do you believe in destiny?

[flitzanu]

i don't see this question on the first three pages, though i'm sure it's been asked before.

 

just been curious lately what "the world" thinks about destiny, fate, "the one", true soulmates, love at first sight...etc.

 

ready, go.

[halfcrazed_i]

I don't discount any of them... But I don't hinge any of my personal beliefs on them.

 

I do, however, believe that everything happens for a reason. Does that count as believing in destiny? I don't believe that there is only one other person out there meant to be with me. I believe that there are a few people whom I can be with -- it's just about finding who they are.

 

The world is too big to believe in that "only one other person meant for you" thing. I mean, what are the chances that this one other person lives within the same vicinity as me? If not, am I doomed?

 

I guess my beliefs get molded depending on what makes sense to me...

 

Love at first sight? Meh. I'm sure it works for some people. Never for me. I believe in love growing between two people and nurturing it. I believe that people can learn to love someone (not a bad thing, really). And that people can fall in love in time. It doesn't always have to be some cosmic phenomenon...

 

I guess as I get older, my "views" on love becomes more pragmatic. I mean, I definitely didn't think like this when I was 22. But hey, that's how life is supposed to be right? You live, you learn.

[amaysngrace]

I believe in it. I've felt love at first sight and I have a soul mate too. My soul mate and I kept bumping into each other which was really odd because we never saw each other before and we live just a few blocks apart.

 

We even had the same dream the same night but he was at his house and I was at mine.

 

He's my best friend and knows me better than anyone in the world. And he is the best sex of my life.

 

So it really seems like we were suppose to meet

[todreaminblue]

I believe that only god knows, that its gods design to put people in your life, lovers friends husbands wives family children......even strangers who might need you to help them.......i found a stranger every 50 metres yesterday to help me get to where i needed to go because i get lost quite easily.......every signle oen fo them had a laugh with me......thats pretty cool......because they all were rushing yet they stopped.......one actually looked like harry potter which is why i smiled at him in the first place he didnt know that was why i smiled....btu he immediately smiled back.....

 

destiny is in your heart it where you r heart tells you to go ....to take a right or a left, to stay straight or go around a corner even to walk in to a traffic light to cause soemone else to have a smile on their face as they sit in peak hour traffic and mayeb you just stopped road rage from occurring........yeah done this...........and i believe god resides in every ones heart.......that god woks through and in people to guide to lift and deliver......always has and always will

 

his plan cant be discerned because it is infinite and spans every generation from then to now and on again to every tomorrow.....thats one mother of a quilt to knit and then try and hold in your head and understand how it was made....so intricate beauty and tragedy mixed together...its every word ever written or ever said.......every second every chance ever given....every minute shared with someone.love and loss death and birth ....love and heartache..and i believe we are just stitches.......so if my heart tells me to look up ....i look up and if it is into a pair of eyes i dont know..or something i hear from a voice that touches my heart.....i trust my heart knows i need to know that person better ..that stitch put beside me is there fro a reason season or an hour.....i dont know which........that to me is how i live my life.......fate...destiny ....true love...some to help me someone to be there for me or me to be there for them.i wait for my heart to guide me....and to date havent given up yet.....but i never have learnt how to knit so i dont think ill start .....ill just respect the stitching by the expert......deb

[Scorpio Chick]

I don't know what you mean by destiny, maybe it's this: I believe if two people are meant to be together, they will be together. I don't believe we each have just one soul mate, either. I think there are plenty of people I could fall in love with and I wish we had more time on this earth!! There's not enough time given to meet and develop relationships with all the people out there, or to listen to all the great music out there, sucks!!!

[SadNLonley]

This is kind of hard to answer.

 

I thought I had found my soulmate. The one person who got me, who loved me unconditionally without judging me. Unfortunately, I guess he was not my soulmate considering we are no longer together. I do believe that if something is meant to be, it will be. So in my soulmate case, if we are to be together, it will happen somehow somewhere.

 

In the meantime, I cant stand still waiting for that moment to happen. I think there is a guided plan for my life and standing still wont get me there. I just have to live my life and see where that path leads.

 

I also do not believe in love at first sight. I believe that it takes time to build that love. I do think you can lust at first sight, but love is totally different.

[Silly_Girl]

My husband and I fit together so well I sometimes am tempted to think we were fated to be together. But I don't believe in fate. I feel lucky we found each other but we could easily have ended up with other people. I don't think we would have been AS happy (it's my right to think that ) but we could have been happy.

[Bruce Leigh]

I believe that sometimes things can be destined to happen.

But meeting someone is not one of those. Its a nice romantic notion that has little value to the majority of people.

[SadNLonley]

My husband and I fit together so well I sometimes am tempted to think we were fated to be together. But I don't believe in fate. I feel lucky we found each other but we could easily have ended up with other people. I don't think we would have been AS happy (it's my right to think that ) but we could have been happy.

 

Funny how life works. Me and my ex felt the same way. It was almost scary how well we fit together. I had no doubt the universe put him on this earth to be my husband. We always said how lucky each of us were to find one another.

 

Fast forward and we arent even together anymore. Now Im no longer living with my head in the clouds. Im back on earth trying to rebuild the self esteem and confidence I lost.

 

Congrats that you found each other.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Yes, I believe everyone is destined to die.

 

Hasn't failed me yet.

[Frank2thepoint]

just been curious lately what "the world" thinks about destiny, fate, "the one", true soulmates, love at first sight...etc.

 

Relevant to the topic: "I'm your density" - Back to the Future

 

I believe that among the chaos, there are moments of clarity, alignment of planets, stars, fate, God, gods, aliens, God Emperor of Mankind, or something way more arcane for our human understanding, guiding us, warning us, even bringing two people together. Whether that manifests as love as first sight, as a soulmate, or as a pair of angels with one having a height phobia, and the other reminding her she has wings .

[central]

Love at first sight - remotely possible, but highly unlikely.

 

As for the rest, I think they are entirely wishful thinking or the misinterpretation of random events that appear connected. I've had some utterly astounding and confounding series of coincidences occur, but they are still due to random chance and - of course - my prior actions and attitudes that may increase the odds of a particular outcome. We tend to notice the ones that are meaningful to us personally, but we don't notice the other things going on. We like to assign and derive meaning, even when there is none.

[tlegend]

Love at first sight - remotely possible, but highly unlikely.

 

As for the rest, I think they are entirely wishful thinking or the misinterpretation of random events that appear connected. I've had some utterly astounding and confounding series of coincidences occur, but they are still due to random chance and - of course - my prior actions and attitudes that may increase the odds of a particular outcome. We tend to notice the ones that are meaningful to us personally, but we don't notice the other things going on. We like to assign and derive meaning, even when there is none.

 

Or.......WERE they in fact...random? (I don't really believe in coincidences. I believe things happen for a reason!)?

 

Chaos Theory wikipedia link for those who would like to know what you are clicking

[flitzanu]

Relevant to the topic: "I'm your density" - Back to the Future

 

I believe that among the chaos, there are moments of clarity, alignment of planets, stars, fate, God, gods, aliens, God Emperor of Mankind, or something way more arcane for our human understanding, guiding us, warning us, even bringing two people together. Whether that manifests as love as first sight, as a soulmate, or as a pair of angels with one having a height phobia, and the other reminding her she has wings .

 

omg i love your last little analogy.

 

also, thank all of you thus far for taking the time to read. this has been a concept i've went back and forth with quite some time. though, my input is, soulmates are not singular, they can be platonic or romantic, or even...hatred? i don't know what adjective to use there. antagonistic soulmates? ;p

 

i don't believe we have just one single person, i think (or believe) we can find many.

[Grumpybutfun]

i don't see this question on the first three pages, though i'm sure it's been asked before.

 

just been curious lately what "the world" thinks about destiny, fate, "the one", true soulmates, love at first sight...etc.

 

ready, go.

 

 

I believe we make our own destiny by our choices and work ethic. My wife is the single most important thing in the world to me but it isn't a fairytale but a relationship borne of good choices and maintaining a level of priority for her in my thoughts and actions. So, no, pragmatically we don't have the one sent by fate or soul mates sent by God or the creator, but someone we value and respect enough that they become our focus and priority in our lives. First sight love is strong visual attraction, though I had that in spades, I knew it for what it was. It just sounds more romantic to say I loved her at first sight, or she is my soul mate. I'm more into action and less into magic dust and something or someone else determining my life for me.

Logically,

Grumps

[dovegirl]

No, I don't believe in "soul mates" - I think there are many people in this world with whom I could be happy. Some moreso than others.

 

No, I don't believe in "love at first sight" - I think this is lust. Love takes time. Love is an action, not a feeling.

 

No, I don't believe in "destiny" - I think people have a selective memory and will often look back and assign that word to something that happened to them, which at the time was no more important than any other happening.

 

I DO believe that the world would be less full of bitterly disappointed people if the world in general would stop embracing these romantic, fanciful, and - in my opinion - totally unrealistic visions of how life should be.

 

I should mention that I am happily married.

[Raena]

I don't know if I believe in destiny or fate but I do know that there are times that I question whether or not there isn't some cosmic force pulling me to certain people in my life.

 

Mostly I believe it is just the product of my choices.

 

I don't believe in love at first sight either. Extreme interest at first sight yes. My first boyfriend was like that. It was the proverbial... we saw each other across the room and it felt like we already knew each other kind of situation. I was only 14 at the time. What did I know? But the 3 long term relationships I've had since then wasn't love at first sight. I liked them, but I didn't feel like I fell in love until after we'd been together for a while. I will say that I knew right away whether or not they were someone I wanted to spend a lot of time with though. It didn't grow over time, I knew from the first moment we met if we were compatible and whether or not I'd want to be with them.

[somedude81]

Complete and utter nonsense.

 

I've lost track of how many girls I thought things were meant to be with, and things just didn't work out.

 

Then I actually got a GF, and things were amazing with her, and really really felt that it was destiny. And then one day she suddenly dumped me out of nowhere and I never saw her again.

 

I don't believe in any of that fate and destiny, and made to be crap.

[amaysngrace]

For all the naysayers...my sister was a high school cheerleader. My dad went to a basketball game she was cheering at and took a bunch of random pics of her.

 

My sister had a double major in college. Communications and Education.

 

Her now husband went to college on scholarship for basketball. He had a tryout with the 76ers but he couldn't gain enough weight. Ended up as a teacher.

 

My sister chose teaching. Ended up at the same school as her husband and that's where they met.

 

I'm pretty sure if my BIL ended up playing pro ball my sister would have ended up being a sports journalist. They were destined to meet.

 

We recently realized that in those pictures my dad took of her cheering...the team our school was playing was the team my sister ended up teaching at and guess who the opposing team's coach was huddling his team in one of the pics? My BIL

 

He was in our family photo album way before he was ever in our family.

 

Call it nonsense all you'd like. I think it's pretty cool to dwell in possibility.

[somedude81]

For all the naysayers...my sister was a high school cheerleader. My dad went to a basketball game she was cheering at and took a bunch of random pics of her.

 

My sister had a double major in college. Communications and Education.

 

Her now husband went to college on scholarship for basketball. He had a tryout with the 76ers but he couldn't gain enough weight. Ended up as a teacher.

 

My sister chose teaching. Ended up at the same school as her husband and that's where they met.

 

I'm pretty sure if my BIL ended up playing pro ball my sister would have ended up being a sports journalist. They were destined to meet.

 

We recently realized that in those pictures my dad took of her cheering...the team our school was playing was the team my sister ended up teaching at and guess who the opposing team's coach was huddling his team in one of the pics? My BIL

 

He was in our family photo album way before he was ever in our family.

 

Call it nonsense all you'd like. I think it's pretty cool to dwell in possibility.

It's only destiny when it lasts

 

While that story is cool, it doesn't really mean anything.

 

Before we had become an official couple my ex went on a vacation to the East Coast. While doing a tour there she saw an old style sign of a famous 1800's couple that were involved with towns history. She took a picture and showed me it later. They had both of our first names. Neither of our names are particularly common and seeing them together as a piece of history made me feel something. As soon as I saw that I thought, "Whoa, this is destiny I'm with her."

 

Then she dumped me several months later.

[amaysngrace]

It's only destiny when it lasts

 

While that story is cool, it doesn't really mean anything.

 

Before we had become an official couple my ex went on a vacation to the East Coast. While doing a tour there she saw an old style sign of a famous 1800's couple that were involved with towns history. She took a picture and showed me it later. They had both of our first names. Neither of our names are particularly common and seeing them together as a piece of history made me feel something. As soon as I saw that I thought, "Whoa, this is destiny I'm with her."

 

Then she dumped me several months later.

 

My sister and her husband have two sons in college. I'm not sure how long they've been happily married but I know it's over 20 years.

 

I guess we all have a different perception of what a great relationship is. I don't expect people with messed up parents to know what a good relationship is.

 

Good to them just may mean better than what their parents had. So the "special" to them may not be all that special after all.

 

Not saying your parents were messed up SD, but just in general.

[Sith Apprentice]

An empty hole awaits us all. You will rot in your grave.

[regine_phalange]

 

I believe in lovely coincidences, not really in destiny.

[Frank2thepoint]

 

I believe in lovely coincidences, not really in destiny.

 

Lovely coincidences are very exciting my dear young frankenstein Scorpio

[flitzanu]

by all means, everyone should naysay "destiny", but...just because we "met the one" and they dumped us...doesn't mean that was "the one".

 

or, as i prefer, we don't just have "one". we have a few of them.

 

all of us want to feel like we met the ONE when it's awesome, and then we stop believing in the world when it falls to pieces. i'm NOT saying to be happy shiny positive people, i'm not one at all, just don't let one dumb dumper ruin your outlook of finding someone to connect with in some fashion.

 

i dunno though, for me, i just happened to meet someone and it feels like the wrong time. even being 15 hours apart it's like fighting the world to keep us away from each other, even only having met briefly over a 36 hour period of time and never again since. my brain is fighting my heart about it, wanting to disbelieve "fate" had any part of it, but my heart certainly wants to remember that "destiny" is real.

 

thanks for contributing to the thread.