TheTee Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 (edited) So my entire life girls have not approached me. I'm not a dick and I'm always smiling or laughing, I'm toned, and just below 6 feet. I catch people staring at me but none of them ever come up or say hi or anything. I like assertive girls so this it's a shame... I'm not sure if I'm just a hideous ogre or what?! Edited May 14, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Personal picture URL removed Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Confidence... Your smile needs more confidence. If they're not approaching you, approach them. It's that simple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 Well, to me, you're absolutely gorgeous. I wouldn't approach you. I'd assume I wouldn't have a snowflakes chance in hell with you! On the rare times that I approached someone, it was guys that were more on the same level as me. Even then though I got rejected still! Haha Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 What is this with people waiting for others to approach them? Somebody has to make the first move and girls like assertive guys too. Just ask out people you like. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheTee Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 Well, to me, you're absolutely gorgeous. I wouldn't approach you. I'd assume I wouldn't have a snowflakes chance in hell with you! On the rare times that I approached someone, it was guys that were more on the same level as me. Even then though I got rejected still! Haha Thanks for the compliment . You would be the only Snow flake in hell then...because you totally would ;P. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheTee Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 What is this with people waiting for others to approach them? Somebody has to make the first move and girls like assertive guys too. Just ask out people you like. I'm tired of it, I want a girl who knows what she wants . People have different preferences... ? Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 You're very good looking. More so like a model tho the photo looks professionally taken, my first thought was he prob would never let me run my fingers through his hair, idk you look too high matenance that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 And girls want a guy who knows what they want. Do you see the limbo you've put yourself in? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 So my entire life girls have not approached me. I'm not a dick and I'm always smiling or laughing, I'm toned, and just below 6 feet. I catch people staring at me but none of them ever come up or say hi or anything. I like assertive girls so this it's a shame... I'm not sure if I'm just a hideous ogre or what?! I'm gonna give it to you straight, Barney style. The problem here is you think so highly of yourself with your looks, you believe women should be blessed that you grace them with your presence, and they should indulge your vanity by approaching you. You may be a good looking guy, but you really need to get your head out of your a*s. You may be amiable, but your thought process makes you a dick. Just like attractive women, where some men find intimidating to approach, same goes for attractive guys. Maybe you should approach women first, start a conversation, impress them with your easy going nature, and comfort them that you are not beyond their reach. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I forgot to add it looks as if your ready to go to a wedding, im all for clean guys but it looks like you spend more time on your hair than I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheTee Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 You're very good looking. More so like a model tho the photo looks professionally taken, my first thought was he prob would never let me run my fingers through his hair, idk you look too high matenance that's just me. Thanks, it's an iPhone selfie though. Having someone run their fingers through my hair is the best lmao, I guess what I'm gathering is the impression I give off. Like being judged by my cover instead of internally. I groom myself accordingly but I don't think I push into the field of HM xD Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I forgot to add it looks as if your ready to go to a wedding, im all for clean guys but it looks like you spend more time on your hair than I do. Lol, I didn't think of that. I had an ex that spent an hour in the shower everyday and lots of time on his hair. He was really high maintenance. You can't be free around him or touch him freely because he's always worried about you messing up his hair or shirt or something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheTee Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 I'm gonna give it to you straight, Barney style. The problem here is you think so highly of yourself with your looks, you believe women should be blessed that you grace them with your presence, and they should indulge your vanity by approaching you. You may be a good looking guy, but you really need to get your head out of your a*s. You may be amiable, but your thought process makes you a dick. Just like attractive women, where some men find intimidating to approach, same goes for attractive guys. Maybe you should approach women first, start a conversation, impress them with your easy going nature, and comfort them that you are not beyond their reach. You got all this from a selfie I took with my iPhone :/. I feel like I'm being judged on my looks and who I am, I mean my hair takes 5 mins. And yeh I like to groom myself but I'll try looking more haggard then if that's what you are saying :/ I don't even think I'm attractive, and I'm being serious I was bullied my entire highschool existence for being chubby I never go to clubs so these compliments are new to me. But thanks for calling me a dick, for wanting a girl to ask me out for once... Link to post Share on other sites
Eivuwan Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 You got all this from a selfie I took with my iPhone :/. I feel like I'm being judged on my looks and who I am, I mean my hair takes 5 mins. And yeh I like to groom myself but I'll try looking more haggard then if that's what you are saying :/ I don't even think I'm attractive, and I'm being serious I was bullied my entire highschool existence for being chubby I never go to clubs so these compliments are new to me. But thanks for calling me a dick, for wanting a girl to ask me out for once... Your looks are definitely not the problem and I don't think you're arrogant. I think you just need to accept that we cannot get what we want just by wishing for it. I would like people to chase me too and it never happened. I had to put myself out there on dating sites. That is just life and it's not always fair. Women tend to not ask guys out in general so if you want a relationship, suck it up. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I wanted to see how good looking this guy was. From what I can tell, if guys aren't at a certain threshold in looks, women won't approach. Though from this thread, there seems to be a point where if a guy is "too good looking" women won't approach. I think it's something like this on the 1-10 scale for looks. 1-6 Girls won't approach 7-8 Girls will approach 9-10 Girls won't approach 1 Link to post Share on other sites
topaMAXX Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 OP, you seem to be good looking based on these responses (I didn't see the picture). Have you ever done online dating? If you look like a model, just throw some pictures up. You don't even need to have a profile. You will have girls messaging you. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 You got all this from a selfie I took with my iPhone :/. I feel like I'm being judged on my looks and who I am, I mean my hair takes 5 mins. And yeh I like to groom myself but I'll try looking more haggard then if that's what you are saying :/ I don't even think I'm attractive, and I'm being serious I was bullied my entire highschool existence for being chubby I never go to clubs so these compliments are new to me. But thanks for calling me a dick, for wanting a girl to ask me out for once... Sigh, I gave you my opinion based on what you wrote about your attitude and behavior. You sound naive and spoiled, expecting women to flock to you without you even putting forth any effort. Good luck with your endeavors with the females, because if you are expecting them to fall into your lap, that's what you'll need, luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I wanted to see how good looking this guy was. From what I can tell, if guys aren't at a certain threshold in looks, women won't approach. Though from this thread, there seems to be a point where if a guy is "too good looking" women won't approach. I think it's something like this on the 1-10 scale for looks. 1-6 Girls won't approach 7-8 Girls will approach 9-10 Girls won't approach He was pretty good looking but I got the gay vibe the minute I looked at him. Not saying he is or isn't but maybe that's the impression some women are getting too. Tee, if you want other people to comment put the pic back up in your album. If you can. For some reason you can't link pics here but you can have them in your album. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 He was very pretty. A lot of girls want a man's man *shrug* Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 He was pretty good looking but I got the gay vibe the minute I looked at him. Not saying he is or isn't but maybe that's the impression some women are getting too. Tee, if you want other people to comment put the pic back up in your album. If you can. For some reason you can't link pics here but you can have them in your album. Yup, I tried to get people to give me feedback on my looks and the whole thread was removed. Now I have pictures on my album. I guess as long as you aren't asking for comments, you can do what you want. Most likely I'm not as pretty TheTee Que sera sera Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 So my entire life girls have not approached me. I'm not a dick and I'm always smiling or laughing, I'm toned, and just below 6 feet. I catch people staring at me but none of them ever come up or say hi or anything. I like assertive girls so this it's a shame... I'm not sure if I'm just a hideous ogre or what?! I like Dominant men so I just don't approach. If you think someone is cute just say hello! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianCrawley Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 So my entire life girls have not approached me. I'm not a dick and I'm always smiling or laughing, I'm toned, and just below 6 feet. I catch people staring at me but none of them ever come up or say hi or anything. I like assertive girls so this it's a shame... I'm not sure if I'm just a hideous ogre or what?! Because you don't seem available. Even the spoiled brats in the West with their mighty opinions about themselves (like "I'm average", when they're actually ****ing fat) have some limits about what they think they can have. That, and the fact they hate rejection more than real normal women do. So they'd rather wait until an uglier male approaches them than to risk being rejected by you. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Sometimes it's all about how you carry yourself. I didn't see your pic, but generally it isn't always your looks I find that make you approachable or unapproachable. Maybe it's as others suggest, and that you perhaps expect women to give you attention subconsciously for whatever reason. Not every woman is going to be as aggressive as a man usually is. It's typically seen as a masculine thing, even among women who would easily do it. So it's not as much of a common occurrence no matter what you look like. In my own experience, I have been approached a few times but it's been very irregular and a welcome surprise. It's usually that they make themselves available for approach, either noticeably or not. They won't always talk either, sometimes they will strategically place themselves in your vicinity and eyesight (this happened twice today actually), and do things to garner your attention. In many ways, that invites approach so you could say the woman facilitates and initiates the encounter - albeit passively. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted June 26, 2014 Share Posted June 26, 2014 I think it's something like this on the 1-10 scale for looks. 1-6 Girls won't approach 7-8 Girls will approach 9-10 Girls won't approach ...and that, Dude, is why women complain that the guys who hit on them are jerks. But even in light of that dire fact, nobody should expect women to do a complete 180 in terms of their behavior... women pursuing men would be a bit like the flowers buzzing after the bees, no? To me, it's just... :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 i wonder if somebody spoke to God and God actually said that men have to be the assertive ones, be the one to make things happen, initiate, take the lead, etc., wonder if there is any evidence of that No. Men that are assertive, make things happen, initiate, take the lead, etc.,.....do so. Most people actually like other people that are like this, men and women. My time in the military, there were hard jobs that required self motivation, responsibility and knowledge. And **** jobs that any idiot can do. You do the hard jobs, you're not doing the **** jobs. **** jobs go to guys too scared or stupid to do the hard jobs. Let me clue you in on something. When you know what you're doing, no job is hard. Link to post Share on other sites
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