M30USA Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Anyone wanna give me feedback about why, on the occasions when I do have dreams with my ex in them, it's always warped? Just last night I had a dream I was waking up and she had a gun pressed up against my head. I mean, gosh. I also recall early on after divorce waking up startled because I thought she was attacking me in my sleep. I know my ex is a violent woman and she did assault me with an object, but she never got deadly. Is this some kind of vision or warning? I personally believe that dreams CAN be sent by God or angels but I'm not sure if this is one of those cases. It could just be that I'm occasionally reliving some of those scary fights when she would lose it. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 M30, it is well documented that people who survive domestic violence whether it be physical or emotional can develop PTSD due to trauma. I think these dreams are a manifestation of the trauma still working this way out in your head due to the abuse. Have you considered PTSD for your own situation? We think because we are men, we shouldn't seek help for abuse but if you don't you could continue to suffer in not just your dreams but in your personal life and development as an adult. Sincerely concerned about you, Grumps 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author M30USA Posted May 13, 2014 Author Share Posted May 13, 2014 M30, it is well documented that people who survive domestic violence whether it be physical or emotional can develop PTSD due to trauma. I think these dreams are a manifestation of the trauma still working this way out in your head due to the abuse. Have you considered PTSD for your own situation? We think because we are men, we shouldn't seek help for abuse but if you don't you could continue to suffer in not just your dreams but in your personal life and development as an adult. Sincerely concerned about you, Grumps I saw a counselor for 6 months post divorce. I didn't bring up PTSD. He knew about me being assaulted, etc. Is it possible that he might have missed it if I was repressing it? I figure if I had it, he would have picked up on it. I don't know. I'd like to think I'm doing well. I think I am. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 I saw a counselor for 6 months post divorce. I didn't bring up PTSD. He knew about me being assaulted, etc. Is it possible that he might have missed it if I was repressing it? What I learned when my wife was searching for a therapist for her child abuse is that regular counselors or therapists are not trained specifically in trauma. Some have the capabilities to deal with life coaching issues, but not the intricacies of trauma which includes PTSD, addictions as crutches, self loathing, OCD, paranoia, and a plethora of other symptoms of trauma. He definitely could, and probably did miss it. If you are dreaming about violence, being fearful, etc. that is a clear sign of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I would think as a man you would have less resilience to PTSD since you haven't been emotionally prepared for something like domestic violence by society, education or the media. I think it is worth looking into. G 3 Link to post Share on other sites
3blindmice Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Anyone wanna give me feedback about why, on the occasions when I do have dreams with my ex in them, it's always warped? Just last night I had a dream I was waking up and she had a gun pressed up against my head. I mean, gosh. I also recall early on after divorce waking up startled because I thought she was attacking me in my sleep. I know my ex is a violent woman and she did assault me with an object, but she never got deadly. Is this some kind of vision or warning? I personally believe that dreams CAN be sent by God or angels but I'm not sure if this is one of those cases. It could just be that I'm occasionally reliving some of those scary fights when she would lose it. Dreams about what will happen usually occur more than once and the dream will be the same dream every time. When I was a kid, I had a reacuring (sp?) dream for a week and always the same dream. (my dream) Me, my brothers, and my ex-step sister were in the camper of the pickup truck, my dad was driving and my ex-step mother was in the cab with him. We were going down a dirt road and the back right wheel jumped off the truck and I would wake up. After dreaming for a week, we were in a single car accident. Going down a dirt road, the back right wheel hit gravel, my dad lost control and the back camper came off and took all us kids and spread us over a field. About abuse having an effect over you for years is true. My first bf used to hit me a lot. I was 18 and after I left him nobody can walk into a room I'm sleeping in without me waking up and being wide awake instantly. I have hearing problems and am deaf to many sounds. I am 56 now and still wake up instantly when someone walks into the room. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johnpatric Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Dear dream is a natural thing its because of out daily thought and daily routine, if you think about her for whole days so may be it is possible it will come in to your dream, and the reason of that still you can't get over from her.. may be because of this happened so just try to ignore this because dreams will not come true so its better to avoid it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 If the dreams are a little similar have you tried to research it, my daughter kept having a dream about her standing in her dad's home at the top of the stairs and it was just a wooden burnt frame... The rest of the house was destroyed by fire. Think it's natural to dream about an ex, although I love to look a little deeper into a possible meaning or message. Maybe make notes of them so you can see a pattern SS Link to post Share on other sites
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