Loveless21 Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 How the hell can i ever mkve on and live a normal life? I was betrayed by mmy husband, always turning to women when thjngs got tough... The second divorce was mentioned his whole family basically turned cold toward me. I got 2 phone calls from all of them combined in a one yr period. Its veeerry difficult bc i was ssooooo close to them and i feel like my whole world is turned upside down. Noone cares, noone is there for me and friends we both know are siding with him bc they knew him since childhood and not me.. I feel like i want to try again with him bc this is so damnned difficult and i miss certain things about him and us. He came to my therapist last week and said straight up hes not sure he wants to try again bc it will prob end the same way and he cannot guarantee he wont turn to women when things get tough. My whole self confidence is out the window. I am soo needy and have noone to fill that void. I dind it weird to be with guys bc im married yet i need the attention so badly. I feel worthless and i just feel like there is no hope... Life for me is work and being a single mom... He is happy he has more freedom than he ever had with us.. I know im being an idiot holding onto somthing that is most likely not even there. Its only there in my mind.. But he was also stringing me along saying i love u then sleeping with me .. Idiotic bc he gets his needs filled but my emotional needs are just going unfilled. Im becoming more and more empty.. More and more bitter. More and more untrusting of everyone bc everyone turned their back on me. Link to post Share on other sites
wd32789 Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 Hello there, Im really sorry this has happened to you. It sounds like a tough situation, but in the long term, if he has admitted he will always turn to women when it gets tough then he isnt worth fighting for! He needs to take responsibility for his own marriage and his own urges, and if he cant do that then he has issues. Try to concentrate on yourself here. What makes you happy? What can you do to try and move forward on a day to day basis? Try not to think of the whys and think of whats right in front of you now. Its natural to feel like you do, but you must try to believe in yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted May 16, 2014 Share Posted May 16, 2014 You, understandably, sound very depressed. Firstly, you must gain emotional control over yourself, and become well. Please see a doctor asap. You have to be a strong woman for children. Screw the friends. And what good is he to you at the moment? Every type of message he gives you is a knife in the heart. NC - no contact with him, period. Tell him to get out two-timer. Tape record his fat mouth before you to - so a judge can hear about his conduct, if it comes down to it. Get you act together. You gotta be smart now. Play "woe as me" until you have tape receded evidence - then, have him served, and get him out. Start moving money right now, and get an attorney. You can collect that evidence in one night and have served next week. Hon, you don't have a choice with this one. He's doing even more than he admits. Stop the pity-party, and let go. Begging, crying, pleading is just going to make you look like an idiot. See the 180's and NC in my signature line or pinned thread in this section of forum. Dry your tears, take some tylanol, make appt. At doctor, find a divorce attorney, and pick up a digital recorder at Walmart. That will keep you busy today. These are the steps a smart women will take. Read your post, and ask yourself - what advice would I give someone? Yas Link to post Share on other sites
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