Frank85 Posted May 10, 2014 Share Posted May 10, 2014 Dear All A colleague has joined my workplace as a temp. and will be leaving soon. She has a boyfriend and has only mentioned him twice in my presence. When she first joined she was really quiet but really opened up and flirted with me. Generally, I noticed her interest when she began touching my arm when I was sitting next to her and does it a few times since; she calls me cute and says I have a nice aura; she says she misses me sometimes and will miss me when she leaves; and she keeps saying im really funny even when im not and just being me (though she is a giggly person in general and laughs at other peoples jokes). In particular, I have not noticed her making much eye contact from across the room but when we do look at each other, her facial expression suggests shes happy to see me - her face lights up, her eyes open up, she smiles in a coy manner. She also said to me "you wana hear something interesting?" and then I responded, she replied "oh, leave it. don't worry about it". For the past few weeks, she has been going on and on about taking a picture of me so she can keep it as a memory. However, her friend told me that she does not like me and is loyal to her bf. But this friend has teased us that my colleague likes me in front of us both. I wont get involved with her while she is with her bf so I wont get any closer to her but I am so confused! I don't feel like talking to her about my feelings coz I think I could be adding fuel to the awkward fire. She is generally a nice girl and I receive much affection from women in general so I know the difference between affection and interest but it seems she does like me. I just want to know what her game is. Can anyone help? I would really appreciate your responses Thank you... Link to post Share on other sites
Lucygolds Posted May 10, 2014 Share Posted May 10, 2014 Dude, tell her how you feel. Give her your number and tell her if she ever finds herself single to give you a call. If she shoots you down then you know. Who knows maybe she will brake up with her boyfriend for you. If you do nothing you wonder forever. Life is to short...... Link to post Share on other sites
EnderA Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Are you single? If so, is this forum the correct place for this? If you are single and she has a boyfriend, I guess you can go for it. Are you requesting permission? Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 I don't see game. She sees you as a safe bet. Flirt, tease you, and be gone in a couple of months. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 She's got a boyfriend. What is there to be confused about? Go get your own girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fellini Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 She's got a boyfriend. What is there to be confused about? Go get your own girl. Sounds like the OP wasn't interested in her until she showed interest in him. I guess it's easier to have relationships with women if the hard work of getting to know them, finding out if they are a good match for you, etc. is taken care of. I thought only teenage boys got involved with girls just because "she said she liked me", so...... I must like her too? Link to post Share on other sites
Decipleoflove Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Sounds like the OP wasn't interested in her until she showed interest in him. I guess it's easier to have relationships with women if the hard work of getting to know them, finding out if they are a good match for you, etc. is taken care of. I thought only teenage boys got involved with girls just because "she said she liked me", so...... I must like her too? haha sometimes man do become little boys when a cute pretty girl is throwing avances to you...(doing all the work, make it easy for you).... to OP....i've been walking in your shoes (read my story)....im recovering, actually i'm back to my ownself now. GL with your journey! you will learn alot about yourself and relationships, so there is something positive you get out of this experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted May 11, 2014 Share Posted May 11, 2014 Sounds like the OP wasn't interested in her until she showed interest in him. I guess it's easier to have relationships with women if the hard work of getting to know them, finding out if they are a good match for you, etc. is taken care of. I thought only teenage boys got involved with girls just because "she said she liked me", so...... I must like her too? It's exactly why I said he should go and find his own girl. It's literally the first women that shows any positive sign and he's catching feelings. And you're spot on, he literally had to do zero work, she sort of kind of came on to him and he's declaring feelings! Sheesh 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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