robertsydney Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 So I met this girl in my workplace and as I soon as I saw her I felt something. So each time we worked we really got along and she would look at me and even flirt with me. One day after work she actually asked for my number. So we text heaps heaps and she would compliment me and I her. I fell for her and I happened to ask her out twice but she turned me down both times with valid reasons. So I didn't try again. Anyway when I was texting today and she said that she was staying on the city with the "guy I'm seeing friends aunties house haha". This really hurt and I don't know if I should give up stay friends, what do I do now. She always goes out of her way to work with me and be with me at work idk. Link to post Share on other sites
BeaverPants Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 She is seeing someone. Accept a work based friendship, .... or quit your job if it's "too much" to face someone you can't "have". Link to post Share on other sites
johnpatric Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 Hmm its sounds like she likes you.. Ask her out and make it confirm what she thinks about you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author robertsydney Posted May 17, 2014 Author Share Posted May 17, 2014 Hmm its sounds like she likes you.. Ask her out and make it confirm what she thinks about you.. Do you think it is a good idea to ignore her, which would let her know how i feel. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 ^NO! You can't ignore a coworker! Be professional. It does sound like she started something she couldn't finish, but I guess you can't jump to conclusions that that means she might date you. There are some people who just collect people. I have a friend like that, always taking numbers, and just building a "network." This is particularly common business. If I were you, I'd summon up whatever maturity and control you have and just peel it all back and stop thinking of her as a potential date. Obviously, she's bold, so even if you step back and refocus your mind away from her (without ignoring her, just being casual and less contact), if she decides she is ready for a date, I have no doubt she will let you know. Meanwhile, I'd be careful about dating someone who gathers so many numbers while she's taken!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author robertsydney Posted May 29, 2014 Author Share Posted May 29, 2014 Just an up date on the situation, I accepted that she had another guy. So I like distanced myself from her, kept texting to a minimum. As I don't want to be a 'friend' of a girl as she would be just leeching of me. So after two weeks I had gotten over her, and then she texts me in broken down and depressed. The guy who she was dating did something to her. He wanted to have sex with her along those lines and she didn't, blah blah blah etc. Now she's like aww you're such a nice guy and not like the rest, I want to work next to you tomorrow ok. Now I'm over her and I think she has been saving guys and I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 29, 2014 Share Posted May 29, 2014 She's probably still just thinking of you as a friend, and it's good you're over her. If she dated him and didn't want to have sex, then that is at least more information to know -- unless she's lying of course. She may just be someone who likes to keep dating around but not get in too deep. I still say you'd do well to keep the relationship peeled back like you did do and not let her escalate it because it's almost certain that if you did date, it would end with her crying on someone's work shoulder about how you wanted to have sex and she didn't!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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