StrawberryGirl Posted February 9, 2005 Share Posted February 9, 2005 Has anyone of you had trouble with MM not being able to perform, either the first time you had sex or there after??? Was it because of guilt that he was cheating or do you think he truly had a "problem" and it not only occured with you but with wife also???..... My best friend has been dating this guy (they both are single) who has trouble performing, if ya know what I mean, at first she thought it was "her" but now she thinks he has a "problem". She was surprised to know I went through the same thing w/ MM (especially the first time we TRIED to have sex, he couldn't get it up I also thought it was ME but when I asked him what was wrong or if this was something that "happens" even with his wife, he said no. He said it had never happened before and he didn't know what was wrong. I believed him at first but after months of dating him it would happen less, but it would still happen, making me not believe there was nothing wrong in the performance department. She said her guy is still having issues and she wants to dump him. For me with MM, I felt frustrated @ times but dealt with it. I really didn't like bringing it up to him because I didn't want to make him feel bad I don't want to go into detail of what happens with these guys but you can inmagine. When she explained it and I explained it we were both yelling" YES THAT IS EXACTLY HAPPENS WITH HIM"....Both these guys are young..MM was 24 and her guy is 27. We both never experienced being with a man that had such an issue. What do you think was happening with MM and her guy (who has no wife)???? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Yes, guilt could definitely do that. If deep down in his heart he knows he's misbehaving, and he does have some fraction of a conscience, it will slow him down. All the more reason to leave the MM to their wives. The wives can then deal with their men's ED, and you can find a man who is sexually capable. Link to post Share on other sites
Leaf Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Wow... no, Its never happened in my case. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Maybe he is getting it too much from his wife that once he gets with you he is all worn out! Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 my mm has NEVER been able to get it up he started to the first time but then he did something that embarrassed him and down it went! i did think lots of times that it was guilt, but now i think that it was a problem he had and my purpose was to make him feel like a man again but the more he tried to do it right the more he wound himself up to the point he couldnt at all Link to post Share on other sites
Author StrawberryGirl Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 Maybe he is getting it too much from his wife that once he gets with you he is all worn out! I would of agreed that was the case but it was not. MM was separated from his wife, shew knew of his affair with me from the get go and he lived 400 miles away from both her and I due to work so when he came to town he would be with me only. So I think that theory is out the door. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 ...my purpose was to make him feel like a man again... This is one of the ickier uses for an OW that I have heard of...if you're going to have an illicit sexual affair, doesn't it make sense to have it with a man WHO CAN PERFORM SEXUALLY????? What am I missing? Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 this was in retrospect!!! i didnt think it was my purpose at the time obviously!! well i wasnt in it for the sex, myself i was in love with HIM Link to post Share on other sites
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