Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) I know a 32 year old woman who dates nothing but muscled guys, and she's nearly 300 lbs. What's your point? Also, she has terrible taste in men. You took me not agreeing with you as some kind of attack. Calm down, not everyone is going to agree with you. Do I think you're acting carefree? Yes. Is that a bad thing? No, frankly you deserve it. I'm just calling it like I see it. It's a difference in opinion. You're not getting my point and I don't think you're going to. Also, once again, never tell a woman to calm down unless they are trying to murder you (and I don't think I'll be able to reach that far..we're across the country from each other and my arms just aren't that long). I am not freaking out over some random dude on the internet, trust me. But I'm sure you'll disagree with me on that too..because you know me so well... I am curious about how a 300lb woman gets dates with body builders though? How does that happen? Is it a confidence thing? Edited May 15, 2014 by KaliLove 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 So I'm seeing him again tomorrow night..we're going to watch Harry Potter..because I'm a nerd, haha. Seeing the other guy again on Sunday (I think..I might have other plans). Anyone else doing any dating? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littleplanet Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 It's a great story. Creative and spontaneous (not enough of that in the world anymore.) Looks good on ya! Long ago and far away, I had a similar thing happen once. I was trying to raise my best bud on the phone one lazy afternoon - and his number was eternally busy. So I finally gave up and drove over. Rang his buzzer in the lobby. No answer. Rang again. And again..... Finally answered. Went up the elevator, banged on his door. After a minute, the door flies open. He's dragging on a sports jacket and fixing a tie. Mumbles something about an ad in the personals (newspaper) and somebody he's been talking to on the phone, and now he has to go meet her. As we're standing there - his phone rings. He says "Answer that and get the particulars - see ya later!" And he's gone. I'm standing there in the doorway, feeling like a tornado just blew by. Then I walk over and answer the phone. As I pick up, I have a devilish idea. I'm going to impersonate him. Which is what I did. And for the next 20 minutes the woman I'm talking to is getting more and more interested. We're getting along like a house on fire. Until she decides she wants to ride on over and meet me on the spot. So I say, sure. 15 minutes later the buzzer downstairs goes, and I buzz her up. One minute later a knock comes on the door. I open it. And look up. Way up. (I'm 6 feet tall. She was another 4 or 5 inches above that.) We look at each other. We both burst out laughing. She asks me - am I one of those men who likes being taller? I say, "Yep." So we became good friends - I never let on to my bud, just let it drop. 6 months later they met each other at my surprise birthday party (not knowing who each other was) and got along famously.....left the party togther, in fact. That's sort of playing Cupid, in a backhanded kind of way. But meeting over a pizza order. That's raising the bar. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Natsume21 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You're not getting my point and I don't think you're going to. Also, once again, never tell a woman to calm down unless they are trying to murder you (and I don't think I'll be able to reach that far..we're across the country from each other and my arms just aren't that long). I am not freaking out over some random dude on the internet, trust me. But I'm sure you'll disagree with me on that too..because you know me so well... I am curious about how a 300lb woman gets dates with body builders though? How does that happen? Is it a confidence thing? Remember how I said I lived in a country town in Alabama? Well I live in a somewhat "racist" and traditionalist town(this much I do know) with only 1,000 people, living 50 miles from the nearest city. Guys here don't have much of a choice in women. They are either "redneck" or "ghetto" and the majority of them are big women. Just picture the Beverly Hillbillies and the Dukes of Hazzard with smartphones and that's my town in a nutshell Big women get dates easily here cause that's all guys can get here. I hate this small town, honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
Natsume21 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 So I'm seeing him again tomorrow night..we're going to watch Harry Potter..because I'm a nerd, haha. Seeing the other guy again on Sunday (I think..I might have other plans). Anyone else doing any dating? Refer to "My town, again" for that answer. But if you consider long-distance "dating" then yes, I'm doing quite a lot of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 So I'm seeing him again tomorrow night..we're going to watch Harry Potter..because I'm a nerd, haha. Seeing the other guy again on Sunday (I think..I might have other plans). Anyone else doing any dating? No dating no. I kinda am reaching out to someone, but I don't think it's fair for me to do so. I don't know.. I want to. I don't want to.. I want to share my life with someone, yet I'm still hung on the ex. Sunday it's going to be 5 weeks. I used to ride horses. We all know the "get back on the horse.." I'll tell you what happened to me once. I was about 15 or so. I was riding and the dam horse kicked me off the saddle. I fell on my back, on a bed of small rocks. The girl that was with me was telling to get back on the horse immediately. I had to explain to her I wasn't scared, my dam back hurt like hell and to give me a DAM MINUTE! That's how I feel about dating atm.. I want to.. but I just got my butt kicked by a fall Link to post Share on other sites
Natsume21 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You're not getting my point and I don't think you're going to. Also, once again, never tell a woman to calm down unless they are trying to murder you (and I don't think I'll be able to reach that far..we're across the country from each other and my arms just aren't that long). I am not freaking out over some random dude on the internet, trust me. But I'm sure you'll disagree with me on that too..because you know me so well... I am curious about how a 300lb woman gets dates with body builders though? How does that happen? Is it a confidence thing? To be honest with you, I'm 23 years old and I haven't seen the world. Not outside of my small town, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Natsume21 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 No dating no. I kinda am reaching out to someone, but I don't think it's fair for me to do so. I don't know.. I want to. I don't want to.. I want to share my life with someone, yet I'm still hung on the ex. Sunday it's going to be 5 weeks. I used to ride horses. We all know the "get back on the horse.." I'll tell you what happened to me once. I was about 15 or so. I was riding and the dam horse kicked me off the saddle. I fell on my back, on a bed of small rocks. The girl that was with me was telling to get back on the horse immediately. I had to explain to her I wasn't scared, my dam back hurt like hell and to give me a DAM MINUTE! That's how I feel about dating atm.. I want to.. but I just got my butt kicked by a fall I'd figured I'd take dating more seriously when I have my own career, which won't be for another 10 years. 5 if I'm lucky. But you take it one step at a time. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 yet I'm still hung on the ex. Sunday it's going to be 5 weeks. Of course you're still hung on the ex!!! It's only been 5 weeks!?!? Have you taken any time to reflect, heal and grow from that RS??? I'm sure there were some lessons there for you. But if you just jump into something else now, they will be lost... Why are people so against being solo for more than a couple days/weeks??? Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Of course you're still hung on the ex!!! It's only been 5 weeks!?!? Have you taken any time to reflect, heal and grow from that RS??? I'm sure there were some lessons there for you. But if you just jump into something else now, they will be lost... Why are people so against being solo for more than a couple days/weeks??? I don't mind living alone. I don't know about "people", but I get along quite well with myself, maybe too well. It's not about being scared of being "solo", it's about my desire to share my life and what I have to offer with someone else. Yes, I work on myself. I'm a big advocate of it. Not talking about the gym only. I reflect on my mistakes. I am reading a very good book on the subject. I go out. I hang out with my friend. I go to the dog park and meet people there, etc.. I know you mean well. So yes, to answer you, I am working on myself. I am split between my desire to share my life, and processing my break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Natsume21 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Of course you're still hung on the ex!!! It's only been 5 weeks!?!? Have you taken any time to reflect, heal and grow from that RS??? I'm sure there were some lessons there for you. But if you just jump into something else now, they will be lost... Why are people so against being solo for more than a couple days/weeks??? ^That's what rebounds are for. Seems like in general, females are more prone to do it than guys are. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 I am split between my desire to share my life, and processing my break up. IMO - Cant do the first without doing the second beforehand... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snappytomcat Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 im happy for you kali,just have fun,it might lead somewhere,and it might not,but sounds like your having a good time,and that's what matters 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 Remember how I said I lived in a country town in Alabama? Well I live in a somewhat "racist" and traditionalist town(this much I do know) with only 1,000 people, living 50 miles from the nearest city. Guys here don't have much of a choice in women. They are either "redneck" or "ghetto" and the majority of them are big women. Just picture the Beverly Hillbillies and the Dukes of Hazzard with smartphones and that's my town in a nutshell Big women get dates easily here cause that's all guys can get here. I hate this small town, honestly. Damn..maybe I should move to a small town. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 No dating no. I kinda am reaching out to someone, but I don't think it's fair for me to do so. I don't know.. I want to. I don't want to.. I want to share my life with someone, yet I'm still hung on the ex. Sunday it's going to be 5 weeks. I used to ride horses. We all know the "get back on the horse.." I'll tell you what happened to me once. I was about 15 or so. I was riding and the dam horse kicked me off the saddle. I fell on my back, on a bed of small rocks. The girl that was with me was telling to get back on the horse immediately. I had to explain to her I wasn't scared, my dam back hurt like hell and to give me a DAM MINUTE! That's how I feel about dating atm.. I want to.. but I just got my butt kicked by a fall You take your time and do what you need to do. It sounds like you're on the right path. I rode horses for 10 years..I miss it like crazy! My first time on a horse, when I was 5, they hadn't taught me how to fall yet..my horse decided to take off..then he bucked me over his head and I grabbed on and dislocated my shoulder. It took a couple of weeks before I could get back on. No pressure. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You take your time and do what you need to do. It sounds like you're on the right path. I rode horses for 10 years..I miss it like crazy! My first time on a horse, when I was 5, they hadn't taught me how to fall yet..my horse decided to take off..then he bucked me over his head and I grabbed on and dislocated my shoulder. It took a couple of weeks before I could get back on. No pressure. did you just make a euphemism about horse riding? Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 did you just make a euphemism about horse riding? Yup..go ahead..say it. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Yup..go ahead..say it. i'm far too proper and shy to say something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 i'm far too proper and shy to say something like that. You realize that it's a true story, and that I was 5 years old when that happened, right? So...not sure what you're trying to say here... Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 You realize that it's a true story, and that I was 5 years old when that happened, right? So...not sure what you're trying to say here... hahah yes yes. it was just opportunistic! my new fave girl is a horse lover as well. sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KaliLove Posted May 15, 2014 Author Share Posted May 15, 2014 hahah yes yes. it was just opportunistic! my new fave girl is a horse lover as well. sigh. New fave girl?? What new fave girl? Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 New fave girl?? What new fave girl? oh man. i met a girl when i was out of town, in chicago, and she's from michigan. 36 hours together and a whirlwind of crazy...fate. crazy tugs at the soul-strings that are totally illogical but felt a little perfect, yaknow? but...bad timing. 15 hours away as well, so not really sure what will come of it. i'm fine being single, i only wait for "perfection". i've waited two years, so i'll wait longer to find the right person if need be. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Would you date a girl who was taller than you? Would any of the guys here do that? Ladies..would you date a shorter dude? I'm lucky if I reach 5'1 so NO. lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) Sorry, did the quote wrong! Edited May 15, 2014 by jbelle6 Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Height has no relevance to who I would date. Weight does. Link to post Share on other sites
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