irc333 Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Interestingly enough, I had been able to acheive dates with women (both real life and online), the only problem that as I get to know them, the turn out to be quite bossy or demanding and figured I dodged a bullet by getting out of that one. Kind of made me wonder how many of those guys ignored the signs and continued dating these women just to put up with it for the sake of having a woman (and sex)? Link to post Share on other sites
Smilecharmer Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 What do you mean exactly by bossy woman? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 I'm a bossy woman. However if a man I was dating asked me to tone something down I would. Ironically after we got married I tried being more deferential to my husband & it made both of us crazy. I'm more of the leader than he is. When I expected him to take the reigns & he wasn't doing it fast enough for me, I got stressed. Meanwhile he was stressed because he didn't want the responsibility. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 What do you mean exactly by bossy woman? Curious about that as well. Funnily, the other weekend I was getting ready to go out with my boyfriend but had to take a quick call before we left, delegating some duties for a conference an org I'm in is hosting and clearing up some speed bumps about it. When I got off the phone my bf was all smiles and I asked what he was grinning about then he said: "You're such a boss. I love it!" Lol He has often commented that he doesn't like weak women and he likes women who are ambitious, driven, educated etc. I don't think I'm bossy in terms of having an attitude problem, but certainly because I am educated, have my own mind, am ambitious, am a leader etc. I have my preferences and I have my demands and am not afraid to ask for what I want or speak up about my dislikes...is that bossy? In any event...it depends on the person completely. For every personality type there is someone for whom it is a complement. I have certainly met men who felt I was too "difficult" i.e. not passive enough for their tastes and I was happy to dodge those bullets as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Share Posted May 13, 2014 (edited) When I say, "Bossy", I mean demeaning. Or talking down to you, in an attempt to accurately describe "bossy". For example, just an example mind you... I was at a house party, private party with close friends. After we roasted marshmallows in the host's fire pit. I was gathering up those marshmellow prongs and she had instructed me to go up the trail behind the house and behind the door. Well, I do just that , follow others who are bringing other stuff back, I put it on the table where everyone else was gathered in the garage, and putting empty dishes and containers on the food table (open area). She is calling after me, "IRC! Did you just not hear what I said?!" She said it twice, but she had a rather unsavory tone, others were kind of looking at her...nervously, as this was in front of others and in mixed company. I said back, "I did just as you asked, I followed the trail up to behind the door there at the garage and put it here. She goes, "No, I said to hang it on the inside door of the trailer in the back yard!" I confirmed with friends that "Yeah...that's just how she is...bossy" So even had confirmation from others of her bossiness. lol She does have a profile on POF, and from what I read I could tell as much. Very rigid, too. MOst recent example I could come up with . When I wind up sticking up for myself, it pisses them off even more. LOL. I didn't want to do it in front of her friends though. Curious about that as well. Funnily, the other weekend I was getting ready to go out with my boyfriend but had to take a quick call before we left, delegating some duties for a conference an org I'm in is hosting and clearing up some speed bumps about it. When I got off the phone my bf was all smiles and I asked what he was grinning about then he said: "You're such a boss. I love it!" Lol He has often commented that he doesn't like weak women and he likes women who are ambitious, driven, educated etc. I don't think I'm bossy in terms of having an attitude problem, but certainly because I am educated, have my own mind, am ambitious, am a leader etc. I have my preferences and I have my demands and am not afraid to ask for what I want or speak up about my dislikes...is that bossy? In any event...it depends on the person completely. For every personality type there is someone for whom it is a complement. I have certainly met men who felt I was too "difficult" i.e. not passive enough for their tastes and I was happy to dodge those bullets as well. Edited May 13, 2014 by irc333 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 I think that's just having a bad attitude frankly and being rude. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Kind of made me wonder how many of those guys ignored the signs and continued dating these women just to put up with it for the sake of having a woman (and sex)? Some men like to relinquish responsibility and have the woman take control. Some men are desperate for companionship. And some men were fooled at the beginning of the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 (edited) When I say, "Bossy", I mean demeaning. Or talking down to you, in an attempt to accurately describe "bossy". For example, just an example mind you... I was at a house party, private party with close friends. After we roasted marshmallows in the host's fire pit. I was gathering up those marshmellow prongs and she had instructed me to go up the trail behind the house and behind the door. Well, I do just that , follow others who are bringing other stuff back, I put it on the table where everyone else was gathered in the garage, and putting empty dishes and containers on the food table (open area). She is calling after me, "IRC! Did you just not hear what I said?!" She said it twice, but she had a rather unsavory tone, others were kind of looking at her...nervously, as this was in front of others and in mixed company. I said back, "I did just as you asked, I followed the trail up to behind the door there at the garage and put it here. She goes, "No, I said to hang it on the inside door of the trailer in the back yard!" I confirmed with friends that "Yeah...that's just how she is...bossy" So even had confirmation from others of her bossiness. lol She does have a profile on POF, and from what I read I could tell as much. Very rigid, too. MOst recent example I could come up with . When I wind up sticking up for myself, it pisses them off even more. LOL. I didn't want to do it in front of her friends though. I try not to let people talk to me like that anymore, even if sticking up for myself is going to piss them off. Otherwise I end up feeling foolish after the fact. It's tough for some of us, but if you have strong boundaries, people won't talk to you that way. Luckily, I don't find myself friends with people that like to be rude like this. Edited May 14, 2014 by rester Link to post Share on other sites
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