Username114 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Hello, So this first began a while back when the older of my two daughters (18) was heard having sex/other things in her bedroom by my younger daughter(17). My younger daughter did not tell me that this happened as we do not speak of these things and don't get along too well. She ended up telling her aunt/my sister, who then told my mom. My mom called me and told me that ydaughter was uncomfortable with Odaughter's bf being in the house. But she had told me prior to the incident that she had no problem with him being at our house. in turn I asked my younger daughter why my mom told me that. She said, "I don't want to have to hear them have sex while I'm here." And left. I talked to Odaughter first, and am aware that she is having sex and even pay for her birth control. I told her from now on to leave the door open while her bf comes over. I then went to my Ydaughters room and told her that I gave her sister a rule. I didn't talk to her about what happened because I assumed she was fine and thought that she should be used to it because of her being in highschool and she knows that her sister has a bf and would want to do things plus I can't read her mind so how would I know if it upset her? Now the 18 yr old doesn't even bring her bf to our house and it's because of my 17yr old who even said to me before she had no problem with him! My younger daughter is upset with me because I didn't talk with her about what happened and that I don't care about her feelings but honestly I don't think it was that big of a deal. One time is okay. And she only heard it, she didn't see anything. I think she has anxiety and needs a therapist because she is overreacting and doesn't want to let it go. What do you think? Does she need a therapist? Her anxiety is not letting her move on. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 No, she doesn't. You might need a parenting course, though. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Take her to a doctor if she has anxiety. Panic attacks are no joke. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 (edited) Your daughter thinks you don't care because you don't. She doesn't need therapy. Edited May 14, 2014 by SpiralOut Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Man, if she thinks that is bad... I heard my dad having sex with his ex who was 7 years older than me and I was 17 at the time. Awkward. Very. Link to post Share on other sites
Hope Shimmers Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 (edited) No, but I think you need a therapist. No wonder your younger daughter doesn't feel like she can talk to you and goes to other family members instead. I suggest you get some counseling before you lose your younger daughter (or both of them) totally. This is just sad and terrible. Edited May 14, 2014 by Hope Shimmers 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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