ayala Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 Hi, so I have low self esteem, little self respect and sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is better off without me or that he doesn't love me even if he says he does. I work out regularly, volunteer, go to school, and have my own hobbies - a few hobbies shared with him- but I feel like nothing is good enough for him. He can be really distant but I think it's because he's so stressed to forget about his nagging family that he doesn't think to pick up the phone. I feel this is so because I've done the same thing. Either that or he's too engrossed with his games to notice me. (Or he's vying for another girl, I don't know) What can I do to improve my self esteem, confidence and self respect to the point he'll try harder to be with me and so I don't have to worry about being a burden on him? I want to be able to feel sexy just being alone in my room and to feel like I can just walk into the same room as him and he'll want to be all over me haha. I want him to be proud of me and make him want me more. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 Counseling may help. Read some self help books if you can't afford the counseling. Try affirmations. Start by free thinking. Write a list of every good quality about yourself from the profound ones like you are a good friend to the silly ones like you can boil water. You must write for at least 1 hour or until you get 100 things, which ever is longer. Put your list away. Take it out a week later & whittle it down to the 50 best things. Put it away. Take it out after another week, re-read it then whittle it down to 25 things. Put it away. Then get it to the 10 best things about you. Type it neatly. Read it aloud every morning when you wake up & every night before you go to bed. When you think negative thoughts -- like your BF would be better off with out you-- replace the bad thoughts with a good one from your list. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) Find something to be cocky about and start thinking your the sh*t. A lot girls post selfies on facebook because they like all the attention they get. I can't believe I just gave someone that advice. Edited May 12, 2014 by jay1983 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ayala Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 I've never been the type of person to take selfies for the attention but maybe I could start sending more to my boyfriend. I'm not sure how to be cocky since I always focus on the fact there'll always be someone better lol I tried the list and counseling before but I always ended up giving up but I could try again now that I have more motivation to improve myself. I'm just tired of letting myself victimize myself and feeling sorry. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
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