does she like me?

[Frank85]

ok some girl at work has a bf and shown interest in me. Now I am NOT chasing as I respect her relationship and wont bother with rubbish like that so recently I decided to keep her at arms length and get on with things. Only for things to get a lot deeper between me and her...

 

three weeks ago I asked her closest colleague if she liked me and her colleague told me she didn't and was loyal to her boyfriend. So, over the last two weeks I haven't sat next to her and sit as far away as possible. I don't make much eye contact, just say hello, don't intentionally try to make her laugh. But I when I look at her, she has this coy look in her eyes as if she is really happy to see me, and she laughs at everything I say even when I am not trying to be funny - always ending with "youre so funny".

 

Last week I got rude to her unintentionally as work was just getting to me and her colleague told me that she was not happy about it. so I sent an apology email but she insisted that she didn't find me offensive. So I questioned he colleague and she said that "I melt her anger" (?!?!?!)

 

This week I have been trying to really avoid her but I feel she is just trying to get closer. two days ago, she was sending me emails joking around, and was showing me videos on her phone of her niece (after I was talking to another colleague about my nephew), she kept asking me for help and was teasing me about another girl.

 

Today, after 15 mins of sitting down, she says hello to me and starts talking to me her work day yesterday which was interrupted by our manager. she then came over to where I was sitting twice and tapped me on my neck playfully one of the times. she also responded to a message I sent her a week ago saying that only just seen it and apologised when she was sitting in the office but did not look at me after that. I mean she could just verbally said it to me instead. what has caught my attention though is that she seemed upset and showing signs of jealousy which I am trying to avoid. Her colleague was teasing me about liking her in front of her and trying to get me to compliment her.

 

as I have said I am trying to get on with things but a feeling between is telling me she likes me. If that's the case, I wont try to break her and her bf up.

 

What do u guys think I should do?

Edited May 16, 2014 by Frank85
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[Snipercatt]

Respect your core values, always, regardless of other peoples irresponsible behavior. Don't be fooled.

[jellybean89]

Why are you asking co-workers if she "likes" you?

 

Can I ask how old you are?

 

The situation sounds very "junior high" in the whole "she laughs at my jokes, she gives me eye contact, she touched my neck", etc.

 

You know she has a boyfriend. Period. That's all that matters.

 

Maybe she is just nice and friendly to everyone yet you are making more of it because of your feelings for her?

 

You have a crush on someone. That's normal...but the whole analyzing every thing she says, does and writes is kinda something I would expect from a 15 year old.

 

We have no idea if she likes you. If you want to date her, ask her out. But I would advise you to stop asking co-workers if she likes you, if she is mad at you, if she xyz. You are at work - be professional.