Beanacre0 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 Ever since I developed my first crush at the age of eleven, I have liked guys that have never liked me back. Granted my first crush was a really bad choice and I only like the way he looked, but I've only really liked two other guys in my entire life and that's been while I've been at University. The first guy I liked, I thought he was cute, kind and funny. He was really nice and about three days into knowing him he dropped the bomb on us that he might have cancer. I was really worried about him, and he thought I was weird and decided to just ignore me. He did the same to my friend, who is one of the nicest people you will ever meet, because she too liked him. I soon realised he was a bit of a d**k and stopped liking him. However the second guy I have liked now for about two/three years. He's my best guy friend (though we're not that close anymore sadly) and I've tried to stop liking him and failed. At one point I thought he might like me too, but that wasn't the case. Sometimes I think he could like me, but I know I've got to break myself out of those thoughts. How do I go about breaking myself out this cycle? If could date another guy, I would but there's no one I'm interested in at the moment. There's a friend who I thought maybe I could like but we kissed and it was horrible, as in tongue right down the throat, and instead of feeling some sort of lust or something it just sort of felt weird. Has anyone else been through the same thing? If so, how did you break it? I mean I don't really want a relationship, but perhaps a fling with someone who liked me and I liked them. I just can't seem to find that at the moment. I don't know. Am I just being picky? Link to post Share on other sites
WeirdChick Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 I think you should try to meet more men and find out what you really want. I mean how can you like someone for 2-3 years? Either you are madly in love with that person, if unrequited love -that calls for another strategy to cope with. But you just like someone, then it should be fairly easy to forget him. Try to date other guys to take your mind off that person. Also be certain what kind of guy you want to be with and what sort of relationship. Stop hoping that he might like you some day. He had enough time to make his move. stop spending time with him as friends. If you always go for unavailable guys, then there might some unresoved issue with your self-esteem, something like, that you dont feel that you deserve to be loved or have happy relationship. In such case I would try to develop self-esteem and confidence. Any any case, I wish you lots of success. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Beanacre0 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Share Posted May 17, 2014 I don't think that I'm in love with him. I think it depends on the level of like whether or not you forget them quickly. If I could date other guys then I would haha. It's not that they're unavailable, it's just they don't feel the same way. If they had girlfriends, then I would force myself to think differently. Link to post Share on other sites
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