What have you done to improve yourself and change you life for the better?

[learning_slowly]

This only needs a line to give others inspiration or ideas on how to improve their life, whether its increasing self esteem, overcoming breakups or upgrade your skills to get a job.

 

I have:

 

1) Joint a gym and used bodyspace to get a workout plan.

2) Gone to a meetup.

3) Joined a sports club.

4) started an online course.

 

So whats everybody else done?

[M30USA]

1) Enrolled back in school.

2) Took up sport fishing.

3) Had plenty of alone time to reflect.

[ayala]

1. Working out

2. Going back to school

3. Cut back on gaming (lol it can be so hard sometimes! It makes me sad)

4. Volunteering more often than I used to. It's a great experience to make people happy for a good reason

5. Focused on my problems instead of my boyfriends' and fixed, or in the process of fixing, some of them.

6. Stop thinking of myself as a piece of **** after a past relationship full of regrets

7. Be more open with how I feel and being more honest about how I feel

8. Invest more time in good friends instead of people who just want my body just because of my stupid insecurity

9. Accept the past as the past and move on

10. Making an effort in my relationship

[Erlaad]

Well, for me it is:

1) Working out regurarly and tring to stick to the plan;

2) Improving my eating habits, in particular by becoming (latto-ovo)vegetarian;

3) Taking more care of my health, beauty and personal appearance;

4) Working on cutting all my dependencies, mostly gaming, porn and masturbation;

5) Very deep soul-searching and personality studies, trying to figure out the reasons that lead me to problems in various aspect of my life;

6) Improving my temper, social skill and attitude towards life;

7) Learning to enjoy single life and getting out of the "I need to have a GF to be happy" attitude;

8) Learning to let go of J, of S and of other bad things that happens in the past;

9) Overall, learning to do things for the right motivations and not for selfish "I-care-for-you" mindsets.

 

It's still a work-in-progress, but we're seeing improvements. ^^

 

- Erl

[todreaminblue]

i have almost cut out cigarettes completely.....

 

 

i danced my butt off for one night .....haven't been able to dance for the longest time...........

 

 

praying more

 

 

reading a book full of positive affirmations about what i am doing here what my family is doing here and where i am going...yep readin my bible

 

 

i ate a chocolate bar as big as my head....kidding but i am still looking to eat a chocolate bar as big as my head

 

 

 

i find positive quotes written by wordsmiths and poets.....

 

 

i go easy or easier on me......

 

 

i talk everyday to people who give a stuff about what i am doing and care about me......

 

 

i am setting back my rules for my house.......ill still take in people but if they need a bed they need to follow my rules......

 

 

i feel stronger than i have been in a long time....maybe because i have more oxygen in my lungs......must be the difference that i feel, that or prayer or both or everything....ima happy ...:bunny: ..deb

[Emilia]

1. Rigorous exercise

2. Constantly improving my technical skills at work, taking on projects that require this.

3. Building my small business on the side with the view of making it my main source of income.

4. Remaining fully informed when it comes to politics and current affairs, making myself to go out socialising even if I don't feel like like it to build networks, maintain an active social life.

5. Helping out in my local community.

[Targetlock]

1. new attitude and way of thinking about myself and how i do things.

2. started learning the guitar

3. went to my first singles night.

4. went on my first date in four years.

5. changing my job soon.

6. joined a new club activity.

[Joyfirst]

Last few years I am doing lots of emotional work, changing my attidude to life. To me success is joy. I learned (and of course still learning to do it deeper ) to appreciate wonderful things, experiences and relationships, that life offers and I see so much magic daily. Like a delicate yellow butterfly on the leaf and large magnolia bloom this morning, feeling a hug (really FEELING it), hearing wind and tree music, enjoying the coolness of the evening after the hot day. Life is full of sensory delights and now, that I am open to it, I can enjoy it anytime.

[pink_sugar]

1. Rigorous exercise

2. Eat healthier

3. Take a second job

4. Volunteer at the local animal shelter

5. Taking an online class to improve my skills

6. Step out of my comfort zone

7. Make an effort in my marriage

8. Staying positive!!

[littleplanet]

- read a ton of good books (to learn a thing or two)

- taking the time to actually talk to people....strangers

- taking the time to talk with the people who mean the most to me

- making sure those people know they are well-loved and respected

- more singing (with the attendant guitar) Good luck with that, Targetlock

- dog therapy (yep- you read that right)

- making a greater effort to cross over the barriers to misunderstanding

- spending more time with my son (big one)

- It's a beautiful world. Falling in love with it all over again.

- Less silence. More yakking. We are indeed, social creatures.

[robaday]

Gradual process but heres summary of last two years:

 

Went from no exercise to kickboxing and boxing at least five times a week. Now supplementing with weight training and yoga

 

Have been learning a foreign language. Am now at intermediate level (1.5 years of study)

 

Have begun to be positive in interactions with others and remind myself to smile more often (I am prone to depression but am realising being more thoughtful and friendly to others improves my moods/state)

 

Im over 7pm to 7am partying. Drink once a month these days and never touch drugs anymore. I miss the music, women and good times, but Id miss the clear head, bigger wallet and productivity more

 

Quit several social networks very recently (a month ago). So far am feeling more grounded and productivity (i.e. gym, studying, visiting friends) has increased a lot!!! Early days yet but recommend it!!

[SpiralOut]

- Teaching myself gardening: this makes me feel smart, a bit more self-sufficient and confident, and it's like a form of therapy. I started with containers on a balcony and transitioned to a community garden. I went from knowing nothing to feeling fairly competent.

 

- increased my independence and exercise by cycling everywhere. I went from being too scared of cars to bike on the road, to biking on highways for hours at a time. People now tell me that I am "hardcore."

 

- Tried a crapload of different groups until I found some that I like. Most of them were meetup groups, some of them weren't. I used to be too scared to leave my apartment. Now I go to a meetup group where I don't know a single soul and I do just fine.

 

- I'm much better at being assertive. This has come from posting lots and lots of threads on LS, getting advice and following it.

 

- I'm more in touch with my spirituality. I do this by praying, gardening, doing yoga, writing, using healing stones.

 

- Started doing all the things I used to love as a kid but stopped doing: reading, biking, playing an instrument, drawing, crafts. Okay I don't do ALL of these things regularly but I make more effort. Reading again is a big one. Baking things for fun is another one. No it's not practical to randomly bake cookies when I live alone, but who cares. It's fun (and they freeze okay).

 

- Did a couple of free online courses. I didn't finish them right to the end, but ah well, I still learned a fair amount about human physiology, nutrition, and food science. I feel much better when I'm learning something new.

 

- Dropped my bad friends

 

- Organizing and clearing out clutter. I feel more clear mentally when I don't have so much physical junk laying around.

 

- Slowly but surely working on a side project. A website contacted me today asking to feature my articles on their site. And here I was thinking that I must be doing a crappy job. It's funny what can happen when you try.

Edited May 20, 2014 by SpiralOut

[JelenaMax]

I have started swimming couple of weeks ago and I am really feeling healthier and smarter

[Speakingofwhich]

Great thread! Reading all these posts is a kick in the seat of the pants, in itself!:)

[Babolat]

This only needs a line to give others inspiration or ideas on how to improve their life, whether its increasing self esteem, overcoming breakups or upgrade your skills to get a job.

 

I have:

 

1) Joint a gym and used bodyspace to get a workout plan.

2) Gone to a meetup.

3) Joined a sports club.

4) started an online course.

 

So whats everybody else done?

The same, plus I have read and continue to read a lot of self help books. I've also learned to enjoy being alone, by myself, and feeling okay with it. I've made some new friends, filtered out some old ones too.

 

I'm now hiking, biking, volunterring, walking more, eating healthier, working out more, and trying to step outside my comfort zone, my box more. I am also trying to live in the present more.

[jbelle6]

1) Upped my workouts, lifting heavier

2) Signed up for kickboxing for the summer

3) Eating clean

4) Reading more, using computer less

5) Making an effort to meet more friends (I'm in a city away from my friends and family)

6) Cut back on wine

[learning_slowly]

1) Upped my workouts, lifting heavier

2) Signed up for kickboxing for the summer

3) Eating clean

4) Reading more, using computer less

5) Making an effort to meet more friends (I'm in a city away from my friends and family)

6) Cut back on wine

 

All great things. Concerning number 5, my friend has just moved to Paris, and he said he now has yo be a Yes man. Go to everything, and you'll meet more friends.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I quit my job, found a new job, moved to a town that's 5 hours flight away from my family and friends; where I literally know not one single person.

 

It's been 3 weeks now, I will let you know how it turns out

[learning_slowly]

I quit my job, found a new job, moved to a town that's 5 hours flight away from my family and friends; where I literally know not one single person.

 

It's been 3 weeks now, I will let you know how it turns out

 

I used to love the beginning, finding out all the local places that I need to frequent e.g. checking out the gyms & funny grocery stores.

 

Then you meet people through work and checkout he bars and restaurants. These days I'd maybe try meetups or a class I had an interest in to start meeting new friends.

 

Good luck on your new adventure

[Eternal Sunshine]

I used to love the beginning, finding out all the local places that I need to frequent e.g. checking out the gyms & funny grocery stores.

 

Then you meet people through work and checkout he bars and restaurants. These days I'd maybe try meetups or a class I had an interest in to start meeting new friends.

 

Good luck on your new adventure

 

I love it too! I enjoy walking everywhere, this is a very pretty town. Clean, sunny and beautiful parks. I am still at the point of adjusting and exploring on my own.

 

This job is a definite step up from what I had so I can't see this being a mistake in any case. I was really stuck in a rut and needed this change.

[Mr Scorpio]

Started/finished law-school and passed the bar

Lost 25 pounds

Got back into seriously practicing guitar