browneyes22 Posted February 8, 2005 Share Posted February 8, 2005 Ladies...I'll need your advice on this one. Every so often when I am at a bar or club I seem to attract the attention of some females. My question is, when I see a girl lookin' my way how do I know when it's ok to go up and initiate a conversation with her and her friends? I would like to talk to some people other than my friends when I'm out. And i'm not really looking for anything major, just to have some fun (good conversatoin, laughs, etc.). It's just, I don't know if or when it's proper to go up and initiate some conversation. It would be nice to actually talk to these girls rather than exchange glances for the whole night. Also, do you like guys coming up to you out of the blue in a bar or club? If so, what makes you confortable in talking with them? I generally don't like approaching women out of the blue for fear that they may be annoyed. Is this true? Link to post Share on other sites
P1xie Posted February 8, 2005 Share Posted February 8, 2005 Go up and just say hello. When you are in a bar or club you expect to be approached. The only time when I get annoyed is when I'm deep in conversation with a friend and a guy comes up and interrupts us. But if there is real eye contact and acknowledgement (nod, smile whatever) by all means go up and say hello. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted February 8, 2005 Share Posted February 8, 2005 A couple of things.. One night I was at a club with some of my GF's.. we were drinking/dancing and this amazing looking guy walked over to me and said "I just had to come and tell you that you look amazing.. Sorry it took me so long to find the courage to talk to you my name is Brandon" I was like >> completely blown away that HE FELT he needed to work up the courage.. which goes to show.. people often view themselves differently then you may percieve them.. he came across as sincere, friendly, and polite Although I hadn't seen him before he saw me.. he still came and talked to me anyway and that was with zero indication that I might be interested.. confidence is very attractive. My BF.. I met him in a club a few months ago.. again I was out with my GF's drinking/dancing and actually my GF's noticed that he (my BF) had been watching me all night.. looking my way etc.. but I hadn't noticed him LOL I was getting my drink on with my girls ya know? Anyway.. my girls pointed him out to me but by the time I saw him, he was walking the other way with one of his friends.. so I went over to him and asked him to come dance with me.. funny to me.. he asked me my name, told me his.. then told me he had been watching me all night.. when I asked him why he hadn't come to talk to me.. he said he was going to.. LOL I think he's full of sh*t.. because he's actually very shy.. but none the less.. he had made my GF's at least aware of his interest in me.. and it worked out. Where am I going with this.. LOL When you see someone you have an interest in.. talk to them.. be sincere and polite. If she's about it.. good to go.. if she's not.. her loss move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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