Lyn77 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) How do you deal with unrequited love from your best guy friend? Has anyone gone through this? How do you move on from someone who was such a good friend and lover? I've had heartbreak before, but this is different. Never have I been rejected by someone stating I am "too good for him"...doesn't make any sense. I am trying to move on and let him go, but it tears me up every single day. It's scary to think of never talking to him again and sharing memories. I really want to wish him well and send positive thoughts his way, but how do I do that when my own heart is breaking? Edited May 12, 2014 by Lyn77 Link to post Share on other sites
shinealight Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 The best thing to do is block that person out of your'e life, just try your'e best to ignore that person aswel for a while. Trust me it is hard when you like your'e best friend because if you still want to be friends with that person it's heartbreaking trying to get over that person and still be friends with that person. But trust me you will get there and you will move on and find someone that will want to be with you. All I did was cope and my situation I could not block the person out of life like you can. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fifipheebs Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 How do you deal with unrequited love from your best guy friend? Has anyone gone through this? How do you move on from someone who was such a good friend and lover? I've had heartbreak before, but this is different. Never have I been rejected by someone stating I am "too good for him"...doesn't make any sense. I am trying to move on and let him go, but it tears me up every single day. It's scary to think of never talking to him again and sharing memories. I really want to wish him well and send positive thoughts his way, but how do I do that when my own heart is breaking? im in same situation. some people told me to never initiate contact anymore. if it was meant to be us together, he will miss you and come back and ask what is wrong. if he does not care, it will make it much easier to forget him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
eleve82 Posted May 12, 2014 Share Posted May 12, 2014 the best thing I can recommend is for you to just get out there and start dating other guys. You need to move on.. or at least make him realise what you mean to him. You may meet someone else you really like who is actually interested in you. I hope you'll try this and let us know how it goes! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lyn77 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Share Posted May 13, 2014 Block him out of my life. Don't initiate contact. Start dating other guys. Thanks for your advice! These are things I know I have to do, but somehow need to gain the strength. I'm glad I at least told him how I really feel, even if I now feel foolish. Link to post Share on other sites
eleve82 Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Lyn77, I don't think you actually need to block him out of your life if you start taking steps to meet other people. The outcome can only be in your best interest - sometimes people only start paying attention when they realise they are afraid of losing you more than they are afraid of committing to you Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 "Too Good" is a nice thing to say when you feel badly about the fact that you don't want a relationship with someone. So it does make sense; the guy doesn't have feelings for you "like that" and he's trying to find a nice way to word it so you don't take it personally. I'm sorry you're dealing with that sting of rejection But, a brighter day is going to come when it heals. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Sorry to hear it, that is a painful situation. You need to look after yourself now. Someone can seem perfect for you but they are not if they are not as enthusiastic as you are. Strangely enough, being less enthusiastic and making a separate life for yourself is not what some guys expect. Showing less interest and meeting others can sometimes precipitate feelings that weren't there before, but please don't work on that basis. You deserve someone who loves you from the start, not this guy who is not really there for you. xx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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