I did it...I cut off and burned the bridge... [update]

[Quiet Storm]

It was disrespectful.

 

Ignore him and focus on your marriage.

 

You now feel validated because he was so concerned, and risked getting caught, and even walked with dogs for you.

 

You focus on that interpretation, instead of telling yourself- he's disrespectful, and reckless, and a cheater and liar. And he hates dogs.

 

If you really want to get over him you have to stop romanticizing it and see him for the pathetic person that he really is.

[Daisy2013]

Again, thanks, I knew y'all would set me straight. He was clock watching when he came by...still afraid of getting caught. I guess it just caught me off guard because it was so unlike him to do this. Really. And I thought it would anger him enough to just go away. I did get a laugh though. I have toe german shepherds and the male walked up to him and licked his pant leg. He handled it well, though. He really hates dogs. And he even used that as an excuse with me one time.

 

Ok, back to reality. Thank each of you so much.

[A.Moscote]

Focus on your goal Daisy, get back on track of growing stronger each day. Again, just take this latest incident as another tiny bump, don't let it halts your progress. You've done well so far, and blocking him really is a spot on wise decision, kudos.

 

Perhaps you can take one step further after this, a very substantial step. Send him one last message, clearly stating that you are blocking him after this (no need for him to be concern or worry about you, meh), and so not to contact you again until he has definitely finalize a divorce. (Of course that last part depends on whether you still have that little hope of a future with him or not.)

 

His concern was something I'd never seen.

Don't marvel too much on him knocking on your door with the concern gestures. He is trapped without a way to contact you after all. He is tricky Daisy, be careful, you've implied it to us many times before.

 

Remember, no matter how shiny his armor or how lovely his charms, don't fall back into it, because right now any form of relationship you have with him is just an affair, involves deceptions, and hurts you. Persevere through it, forget that love, not really the kind of love Jesus preached about anyway, isn't it?

 

Ok, back to reality.

Yes, definitely. Focus on plan re your family and marriage. Take your time properly and don't be afraid to start anything all over again. Be patient and calm, you'll find your way out of this misery eventually. Take care and good luck.