Radu Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 Sigh. I don't know how to take this post, or if it's meant as a personal dig or not. So I'll just sigh, since I didn't insert a dig at you in mine and certainly didn't call you a misogynist. Oh well. No doubt that there are misandrists around. But since this is a thread that has brought out some misogynistic overtones, it seems more relevant to discuss that topic. We can discuss misandry in that thread about why married men cheat, if you like. But that's not the topic here. It's meant as a neutral analysis. Most guys who are mysoginistic on this site come and go, though there are some guys who keep staying. Most women who are misandristic are old timers on this forum, less that just came and went right into it. Link to post Share on other sites
Fluttershy Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 I know some pretty hypocritical women that probably never give their spouse's a moments rest. And it also uually comes out in money too. There is this friend of ours who is married to the biggest princess you ever met. She does cook and clean I'll give her that. But he cleans too and does everything else. She works because she wants to and so she can spend money like it is going out of style, hers and his. She literaly spends thousands of dollars while he gets in trouble for the smallest purchase. Equality abd compromise are not her friend. She is proud of being a bitch too. At his last birthday she got after him for sittig sown with his drink while "she was doing all the work..." But he loves her a lot and they have been together since they were 16 and 15 abd are in their late thirties. So I can see this behaviour happening. But I think it is just as much hisfault as hers. He allowed it and spoiled her. She gets what she wants so why change? As for my husband and I? We both work and neither of us have nap. But I do remember internally being frustrated eith my husband when he would nap when the kids were small. My reason was because I was tired too but he got to nap while I got things done during kids naps. I was jealous. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Me and my friend were discussing similar experiences about how some women go berserk when they see their man so much as take nap. Sometimes they also won't allow a man to get sick and, if he gets sick, will still insist that he act as normal and do his usual work around the house, etc. I do know not all women are like this. Some truly get joy out of caring for their man and like him to feel good. But why do some women not do this? My friend actually said his ex started CRYING when she came home and he was napping. My own ex-wife got mad at me for having a stomach virus where I was throwing up. She ran to her parents house to complain about me. I mean, seriously, when it comes time for me to die, will they allow me to die in peace? What?????????????? How does someone get mad you are sick? That's crazy. I am sick in my own way cause I kind of like it a lot. I like taking care of people though. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 What?????????????? How does someone get mad you are sick? That's crazy. I am sick in my own way cause I kind of like it a lot. I like taking care of people though. Keep in mind most of the examples in this thread are of women who are at quite the extreme of the selfishness spectrum. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Keep in mind most of the examples in this thread are of women who are at quite the extreme of the selfishness spectrum. For that observation, I'd like to award you a nap. Take as long as you like, enjoy! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Giggle Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Honestly yup, my ex resting drove me bonkers... If he got to and I didn't. This mostly hit on the weekend when hey, he didn't have to work. Joy for you, I still have to get up at 7 to go do chores and milk the cow.. But hey, you sleep in. I still had 5 kids that wanted food, that I still had to clean up after and hey.. I'm cleaning your clothes too. But hey, you don't have to work today so relax while I continue doing all the things I have to do all day long Then you have him sick.. Big ass baby.. Take a day off work? Suuure, oh wait.. If I'm sick I still have all this stuff I gotta do. He was a bit ridiculous he'd take a personal day because he felt like it. On the otherhand he would go out and work himself into heat exhaustion and I would have to bitch to get him to sit the hell down. His opinion was that I just keep going and going and a normal person couldn't keep up with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 A guy I know recently divorced his stuff and he said the best thing about being single is he can do whatever he wants on his day off and there is nobody to to yell at him about it. He recently had a vacation from work and he said that even though he never went anywhere doing what he want when he wanted for a week was heaven. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snappytomcat Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 usually when my husband gets home he naps on the couch,and I go into the room fold laundry,watch tv or go outside and do some watering,he also sounds like a dying moose when he snores,but it absolutely doesn't bother me that he naps. im a free spirit,so I don't have a routine and I hate to do list,i even hate grocery list. he works hard,so do I but I love to cook that's my passion besides my pets,so I always cook him a big meal,and he does kind things for me too,as I work hard also 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 I grew up with a dad that followed the "misery loves company" motto so if he was having to do stuff the kids better be moving. So there was not obvious laying around! So I don't nap, never have and feel crappy if I do. But I am fine when my husband does. There are two reasons for that, one, he does a great deal of work, two he rarely does nothing. Shoot I am usually happy when he is vegging because then I can veg! That man is like the energizer bunny! And yes I take care of him when he is sick. He likes to be babied and he gets it. I wish I got babied more but oh well. Again, I think there is some level of relief when he is out as I can be a bum. He gets soup, a kiss on the forehead, a damp cloth and lots of clucking over him. I get time to sit on the computer, eating candy, and watching chick flicks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RoseMadder Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 If H is tired and wants a nap he has a nap I admit I get pissed off when he turns into a 6.4 baby when he's got a cold, perhaps I'm not the most nurturing of people, I'm certainly not going to run around making chicken soup and telling him he's a big brave soldier. I'm not his bloody mother. If he had the flu or injured himself I'd be happy to look after him but given that the common cold is enough to have him dictating his last will and testament I doubt he'd survive anything more serious 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Maybe they believe that napping makes you lazy. Not saying that's true, just that I've encountered that belief before. I have a family member who gives me crap about staying up late and sleeping in late because that makes me lazy apparently. Some people have messed up beliefs they were taught in childhood. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 This thread reminded me of a joke I heard one time.... "Why do women close their eyes when having sex?" ......They just cant bear to see a man actually enjoying himself..... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Why do some women not let their men rest? So he'll be too tired to desire some noogie. Link to post Share on other sites
Smilecharmer Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 You guys must have the worst wives on the planet......you sound bitter and defeated. Maybe you should have picked better or got a divorce...oh, yeah you did and you are still hung up on them. They still live in your noggin. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Oh geez, with Keith it's the complete opposite. On the rare occasions he gets sick, he doesn't get all "man-flu" about it. He's pretty stoic. On the other hand, when he's sick I tend to soften up a lot from how I normally am and baby him and make him dress warmly, make him soup, have him take stuff for his cold, go to bed and get extra sleep, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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