allez102 Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Hi all, I'm a girl, and a few months ago, one of my best girl mates invited me to do a works do as her boyfriend was away on a stag do. She doesn't seem close to many people in work as they are all a lot older than her, but she is close to one guy who a few years older than us. Me and him got talking as the night went on and I really started to like him, I felt like we clicked which I don't feel that often! When we got home, I was chatting with my friend about him and seemed quite annoyed that I was talking about him fondly. She pulled a face and said something like "You wouldn't suit" + "I don't think he's your type". She said it in a way that was almost as if she was trying to tell me to back off. I haven't mentioned him to her since. I kind of tried to push him to the back of my mind after that. But I have seen him a few times since, e.g. I sometimes meet up with her and her work friends after work on a Friday. But she often wants to go home early back to her boyfriend who she doesn't see much in the week, and so I will go back as well as I can't stay out with her work friends! Every time I see him though I like him more No idea if he likes me. He seems to show an interest as he asks me lots of questions but that may just be him being polite. I don't think i'll be seeing him for a while so I really really want to get his number or add him on a social networking site or something. But I know that from what my friend said before, she probably wouldn't be best pleased about this And probably wouldn't let me come out on Fridays with her work friends again. Also, if he liked me as much he probably would have tried to make contact with me, but maybe he's in the same predicament that I am? What to do? I really don't want to talk to her about it after what happened last time I tried that! Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 But she often wants to go home early back to her boyfriend But I know that from what my friend said before, she probably wouldn't be best pleased about this Also, if he liked me as much he probably would have tried to make contact with me, but maybe he's in the same predicament that I am? I think it's ridiculous that she got upset about you talking about this guy when she actually has a boyfriend. Sounds like she's either secretly crushing or just needs to be the center of attention and wants all the guys to be in love with her. I think she has issues. A real friend would be wishing you the best. If you're really attracted to this guy and have no other reason to avoid him, I wouldn't let this girl's childish attitude get in the way. It's not a given that if he liked you that he'd have already made a move. Lot's of guys need a bit of reassurance that it's ok to take the risk. So if you like him then talk to him and give him that reassurance and let nature take its course. You don't need to keep her informed, but realize that if all goes well with the guy you may not be able to keep being friends with her. Just let the chips fall as they may. Her pettiness is not your problem. As Patsy said to Loretta, "you got to run your own life." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 What to do? I really don't want to talk to her about it after what happened last time I tried that! To supplement what salparadise said, your "friend" isn't being a good friend. Unless the guy is a known player/douche bag, which your "friend" would of told you, but instead she gave you cryptic dissuasion. You like guy, so then go talk to him. Drop a big hint that you would like to see him one-on-one for a date. Or just be overt, give him your number, and tell him if he asks you out, you'll say yes. Please, for your sanity, and all of us on LS, do not add him or have him add you on Facebook. Because you'll most likely be back on here trying to decipher why he hasn't asked you out yet. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 Since she has a boyfriend, the only thing I can think of why she'd care is if she's afraid you'd gossip about her or say unflattering things about her to just tell him things she wouldn't share with coworkers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author allez102 Posted May 20, 2014 Author Share Posted May 20, 2014 Thanks all for your help. Something tells me she might be crushing on him. I think I may possibly be seeing him tomorrow so I guess this is a chance for me to be more forward and ask him for his number!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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