SchoolGirl Posted February 8, 2005 Share Posted February 8, 2005 [color=red][/color] Hey!!! My name is Danielle and I'm 18 years old and an Sr in HS and I've had this amazing boyfriend over year. And I'm going away for school in VT. And well I live in Cali and I don't think I can take it being that far from him and being my first b/f I don't know what I should do. I love him with my entire heart well I think I know what love is, and I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HURT HIM. Thanks for your help. Link to post Share on other sites
andreautick Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Hi there, Long distance, especially THAT long, isn't really a good thing, especially when you're young and just transitioning to college. You're going to meet lots of boys, and you should be able to socialize, romantically or platonically, with them in order to maximize the social aspect of your collegiate experience. That said, it'd probably really hurt your boyfriend if you two decided to remain "exclusive" and you hooked up with another guy, or whatever. That'd hurt him much more than if you broke it off with him now. It's completely normal to want to give a relationship a rest when you go far away for school, and even though it may sting at first, it will be the best for both of you in the long run. Have you ever heard the expression "If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it was meant to be"? Well that's true in this situation. If you go to school and you two retain feelings for one another, it's meant ot be, and will eventually be again...and you'll know if that's the case. If not, you'll have an amazing experience at school, probably meet a new and wonderful guy, and have had a great boyfriend who you let go before he could get hurt even worse. He might be sad to start with, but the reason is legitimate, and no one says you two can't have contact and such. You can still love eachother, even if you aren't knee deep in a serious relationship anymore. Take care, good luck, and keep us posted! Andrea Link to post Share on other sites
CIE Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 A LDR is hard, especially if you dont know when its going to end and even harder if you dont get to visit your bf/gf during the away period. Im currently in that kind of relationship where i cant see my gf. Its been going on for over a year now and when we actually got together we promised each other that if we found someone else closer we would go for it, the only condition being that we had to tell the other. So if i found a girl i was interested in here I would have to tell her. In your case you already know this man, so make the same promise : that you guys remain bf/gf but that if either of you find someone they wanna get involved with they can feel free to do so. And you guys can still talk on the phone, chat, play computer games or whatever you guys find to do together. Then again read what I post around here and youll probably think im being played like a well tuned piano hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
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