Wife wants to have open marriage so she can have sex with other men

[pteromom]

the only thing that scaring me getting a divorce is that she will go on with that life style and my kids will be seeing that. it will destroy them.

 

No it won't. Trust me on this one... you can have a very messed up parent who makes very questionable choices, and turn out just fine.

 

They have you. And no matter what your wife does, you can continue to talk to your children, get them counseling if need be, teach them your values...

[CarrieT]

the only thing that scaring me getting a divorce is that she will go on with that life style and my kids will be seeing that.

And if you keep your kids within the "sanctity of a dysfunctional marriage" - of the sake of a "family" - they are eventually going to see their mother for who she is (whether or not you are married to her).

 

The difference is that they will then question YOU and why you chose to put up with her actions and antics.

 

If you had a daughter who was living with a man wanting to do what your wife is doing, would you suggest that your daughter continue in a sham marriage like that?

 

Lead by example. Teach your children right from wrong.

[Cali408]

Lord knows I haven't been perfect. But you need to boot her out. She has a sickness and is using it to up her self esteem. She hates herself.

 

Go get a free consultation from a lawyer. Weigh your options. You don't need this dysfunction

 

Best of luck

[harrybrown]

give her the D before she leaves.

 

Tell her not to come back.

[Chi townD]

Dude! Like I said, she knows she's got you by the short hairs. She cheated before and you didn't go anywhere. She saw the pain and devastation that it caused you, and what did she do? She did it again! Now, she's telling you she's going to sleep with as many people as she wants and you just need to learn to live with it.

 

You know why she did that? Because she believes you're not in a position to do anything about it. She knows you can't afford a lawyer, so you can't divorce her. She knows that you don't want to do anything to disrupt the kids lives. AND she knows you're not going anywhere and that there's nothing you can do about it.

 

Well, time to blast her out of the fantasy world she's living in. If you don't have the money, start pawning off stuff. Go into the garage and collect up some tools you don't use anymore...whatever! Get the money. Talk to your folks and see if they can lend you the money. If they saw the pain you went through last time, they won't have a problem giving you the cash to be rid of her. They'll think of it as a solid investment.

 

And as far as the kids go. You need to only worry about them, because someone has to. Your wife is preoccupied on what SHE wants, chances are she's not being the type of mother that she should be. So, you need to be the Dad. Their rock. Someone that can lean on and depend on. Those kids and yourself are the ONLY things you should be taking care of.

 

And I still stand by my original post. If she leaves for that trip, tell her not to bother coming back.

[beatcuff]

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it started with sever depression followed by unemployment for about 18 months or so, then nothing after that. <snip> we get in fights all the time because she said we don't have enough sex. Honestly, in the past 2 years at least i don't remember not having sex every single day. but i wasn't enough no more she wanted it 3 times a day or more ...

 

this REALLY jumped out to me. and if it did not happen to 'me' i would not believe it either, but:

 

my sister-in-law had depression after her M failed, went on meds... for a six month period went from a 'frumpy' housewife --- well she ended up meeting different men for sex during her lunch break. she could not get enough, and as this brief time period moved along she became riskier (craiglist NSA) and unusual acts (Dominance, etc). but otherwise was 'normal'. my W accidentally discovered it, went to the doc, he stopped that med and within weeks she was back to 'normal'.

 

all that for --- is she being treated for D? with meds? if so time to call the doc.

[ashleyjohn]

My husband was the same. He chatted day in and day out with women, from across the globe, online. I reached my breaking point and filed for a divorce. I suggest you do the same, unless you really love her.

[No Limit]

I suggest you do the same, unless you really love her.

 

Even if he loves her he'd do better to get out of there as soon as possible.

The thread title already sounds like "My wife wants my permission to cheat", this is toxic and ignorant and selfish and what not. Nobody needs a wife like that.

[jbelle6]

She sounds like a vile pig, sorry to put it bluntly.

I don't judge open marriages but you both have to agree with it BEFORE you just f*ck other people.

 

Some mental illnesses can cause hyper sexuality like Bipolar so I'm not sure if she is been diagnosed with anything like that or if she is being treated?

 

I LOVE sex and would have it all day if I could but I can keep my hands out of my pants in order to take care of my child and be part of society!!!

 

I think you should just tell her not to come back from her sex vacation, condoms don't protect against everything 100% This is just so yucky.