Emotionally abusive friendship - how to avoid it

[sarbunoemi]

For 2 years, I was in a religious group full of young people. Then a new girl came, 27 years old, working for her mother , lives with her parents, etc.

For almost 2 years our friendship was okay,she considers me her best friend, though I consider her a simple casual friend.

Anyway, since January, I have felt quite awkward around her, I have felt negative because she is too dependant on her parents, she is afraid to go alone anywhere, she stresses alot, she says she doesn't know where to work anymore.

She finished her 5 year Geography college and I suggested her to use that diploma to search for a job.

Now, I feel very tired when I am near her, I try to listen to her, I try to support her but my patience is drowning. What can I do?

[Tressugar]

Limit your interaction with her or simply abandon your relationship with her. I've learned you can't change people. Life is too short! I'd say it's time for a spring cleaning.

[preraph]

Yeah, bail. As you noted, she's a dependent type: Needy. She will drain you dry if you let her. You're her "best friend" because everyone else who's befriended her has long since taken off running.

[SpiralOut]

She doesn't sound emotionally abusive, just emotionally draining like a vampire which still isn't good. Phase her out.

[ja123]

Yeah, I was going to say something similar to SpiralOut. Research "emotional vampires".