Mightymick Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I'm 33 and never had a girlfriend I've never had a girlfriend for more then a week I've never had a relationship that wasit long distance and all I get is constant rejections am I normal? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 What is "normal"? If you mean, is your number of relationships in the average range - then, no. Most people have had at least one long term relationship by that age. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you - some people just haven't had any. For various reasons, some concentrate on career, some on family, some on MMORPGs... Are you looking for any specific advice? If you want a relationship then what are you doing to meet women? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mightymick Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 I go to singles groups bars and clubs also theres nice girls at my acting school and compared to most people on this site I think I'm ok I needed to see things in perspective thanks peg nose pete Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 What happens with these girls who don't last more than 1 week? How can you change those behaviors? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Im in the same exact position and ive pretty much given up hope..I figure i must be pretty damn unattractive if i havent even accidentally gotten into a relationship by 33.. The worst part is friends and family thinking all types of things becasue of it but what can you do some of us arent attractive to women sexually.. Link to post Share on other sites
AdrianCrawley Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I'm 33 and never had a girlfriend I've never had a girlfriend for more then a week I've never had a relationship that wasit long distance and all I get is constant rejections am I normal? Yes. You'll have a relationship when you'll decide you really want one and you'll do what needs to be done to obtain one (that is either become "hot", either make a lot of money, or stuff like that, and, of course, be in places where you can find women and they can see you are hot or rich, or famous). Until this point you didn't actually need a relationship, maybe you still don't need one. Link to post Share on other sites
SpringBaby Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Im in the same exact position and ive pretty much given up hope..I figure i must be pretty damn unattractive if i havent even accidentally gotten into a relationship by 33.. The worst part is friends and family thinking all types of things becasue of it but what can you do some of us arent attractive to women sexually.. It does take some effort on your part since you are a guy, but you have to keep things in perspective and look for your equal. But it won't just happen, someone has to make a move and women usually look for the man to do that. There must be something going wrong though if you don't last longer than a week, you guys may need to look at what's going on there. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 some of us arent attractive to women sexually.. I used to think like that too. You have to change your mindset dude. You are thinking that women's minds work in the same way as men's. For women sexual attractiveness is 10% physical and 90% about how you hold yourself, your attitude, confidence, etc. Think positive and you will get success (or at least have fun trying). 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted May 15, 2014 Share Posted May 15, 2014 Well, normal or not, you are clearly not happy about it. I don't know too much about how to improve confidence etc. to promote attractiveness. I am sure it works if you can keep up with it but if it is all an act it will come out eventually I figure. Being yourself ought to be enough for a long term partner. What might work is expanding your social circle. What always works for me is taking up salsa dancing/classes (my ex made me give it up grrr, but will pick it up again once healed). You get to meet all kinds of fun people of the opposite sex. A lot, if not all, of the people picking up salsa dancing are there to make friends and have a good time. It is/was suprising to me how quickly the whole class started hanging out at socials and bars. Just don't be that guy that hits on all the ladies, it is painfully obvious why they are there (same goes for some of the ladies there). I actually made it a rule to not hit on anyone in my danceclasses since reputation travels fast in that scene. But you quickly make female friends, who have friends, and those have friends etc. etc. and before you know it you meet someone you click with. I can pretty much guarantee it. Oh yes, it also helps if you actually enjoy dancing You can change salsa for any other activity that involves interacting with the opposite sex. I just mentioned salsa because of personal experience, it being extremely fun, unassuming, and supposedly Sydney has quite a vibrant salsa scene. Enjoy! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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