Women: I would date a man up to _____ years younger than me.

[Armegoggon]

Men: I would date a woman up to _____ years older than me.

 

If you don't have a positive number, then just say something like "I prefer older man/younger woman".

 

State your reasoning. Casual sex reasons should be excluded.

 

Me: I would date a woman up to 12 years older than me.

[michellew]

I would date a man up to 5 years younger than me.

[somedude81]

Interesting thread.

 

Posting your age could help. Or at least something like, mid 30's.

[Candy_Pants]

OP is 18.

 

My husband is 3 hours older. That's what I prefer.

[Potz4prez]

Currently 24... I'd date a girl 5-6 years older than me. After 30, I feel like that's a whole 'nother demographic.

[somedude81]

I'm 32 and generally prefer younger women.

[michellew]

Interesting thread.

 

Posting your age could help. Or at least something like, mid 30's.

 

I am 35 and would date a man up to 5 years younger (and 10 years older).

[Lixxy]

I am 27. I would date a man 7 years younger than me.

[Els]

I'm mid-late 20s. I'd be unlikely to go younger, but might consider it if he was extraordinarily mature, established, and interested in commitment for a man of that age (given that I'm not interested in anything except LTRs with a potential for marriage in the future).

 

My SO is the same age, which is great (although he too was extraordinarily mature for a 21 yo, which is when we got together ).

[Candy_Pants]

I'm mid-late 20s. I'd be unlikely to go younger, but might consider it if he was extraordinarily mature, established, and interested in commitment for a man of that age (given that I'm not interested in anything except LTRs with a potential for marriage in the future).

 

My SO is the same age, which is great (although he too was extraordinarily mature for a 21 yo, which is when we got together ).

 

Would you say you're "dating for marriage"?

[todreaminblue]

like elswyth maturity levels would worry me going much younger....i only want t be in a serious committed relationship and i date accordingly..........i have known older guys though with that problem so at 45 i am more likely to go by ideals values and goals out of life than an age number......when i was 19 i dated a forty something......i have or had no interest then or now in dating boys.....or men who behave like boys.....i end up mothering them....i am a mother to too many boys biologically and emotionally mothering non related boys who should be men...which is me enabling them i guess........dont need or want more .......deb

[MidwestUSA]

IF I were dating, I'd go ten years younger, and 'maybe' ten years older.

 

When I first saw a pic of my husband, I thought 'wow, he can't be older than 39. Maybe if he were 40'. Turns out he was 45, so all was well, and we met. (I was 50)

[Els]

Would you say you're "dating for marriage"?

 

I suppose I could say so, although I usually associate that term with people who have hard deadlines (say, marriage within 2 yrs, etc), which isn't the case for me. I'd say I'm more focused on 'dating for LTRs', though it does need to have the potential of progressing to marriage when we're ready. I think someone here once used the term 'terminal relationships'. I like that.

 

like elswyth maturity levels would worry me going much younger....i only want t be in a serious committed relationship and i date accordingly..........i have known older guys though with that problem so at 45 i am more likely to go by ideals values and goals out of life than an age number

 

Yep, ditto!

[jonsnuh]

5 years younger, because girls 18 or 19 are probably still experimenting.

5 years older because I really haven't dated women beyond that age.

[d0nnivain]

I always dated older men. When I was younger, they were more mature & more stable. My husband is 5 years younger than me. Go figure.

[iris219]

In my 20s, I wouldn't have dated a younger man.

 

Now that I'm in my 30s, I'd consider going 5 years younger, though I'd prefer someone a few years older. My FI is a year younger and it's the first time I've dated anyone younger.

[Armegoggon]

Back when I was 14 or 15, I dreamed of getting a woman from 18 up until their early 20s. So it was like 18-24 back then. I mean seriously, I know I was a teen but at the same time, I hated the way how others acted in high school.

[readynow]

I'm mid-late 30s and would date a man from 2yrs older to 20yrs older.

 

I could never date younger.

[Bruce Leigh]

38 here and 5-7 years in either direction.

But its not as black and white as that. Depends on how the people involved looked after themselves.

[Damaged217]

I'm 30 and only had 1 boyfriend that was the same age as myself. I usually tend to date younger (2-3 years, but would consider 5) because I tend to have more in common with younger guys. And guys my age aren't necessarily more mature in my area. So if I'm going to date an immature guy, regardless, he may as well be younger

[dragon_fly_7]

Me (27 years old): I would date a man up to 3-4 years younger than me. Though, I tend to go with ones closer within my age range.

 

I sure don't want a 40 year-old.

[kaylan]

Im a dude....for a relationship I prefer a woman my age or at most 3 years younger. Im 27 btw. Women older than me tend to want different things at the moment.

 

For casual dating I prefer 22 to 45.

[Phoe]

As of right now - 4 years younger. I am 25, less than 21 would be more convenient due to legal drinking age. I rarely drink, but being unable to go out with the bf would not be preferred.

 

If I were older? Say in my 40's or 50's? I could easily do 10 years younger.

[TAV]

I'm in my 40s and would not date anyone younger than 40 because in my experience men take longer to mature than women and I have no energy to deal with that (again).

 

My bf is 1 yr older than me and is perfect for me.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I really hate stating preferences only because whenever I have, particularly regarding men and dating post divorce, they have always been blown out of the water.

 

Regardless, I'm 45 and am in a LTR with a man who is 13 years younger than me.

 

IF I were back on the market again and had to fill out my age range preference on an OLD site, I would (and have) put down 35 - 48. That is NOT to say I wouldn't consider men outside that range (and I have many times) but that seems to be a respectable spread I think. I do tend to gravitate more to younger men (not hard when you're my age) mainly because I have a very high sex drive and want and need someone who can keep up with me, especially having come out of a very long and sexless marriage.

 

Having said all of that, at this point in my life I'm not interested in doing the whole marriage thing a second time around (or at least it isn't a high priority anymore - been there and done that!), BUT I am VERY interested in a loving, monogamous and committed LTR and everything that goes with that.