states what kind of a person your ex-wife is. Stay the hell away from her. She's a serial cheater that's for sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 I recently/ currently am going through a separation with my wife of 2 years (7 years together with 2 year old daughter)... I found a new girl online and we have just started dating. My ex who who is supposedly "so happy" in her new relAtionship finds out and decides to come by and we end up having sex. It was weak on my part but I missed her and **** happens... Turns out her new bf found out we had sex because of some texts he found on her phone and freaked out on her. I'm really struggling and confused I don't think I want her back. I really like the new girl I am dating and don't want her to be hurt (only been dating for 2 weeks). The marriage will never work out we have been through too much crap. Not really even sure what I'm asking but need advice. You two are creating way too much drama for parents of a two year old. She is taking in everything, and this lack of stability is having an effect on her that will show up when she gets older. You should try to get back together. You have a toddler. Do you want whatever low-life comes into the mother's life to try to parent (or even molest) your daughter? Do you want some new woman you're with to get jealous and compete with your daughter for your attention (it happens all the time)? This is a good idea of the future. You had a baby two years ago. If things were really so crappy and impossible, what made you think it was a good idea to have a baby together? You had been together for 5 years before that - you must have had some idea who this woman was. Suck up your pride and hurt and try harder to make it work out, only for the sake of your child. Link to post Share on other sites
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