_Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 ok lil bit of background..........he broke up with me 10 weeks ago, no contact for 4/5 weeks. im coping perfectly well right now. then i get an email this morning........just wondering really what you guys make of this......... Hello. How are you? I'm doing ok. ok i spose, i dont know the difference anyway, you know? Growing up is hard to do, especially when I am 28 on Monday and should already be more than half way there. Probably further than that. Havent shaved for almost two months, look kinda like a wolf / neglected doll hybrid. (Child beard / spikey almost hair affair). Hope you are ok, mean that. Yours <name> wtf???????? Link to post Share on other sites
DinNJ Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 I think he wants you to send him some razors for his birthday... Truth is... he's feeling lonely... down... and appartenly 'dirty' SHAVE YO' FACE ALREADY!!! Don't respond... cause that's what he's waiting for and he needs to express himself a little more then that. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Hey Saffy, you have my sympathy. A slightly disturbing mail to get. My reactions: I don't know if this is his usual standard of articulacy, but I would have to be very drunk or in awful emotional shape to write like this. That's gotta be a factor. He's definitely looking for a sympathy response - "don't know where I'm going, it's my birthday but I feel down and am not growing up, feel so bad I'm no longer grooming myself". My personal reaction would be to not even dignify this with a reply. He's thinking about himself and his needs here. He may not even feel the same way about you sober. Mind if I ask: would you want him back? Even if this is the case, I'd wait for a more worthy communication. If you want him and he doesn't write back, you could always wait a week, then send him a bright and breezy "hello" mail. And don't forget, you always have the safety net of a night of passion in Brussels Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 I think he wants you to send him some razors for his birthday... And don't forget, you always have the safety net of a night of passion in Brussels im swimming already baby seriously........... wtf? it was sent at 9.10am, eliminates being drunk, he would have just got into work. he ended things, not me, i did all that "take me back" shyt, never ever EVER again!! besides if he wanted me back, wouldnt he tell me how hot he is right now?? Link to post Share on other sites
DinNJ Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 nope.... cause he wants a sympathy response. He's not drunk.... he's lonely... missing you. Suck it up and enjoy the satisfaction now.... feels good doesn't it? Think about how you felt TRYING to get back with him and didn't get a good response outta him... Don't write back. Put a BIG on your face and let him pursue you now. Ball is in YOUR court. Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 oh im not gonna write back, no worries there..........the tears i cried over that guy could have made a new ocean dont feel good tho really, and i do feel sorry for him, sounds like hes not doing too good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 no takers then? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 I already have 1 pet werewolf. They're such a hassle to feed and care for.... and the grooming is a nightmare Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 how about a welsh bird? hehe Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ how about a welsh bird? hehe What do I need to do to care for her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo What do I need to do to care for her? lots of love and affection and plenty of patience Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ lots of love and affection and plenty of patience You got it baby - I'm loaded with all of them Where should I deliver to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo You got it baby - I'm loaded with all of them Where should I deliver to? haha i was almost tempted to post my address here !! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ haha i was almost tempted to post my address here !! Lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 just dont forget the chilled champagne and the belgian chocs Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ just dont forget the chilled champagne and the belgian chocs I won't.... check out your messages btw. Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 From a guy's perspective......... he's lonely.. and wonders what your up too.... and he's a typical guy... says stupid s*** (like background noise) so as to limit the touchy/feely/missing you type of emotions........ as far as what you should do........ i think you should........ shruge it off......... if he's looking to reconcile.... he'll try try try again until oneday he stops and finds someone else... or he simply comes to realize he doesn't love you..... either way... you win........ cause you get the honest truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 9, 2005 Author Share Posted February 9, 2005 lol well he aint gonna get me back looking like the back end of a grey hound !! Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ lol well he aint gonna get me back looking like the back end of a grey hound !! Thats correct 'saffy' dumpers should be made to cry out blood.... Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Oh s***......... you again.......... Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by WantanS4 Oh s***......... you again.......... excuse me !!!! Link to post Share on other sites
moon Posted February 12, 2005 Share Posted February 12, 2005 I think that I would like to get an e-mail like this from an ex (or the most current one of 3.5 months). I guess it sounds like he's had a rough time of it. Maybe he had another bad night of sleep and just said what they hell, I'll right the girl and let my secret out: I'm a loser. He obviously remembers that he did the dumping, yet he's the one having the problems.....Well I am sure it's not supposed to work that way. Not shaving for two months?! Is that normal for him? I suspect he wants some sort of sympathy from you. Good for you for keeping up NC. What to tell you? I don't know what your relationship was like before. Only you know if it's worth it to respond to this guy's omissions of desperation. I'd probably give it at least two weeks before I wrote him back. But If my ex did in fact write me an e-mail like this I wouldn't respond. He'd need to send like ten of those for me to think he'd changed at all. But I don't know your story, so it's up to you what you do. But pat yourself on the back for making him regret his careless actions of cutting you lose. It sounds like maybe you were the better for it. If the guy was decent to you through out the relationship, didn't cheat or lie and broke up with you because he needed some space or some other cliche and now he's back....I might get in touch again. But if he was a jerk and put you through hell, then don't let yourself repeat your mistakes. But like I said, only you know what it's all worth. Anyway, good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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