drifter777 Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 RA's make total sense. It is a real betrayal of trust and emotionally devastating. But it is devastating more often than not because you are being deprived of your favorite and most powerful oxytocin, serotonin, and testosterone fix. Cheating is a threat to your chemical addiction, and people act just like an addict looking for a fix when they get cheated on or left. It is horrible and a perhaps one of the worst human weaknesses... Huh? What color is the sky in your world? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Just broke it off a couple hours ago and told her I'm seeing someone else. Off course she flipped out as expected and asked if I had cheated (LOL) that's when I said And what if I did, like you have any values. Says the worthless cheater who cheats with my friend and I simply rubbed it all in her face, everything I wanted to say in those weak moments that somehow I didn't have the balls to. I made cry off course and thing is I found it funny and started laughing. I didn't care anymore. I told her she was a POS and how much I regret even wasting time being with her, how I wish I had never even met her. Also I didn't told her is who the woman is. I guess it won't take too long before she finds out but so what. I don't care anymore. Nelly is the girl for me: very attractive, smart and assertive. Hmmm....let's break this down, Bugs Bunny. 1. Rubbed her face in it. 2. Made her cry and you found her pain funny and started laughing in her face. 3. Called her a piece of sh*t and that she was a waste of time. 4. Told her you regretted ever meeting her. 5. Informed her that you're cheating on her and leaving her for this person (plus, I bet you're looking forward for her to find out) Ummmm.....yeah. THAT'S A BULLY. The only thing you probably didn't do is dunk her head in a toilet and flushed it a few times. Oh, and doesn't have it in her to hurt herself? Just like you probably thought she never had it in her to cheat on you? Or you didn't have it in you to go from a nice guy to a cheating douche rocket? Yeah, don't count anything out. Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 I represent a former good man :lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
campfire Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Someone asked me if I'm still together with the person who cheated on me and got revenge cheated on by me. Yes we are still together and the relationship between us has improved from the state it was between her and my cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
mattny Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Wow. You sound like my ex gf. Thanks for putting it into perspective. I emotionally cheated on my ex. Tried to work things out through a tough time and ended up with that. Got caught. Told her i wanted to fix things and if she didnt want me around I was cool with it and accepted the consequences and would leave. She stopped me and wanted to work on us. We got better and improved as a couple over as a year passed. We hit another rough patch when i was unemployed and stress was high. Several flags sent my gut instinct up and she pulled the 'im not happy' line and dumped me. Said she regretted her decision and she thought i was a bump on a log. Found out she was hooking up with some gym rat that in turn pushed her to the side once she gave it up to him. Now she is dating someone else, but what burns me the most is that if you take them back, WORK on it. Dont use it as a temp solution while you go out to seek revenge. No one put a gun to my ex's head but she did it anyway. I took the second chance as a way to really improve myself to the best I could be for someone I love. I thought we were going to make it, even had $ aside for a ring because I thought 'someone who sees me past my mistakes and is willing to try again and work on us is worth keeping around for the rest of my life.' Thats the real sting and pain. I didnt go out and mess around again, I cleaned my act up cuse what I had was good and I didnt want to lose it. I made the effort to be a better person, considering all the second chance stories about where they got back together and they went right back to cheating, I think Im one of the lucky few to have a eureka moment and man the **** up. How do you know she wasnt doing the same? The new girl will walk all over you and give you the boot when she sees fit. Judging by your responses youre a stubborn ass so what goes around will come around. From one guy to another, you really are a douche rocket and you are a shining example as to why legit good guys can never get a girl because their exes burned said women and now they dont trust anyone. A mature person would have broke it off back then and walked. Not got even. You and my ex both think alike. Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Looks like you became what you hated. Welcome to the dark side. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
revelations Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 It seems to me that a lot of people are unhappy that OP gave his cheating girlfriend a taste of her own medicine. OP's reaction may not have been very healthy, however he got a sense of justice which probably was important to him. Truthfully the OP's girlfriend has no right to expect that OP remain faithful because she had cheated already. However I must admit that rubbing it in her face might have been a bit much, but oh well. Myself I was never on board with an RA only because I would never believe that the cheater would be actually hurt by it. However that is just me, I don't believe a word that comes out of a cheaters mouth and only half of what I see from them. My best revenge has always came from living well after dumping the cheater. I remember that I had bumped into an ex that cheated on me. She of course was saying that she felt sorry for what she had done and did not like to see me bummed out like I was. Now truthfully I was bummed out at the time because I had to postpone a vacation, however I did not tell her this. She was convinced that I was down in the dumps about her, still pinning over her. So when she told me this I simply retorted with "No, I am just bummed out because I have to lay off of having sex for a week, I have some friction burns". She of course got kind of pissed by this answer. To me revenge or hating the cheater is just not worth it. Often times people think that the opposite of love is hate, however it is not. Indifference is the opposite of love. That is how I feel about my ex's is indifferent to them. I can care less if they are happy or sad, doing well or doing poorly, I just don't give a rats a$$. Maybe OP felt that he had to take some sort of action against his cheating girlfriend. The truth is that the next time this woman thinks of cheating I will bet that she will remember what happened when she cheated on OP and think twice about it. I will also bet that if she does cheat again, she will be very worried about another RA happening to her. Either way OP's cheating girlfriend does regret cheating on OP in more than one way now. What OP did was not taking the moral high ground, however it did serve to teach OP's cheating girlfriend a lesson. I guess that old saying is true "All's fair in love and war". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Womaneyezer Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 OP is an idiot. Shaking my dang head. Link to post Share on other sites
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