Ignoring

[FrostBlaze]

Me and this friend have argued. THis friend knows i forgive easy and have done so in the past.

As such he keeps pestering me, despite the fact that i made it clear i don't want to have anything to do with him right now since i am angry.

I am generally against ignoring(silent treatment) since i find it very childish...i find myself doing it.

How else can i make him leave me be and understand that i am upset? I ain't just gonna forgive like last time.

 

I mean i told it to his face, he still doesn't get it xD.

[nescafe1982]

I don't think ignoring is a bad way to assert distance. You tried being direct (telling him "I need space, leave me be) and he disregarded your request. That is a bit disrespectful and immature on his part, frankly.

 

At this point, I would be ignoring any further attempts at contact. Let yourself work through whatever made you angry. And if/when you are ready to talk, call him up.

 

But I think it's important that when you draw a boundary with someone who has angered you, that you have every reason to expect them not to cross it.

[Tailor2000]

I don't know how you picked up what the OP said, as it actually isn't there.

 

What I'll ask the OP is :

 

 

• How did he upset you (I upset my ex the once by telling her I thought she wasn't treating me very well and that warranted five weeks silence from her!)
  
• What did you say when asking him to back off? Some people think they're being direct when they're just beating around the bush.
  
• Also what is he saying? Is he just trying to carry on like nothings happened or is he trying to get in touch because he wants to see how hurt you are, whether he can fix it?
  

 

I'd just say it like you said it there, say that you're angry and when you're ready to forgive you'll let him know but further repeats at contact will just lead to even more anger.

 

If he's a sensitive guy, he probably won't be able to cope with no contact from you, since that's virtually the same as ignoring him (I understand people get angry and need some breathing space, but seriously, n/c for however many weeks instead of just having a big argument and realising whether you want them as a friend or not)

 

If he's sensitive, he'll probably need a status update, a ping from you just to let him know you're still there and working on it. He won't know what's going on in your head and that'll drive him insane and maybe a little anxious.

[FrostBlaze]

It's a she btw.

I said it pretty bluntly. "You said what you had to say, i understood it clearly, there's no point in talking about it any longer. I am upset right now so just leave me alone. And take care with whatever else you are going to do".

^ Kinda like a farewell really.

 

Then that person just kept messaging me every now and then like nothing happened..."ey wanna play blabla on FB?". >_>

 

I told her " why are you still talking to me? don't u get it". Just freaking teasing me, then she said. "if u don't want to talk to me, ignore me on FB"...

[Tailor2000]

Sorry. Your opening post said him, he, his etc.

 

Eh. Sounds like your "friend" doesn't respect you. If the contact was along the lines of an apology or something, or trying to see if you're Ok, fair enough. But from what you said?

 

Not nice. Go and block on Facebook then.