jordanr1994 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 So ive been trawling through LS and toher similar forums and noticed something and was wondering if anybody else has noticed it. There are so many posts with "ive just been dumped by my partner and they have returned to their ex" Now im not trying to give false hope to dumpees, but surely if they saw this then they would realise that yes it is possible to reconcile with the an ex. I know most posters advice the dumpee to move on because he/she wont come back. Which i partly agree with, its important to move on and become a better person for yourself. But to outright say they never return or there is no hope, is just not true. There are hundreds of posts saying the exact same thing. WItha wide range of situations, Guy being the dumper and coming back. Girl being the dumper and returning. It happens. Ive only just noticed this today. Just suddenly hit me the amount of people saying they have gone back to their ex. Link to post Share on other sites
FredJones80 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 I'm sure someone not too far away from this text said this in another thread about an hour ago 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jordanr1994 Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 I saw fred! Did i not post on the thread also? Its so weird how we both noticed this at the same time I though it deserved a thread all to its self! Would you like your name in the title? Maybe take out a patent? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FredJones80 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 Would you like your name in the title? Maybe take out a patent? Cheeky young whipper snapper Yes, its odd we did, but true none the less Link to post Share on other sites
Jiivy Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 I've spent months reading these forums obsessively. LS, ENA, you name it - I've read it. There's a thread some 140 pages + long on ENA about crazy reconciliations where couples reuinte out of the blue months/years/decades after a split with everything between no relationships to marriage+children between. YES, reconciliations absolutely do happen. And you know what? they don't happen too. There is absolutely hope for it, but at what cost? I straddle the line between living in a fantasy world where my ex fiancée dumps the man she left me for, and the real life melting away in front my eyes right here right now. Don't let anyone tell you reconciliation's never possible. Just don't let it EVER prevent you from moving forwards - that to me is most dangerous drug. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jordanr1994 Posted May 12, 2014 Author Share Posted May 12, 2014 very well put jivvy! Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 Yeah, the false hope is the silent killer here. Link to post Share on other sites
Romaks Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 Well, just like the saying, you're supposed to prepare for the worst. The idea is that if and when your EX does come back, you've become a person that he/she wants to come back to. This means you are getting over them, and are not going to be pining over your past together. This is the difference between reconciling or starting a new relationship with the same person altogether. You definitely want the latter. From my experience, I had a pretty shocking reconciliation (please read my threads) where my ex said things I literally dreamed of her saying. I thought it was a sure thing, but guess what, we have broken up once again - and much the same way. It seems more permanent now, but take one piece of advice from me: it's not over between two people until one of you dies. I could see myself running into her like 5-7 years from now, and hitting it off, but I can't possibly expect it, so I just move on as best as I can until someone special comes along...and who knows it could be 'her' if it's meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 I understand some people get back with exes after time apart......at one stage i thought i was going to try and reconcile with the father of my girls, the reason being i couldn't imagine loving another or giving my heart to someone else seemed alien to me.......and then i met someone who changed my mind......i met me......i gave my heart back to me........for after all i deserve to own it, no one else........especially not a previous relationship ......i wouldnt ever be able move forward.......i am friends with everyone i have ever gone out with......or i have loved...love doesn't die for me, it just morphs into what it needs to be for me to move forward........ if i give my heart again .....it would not be for any guy in my past who took my heart for granted not one guy i have dated or had long term relationships deserves to be with me again....and no i am not up myself.............i have enough battle scars physical and emotional...i dont think walking backwards is a very smart thing to do...not for me anyway......deb Link to post Share on other sites
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