My LDR ended a month and a half ago, read.

[windingwings]

So me and my ex-fiance met over Facebook, things were good and eventually we took it to the next level. He came to visit me in Canada for two months, left then in 2011 came again for 6 months this time! Left and was gone for two years. We skyped every day and night, even slept together on it for comfort. Basically in 2013 things got bad and trust issues were being strewn about, no physical cheating but a lot of questions up in the air and I stayed angry for a whole year. He then came in December for a month and even though we argued we had our good moments and said that he would come back once his contract with his work is done and we'd get married. Well, I still let things heat up and pushed him away. Dumped him and didn't talk to him for three weeks even though the first two weeks he tried reaching out. Met some guy who is 7 years younger than him (my ex is 24) and after that week they started tweeting love songs to each other and had a couple dates, then my ex got tickets to some concert and took him along and told me that he loved him, all in a couple weeks. It's been a month and a half and I'm still in the picture, going NC today because I'm tired and I don't see any chances of reconciliation.

This guy was obsessed with me, everyone tells me all he could talk about was me. I don't know if I should just stay in the picture and keep LC or just fade away, he seems happier and they go out every weekend, he's changed and he told me he's not moving here and he's happier there even though he always informed me otherwise.

He lives in South Africa and I live in Canada, so I pretty much messed everything up for a future with him and now I don't know if this is a rebound or not, he admitted that this is easier for him and that they love each other and he doesn't want to lose him.

I guess I'm just waiting for him to really truly miss me and want him back, but I realize now that it isn't going to happen and I should just go NC.

 

Any advice or input on the whole situation?

[Aviendha]

This was a little confusing to read, so I take it you're a gay man in Canada who has a long D with someone in Africa? You two broke up, and he found someone else? Is English not your first language?

 

More than anything I don't get the impression your relationship is very good, maybe you should move on? It might help to talk to the person you care about so that you can understand what is going on better.

[HeavenOrHell]

Not seeing each other for two years is going to be pretty damaging.

Trust is essential in any r/ship, if you don't have that in an LDR, it's not going to work.

Sounds like he got fed up as you pushed him away and he found someone else.

He loves this other person, so yes you should go NC.

How are you still in the picture? You mean you still talk? Does he treat you as a friend now, or more?

Obsessions can and do fade, people can be enthusiastic and promise the world at the beginning, then it dies out. People change and move onto someone else if things aren't working out.

He's told you he's happier now and not going to move.

 

I think you answered your own question in the end, and that yes you should go NC.

 

 

So me and my ex-fiance met over Facebook, things were good and eventually we took it to the next level. He came to visit me in Canada for two months, left then in 2011 came again for 6 months this time! Left and was gone for two years. We skyped every day and night, even slept together on it for comfort. Basically in 2013 things got bad and trust issues were being strewn about, no physical cheating but a lot of questions up in the air and I stayed angry for a whole year. He then came in December for a month and even though we argued we had our good moments and said that he would come back once his contract with his work is done and we'd get married. Well, I still let things heat up and pushed him away. Dumped him and didn't talk to him for three weeks even though the first two weeks he tried reaching out. Met some guy who is 7 years younger than him (my ex is 24) and after that week they started tweeting love songs to each other and had a couple dates, then my ex got tickets to some concert and took him along and told me that he loved him, all in a couple weeks. It's been a month and a half and I'm still in the picture, going NC today because I'm tired and I don't see any chances of reconciliation.

This guy was obsessed with me, everyone tells me all he could talk about was me. I don't know if I should just stay in the picture and keep LC or just fade away, he seems happier and they go out every weekend, he's changed and he told me he's not moving here and he's happier there even though he always informed me otherwise.

He lives in South Africa and I live in Canada, so I pretty much messed everything up for a future with him and now I don't know if this is a rebound or not, he admitted that this is easier for him and that they love each other and he doesn't want to lose him.

I guess I'm just waiting for him to really truly miss me and want him back, but I realize now that it isn't going to happen and I should just go NC.

 

Any advice or input on the whole situation?

[HeavenOrHell]

I think his/her English is fine, pretty simple, either they are a gay couple, or he is bi, what's not to get?

 

 

 

This was a little confusing to read, so I take it you're a gay man in Canada who has a long D with someone in Africa? You two broke up, and he found someone else? Is English not your first language?

 

More than anything I don't get the impression your relationship is very good, maybe you should move on? It might help to talk to the person you care about so that you can understand what is going on better.