racer120 Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 I had an unexpected meeting with a girl I first met about 2 years ago (who lives abroad). Back then , I regretted kissing her and missed her a lot afterwards. I thought that was that as contact faded. Unexpectedly, we met up again on Tuesday. It was great to chat again and we walked for hours before drinking a coffee late into the night. There was no stress involved -as I didn't have time to obsess about the meeting - and it had its quiet moments, but everything felt good! She asked me to message her at the end of the date and we will meet up again tomorrow. Now I'm starting to wonder if I'm getting an opportunity here to set my wrong right. I am pretty sure she does not want a relationship with me, although she is nice for me. However, given the extremely rare ocassion of us meeting, I was wondering if I should try anyway? The touch barrier would be the first thing to be cleared. I'm such a wooz when it comes to all this. But deep down, I know this is a chance I wouldn't want to miss for the world. Should I take this chance, and how should I 'prepare her' for the kiss? For your info: we have hugged and kissed on the cheek. Furthermore, a certain element is there will be lots of walking. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 If she lives abroad, the cheek kissing could simply be a friendly greeting Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 If you already kissed her & regretted it, why do you want to kiss her now? What changed or was that a typo & you meant to say you regretted not kissing her back then? Just spend time with her. If she wants you to kiss her, she will find all sorts of non-verbal ways to communicate that to you. Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 Has there been any mention of the awkwardness after the kiss years ago? Do you know if she is romantically involved with anyone at all? Have you tried to find out? Has she shown any interest in your own lovelife? Has there been anything like even mild flirting going on? A kiss is usually a natural thing, you both feel there is a connection, often it is something you have indicated to each other, by the time it is time for that all important first kiss you just look at each other and know it is what you both want. As you mentioned yourself you are overthinking/obsessing now. Try to look at the facts, I think you will find your answer in there. Btw, if this is that trip to Russia you talked about then good on ya that you are having a good time! Link to post Share on other sites
Author racer120 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Share Posted May 9, 2014 must have been a typo from my side, apologies. I didn't kiss her yet. @TAV: correct. my trip has been absolutely brilliant so far. I'm very grateful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted May 9, 2014 Share Posted May 9, 2014 You don't really explain your relationship but i'll give you advice my coach gave me once - Your chatting, getting along, what have you. When it feels appropriate you break the touch barrier and like brush her hair out her face/run your hand through it. If she smiles thats your green light. If its awkward - quit! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author racer120 Posted May 11, 2014 Author Share Posted May 11, 2014 dear me, that must have be ranked amongst one of the worst 'dates' (if it was even that) in history. We walked, didn't say much, were not even close to contact (not even a hug or kiss when saying goodbye) ... oh dear. She probably thinks of me as a boring prick. Conclusion: won't bother myself to look for impossible, distant love. Time to start looking for it closer to home. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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