he's blocked me :(

[Zahara]

Men that love CRAZY are crazeee themselves!

[MidwestUSA]

I say keep it up! It's been proven time & time again...

 

Men LOVE CRAZY!

 

Yep. There are a few guys on this forum as evidence of that!

[irresolute]

I do think he likes crazy. Each time I go crazy, he seems to like it, because it gives him power. and he likes to be in control.

 

All the time he talks about his crazy ex, and other crazy gf, but somehow, I can infer he likes being chased and wanted, and play this kind of games.

 

I also know his mom was crazy as well. I've seen a couple pics of his dad that his mom cut and broke because she was mad. his mom also cut some of his pics because she didn't like some of his friends. how awckward is that?

[2sunny]

I just feel very heartbroken. I also feel stupid, me texting him to later realize he wasn't getting any of those texts. He should have said "it's over" instead of just blocking me. Why would he did something like that?

 

I need an explanation, though I know he doesn't want to talk to me anymore

 

You don't need any explanation!

 

You know what you did - he didn't appreciate it - now it is over!

 

That explains everything!

 

Move forward - and next time consider the other persons feelings!

 

 

He was SICK and YOU were selfish - that's all you need to understand.

 

Change your selfish tendencies in the future.

[ExpatInItaly]

I do think he likes crazy. Each time I go crazy, he seems to like it, because it gives him power. and he likes to be in control.

 

All the time he talks about his crazy ex, and other crazy gf, but somehow, I can infer he likes being chased and wanted, and play this kind of games.

 

I also know his mom was crazy as well. I've seen a couple pics of his dad that his mom cut and broke because she was mad. his mom also cut some of his pics because she didn't like some of his friends. how awckward is that?

 

You realize this isn't necessarily a good thing, no? It's not exactly conducive to a healthy, balanced relationship. But then again, as you said, things are very casual and he owes you nothing. Is that okay for you, though, OP? I sense you want more than he is willing to give.

[irresolute]

I'm ok with him being the way he is. I'm not perfect either. However sometimes I'd like him to show my he cares for me or that he likes me. Yesterday he was surprised I'm still talking to him because I have so many other men wanting my attention.

I don't know. I wish we could relax and enjoy but neither of us is un a healthy position. And i always end asking him more.

 

I'm so sure he's not contacting me again unless I do... and if I don't cobtact for Fridays date he will just assume I'm not interested anymore. Either way if I contact him asking if we are still up for Friday he'll probably flake. I know him so well-

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm ok with him being the way he is. I'm not perfect either. However sometimes I'd like him to show my he cares for me or that he likes me. Yesterday he was surprised I'm still talking to him because I have so many other men wanting my attention.

I don't know. I wish we could relax and enjoy but neither of us is un a healthy position. And i always end asking him more.

 

I'm so sure he's not contacting me again unless I do... and if I don't cobtact for Fridays date he will just assume I'm not interested anymore. Either way if I contact him asking if we are still up for Friday he'll probably flake. I know him so well-

 

Is he dating other people?

[irresolute]

Probably. I don't know.

I know him and he will cancel or just ignore me. I'll ask him on Thursday though if we are still up for our date. At least he'll feel bad when he cancels. If i dont ask him he'll probably assume i dont care so he won't feel guilty.

[ExpatInItaly]

Probably. I don't know.

I know him and he will cancel or just ignore me. I'll ask him on Thursday though if we are still up for our date. At least he'll feel bad when he cancels. If i dont ask him he'll probably assume i dont care so he won't feel guilty.

 

So...why exactly are you wasting your time with this guy?

[irresolute]

honestly? I don't know. He's not that interesting after all. I thought he was a super model with all the women chasing him, and that he had this so interesting life full of thrill and adventures, and that he was going somehow to make happy...some day.

 

But you know what? He's almost 45, he has a boring job, no college, no hobbies that I know, he's pretty boring and predictable sexually to be honest. He does nothing out of the ordinary! his kisses are without substance, and when he laughs he seems creepy.

We had a date two weeks ago, and I thought wow, my best date ever! Because he's so easy going and blah, but I can find another easy going guy who's not that problematic and who'll make me feel incredible, right? He's not that exceptional after all.

 

so yeah, no idea why I wasted so much time trying to make him to love me when it's blatantly obvious he's just NOT INTERESTED.

 

Blah

Edited May 13, 2014 by irresolute

[MissBee]

I did not get around to this thread soon enough.

 

Was your only indication that he "blocked" that your messages didn't say "delivered"? I'm assuming you have an iPhone, and while I don't know your service provider, I can tell you that there has been many times my texts haven't said delivered but I got a response anyway. Assuming however they really weren't delivered, his phone could of run out of battery, the network could have gotten hung up (which I can tell you from experience happens more often than you think)...I doubt he actually blocked you.

 

Hope you weren't super invested in this guy, cause honestly you probably look like you took a trip to crazy town, and after the previous incident, I can't see you making a graceful comeback from this one. Lessons learned.

 

Exactly.

 

I read the initial post and was confused about how that means you're blocked. A message not being delivered I would assume is a network issue and not a blocking issue...but your assumption that you were blocked and then going on to send incessant messages doesn't look good for you and I think you may want to cut your losses with this guy and in the future find a way to control this kind of behavior as MOST people will grow weary of you behaving like this.

 

Side note: another reason I dislike texting as primary communication, as there are so many ways where you can miscommunicate, i.e messages not going through and then making wild assumptions because of a non-response when maybe it's just the network, and equally, people actually ignoring your messages but pretending they have network issues, but you can't verify....so I just pick up the phone esp if it's important as it's a lot clearer with phone calls if you've been blocked, are being ignored etc.

[2sunny]

Please don't ever think a man is supposed to make you happy.

 

Happiness comes from yourself/from within.

 

If you don't feel happy on your own - then what in the heck are you offering to anyone you date - an unhappy person? Being happy is your own responsibility.

 

Like energy attracts. He may be as unhappy on his own too.

 

Work on being the best you can be.

[Leigh 87]

This is really sad..

 

There are men who would be super excited about dating you!

 

You don't even have to "try" to make a man love you. You should have to bend over backwards just to get a guys attention:(

 

You can find a man who is really into you and who makes you feel like he doesn't WANT to go out and date other women.

 

You are acting desperate.

 

I mean, I am nothing special to look at but I whole heartedly believe that there are men out there who would be thrilled to date me and who would fall in love with me without me without any major issues.

 

You need to develop a higher sense of self worth. You can get he guys who WANT to date you and who are super into you, opposed to guys like THIS toad who frankly, don't seem to like you very much.

[David87]

Stop wasting time with this guy, he's not that into you.

[sagetalk]

honestly? I don't know.

 

I do, you like him because he isn't interested in you. There is definitly some low self esteem issues going on with you. To improve, try dating men who are going after you, not you them.

 

You have all these other guys that are interested, yet you are wasting your time with this guy because he validates the low self esteem you have.

 

Please do not be like an average girl who wants men that do not want her or men that treat her poorly, be exceptional. Go after men that want you, not men that do not.

Edited May 13, 2014 by sagetalk

[irresolute]

Thank you all for the feedback.

 

I really appreciate it.

 

He set a date with me for friday. I'm excited because I like this guy. We are both broken in some ways. We have a history of abuse so it's not easy to connect.

 

I'm excited. And fearful someThing will happen Friday that we cannot meet

[Leigh 87]

Thank you all for the feedback.

 

I really appreciate it.

 

He set a date with me for friday. I'm excited because I like this guy. We are both broken in some ways. We have a history of abuse so it's not easy to connect.

 

I'm excited. And fearful someThing will happen Friday that we cannot meet

 

 

so you ignore oour advice !

 

The guys IS NOT into you.

 

The way he has acted towards you so far shows very clearly that he is NOT into you.

 

Why are you allowing yourself to go on dates with guys who clearly aren't as into you as you are into them?

 

This is really unhealthy and you are making your issues surrounding your past abuse worseby aaccepting dates with men who could take you or leave you.

 

This is really sad.... This guys wouldn't care less if you dropped off the face of the planet.

 

Why can't you get it through your head that you should onl date men who show a genuine interest in you?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Ugh. Another advice seeker that doesn't seem take advice. Why do we even bother?

 

Good luck sweets. I think you both are going to need it.

[okc85]

Don't see him.

 

I spent so long chasing after people that clearly were not that into me. Where did it get me? Just constant heartbreak.

 

And I would do stupid stuff like you did. Text them ridiculous stuff during high anxiety moments, etc. It's not worth it. Life is so short, and there are SO many people in this world. Your addiction to this guy will fade once you give yourself space and heal.

 

I think you have no idea what it would feel like to be happy with someone. You probably think you don't deserve it. But you do.

[ExpatInItaly]

Thank you all for the feedback.

 

I really appreciate it.

 

He set a date with me for friday. I'm excited because I like this guy. We are both broken in some ways. We have a history of abuse so it's not easy to connect.

 

I'm excited. And fearful someThing will happen Friday that we cannot meet

 

Ugh, why? You are in for a world of heartache with this person. You are both too old to be behaving like this, in my opinion. Abuse or broken or not, he is not treating you well. You have no boundaries and he knows that. Sad.

[johnpatric]

Well you should make a call and confirm it why he is behaving like this and why he blocked you.. and one more thing i understand your feelings but if he doesn't like to talk with you then you can't force him to talk with you. sorry to say you but I think you should have to move on he is not interested in you..

[2sunny]

honestly? I don't know. He's not that interesting after all. I thought he was a super model with all the women chasing him, and that he had this so interesting life full of thrill and adventures, and that he was going somehow to make happy...some day.

 

But you know what? He's almost 45, he has a boring job, no college, no hobbies that I know, he's pretty boring and predictable sexually to be honest. He does nothing out of the ordinary! his kisses are without substance, and when he laughs he seems creepy.

We had a date two weeks ago, and I thought wow, my best date ever! Because he's so easy going and blah, but I can find another easy going guy who's not that problematic and who'll make me feel incredible, right? He's not that exceptional after all.

 

so yeah, no idea why I wasted so much time trying to make him to love me when it's blatantly obvious he's just NOT INTERESTED.

 

Blah

 

Thank you all for the feedback.

 

I really appreciate it.

 

He set a date with me for friday. I'm excited because I like this guy. We are both broken in some ways. We have a history of abuse so it's not easy to connect.

 

I'm excited. And fearful someThing will happen Friday that we cannot meet

 

You described him in such a piss poor way - then you're excited to go on a date with him?

 

Why are you wasting your time - and his?

[TigerLilly78]

I skimmed thu the 1st 2 pages of this thread its like watching good gory horror movie you know its going to only get worse yet you just cant stop looking LMAO..

[TigerLilly78]

You described him in such a piss poor way - then you're excited to go on a date with him?

 

Why are you wasting your time - and his?

 

 

My guess she bashed him cause she thought he wasn't interested enough to her it was resentment speaking not her true feelings for him. I thought these two were much younger I saw he's in his mid 40s so im guessing she's near there as well? to me its odd behavior for that age range but eh who knows..*grabs popcorn* ...

[Assasda]

I wonder if that poor guy has got the full dose of just how crazy she is?