Author DesignerGal87 Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 But I don't understand WHY he is doing this.. Why the push pull? Link to post Share on other sites
johnson_j Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 But I don't understand WHY he is doing this.. Why the push pull? Because he doesn't know if he wants you back or not, he's just assessing whether there is potential there. I'd guess he wants to pick between a couple of girls. This is why absent a major "I love you and want to work it out with only you" it's best to ignore breadcrumbs. Link to post Share on other sites
brakco Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 I have not read all of this thread but I will tell you I would never have anything to do with someone who "prayed to God I would die in a car accident". That is truly terrible. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 But I don't understand WHY he is doing this.. Why the push pull? Who cares? All you need to know is that he's not behaving like someone who loves you or wants to be with you right now. That should be enough. Link to post Share on other sites
seekingpeaceinlove Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) I think your ex is having the biggest battle with himself right now. He's well aware that you're open to reconciling but he is going back and forth on whether he wants to be with you again. It seems he's holding a ton of resentment towards you from the past and also from the break up. I think he's angry & confused with himself and is projecting on you. With that said, the way he is treating you now is inexcusable. You should not tolerate verbal abuse from him no matter how guilty you feel about the past. You should be proud of the changes you've made in your life thus far and the fact that you are fully aware of your part in the demise of your relationship. Do not let you ex degrade you. Yes, his words are coming from a place of anger and hurt, but it is not your responsibility to resolve this issue for him. He must own his feelings and his behavior. You've already admitted your contribution to the downfall of the relationship and hopefully apologized for the things you've done wrong. If you've told him to stop with the abusive language and he continues, you must block him and go NC. Your ex needs to sort himself out...let him. Focus on yourself and staying sober. I just can't understand the push- pull and the games.... He begged for over a month... I give an inch and he tells me he can't be with me... Then tells me he is going to call and doesn't I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND Edited May 12, 2014 by seekingpeaceinlove Link to post Share on other sites
Author DesignerGal87 Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 Because he doesn't know if he wants you back or not, he's just assessing whether there is potential there. I'd guess he wants to pick between a couple of girls. This is why absent a major "I love you and want to work it out with only you" it's best to ignore breadcrumbs. That's the problem... He HAS said that to me... Verbatim I truthfully believed this last stint of begging was serious and genuine, which is why I chose to budge. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 But now that you know it wasn't genuine, you should unbudge..don't you think? He needs to sort his sh*t out but in the meantime he cannot speak to you the way he has been, and you need to let him know that asap or he's going to walk all over you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DesignerGal87 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Share Posted May 13, 2014 But now that you know it wasn't genuine, you should unbudge..don't you think? He needs to sort his sh*t out but in the meantime he cannot speak to you the way he has been, and you need to let him know that asap or he's going to walk all over you. The conversations that took place between Thursday and yesterday were not filled with anger (for the first time in three months) That's why I believed they were genuine Link to post Share on other sites
Author DesignerGal87 Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 I made it through the day in relatively okay spirits... But now I'm feeling really sad... I can't stop picturing our memories. I work half the month in our hometown and half 2,000 miles away... I'm leaving next Monday and I'm struggling with not showing up someplace to talk to him (since he won't see me saying "it's too hard") I feel like there are so many things I need to say to him that I haven't... Why am I feeling this horrible... It's literally eating away at me. Link to post Share on other sites
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