Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 21, 2014 Author Share Posted May 21, 2014 This girl is NOT girlfriend material! TRY to resist her "hotness". Please. Difficult advice for a guy to follow... Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 It's biometric so I just gave to have her removed from the system. Ok, she definitely would have wanted those kids. You must be loaded. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 21, 2014 Author Share Posted May 21, 2014 Ok, she definitely would have wanted those kids. You must be loaded. My brother paid for the apartment. I'm not that loaded. I'm 22, I have a long way to go career wise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 LOL. Why??? If it's what I'm thinking it isn't worth it Bro. Hah! It is. The wild ones just need some extra training. A shock collar and a riding crop should make her good in no time ----------------------------------- Don't worry dude. For you, getting the next GF won't be hard at all. You've had a very great learning experience from this. Despite her turning out bad, you've been extremely lucky to have her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 21, 2014 Author Share Posted May 21, 2014 Why don't you think it will be hard? I've had terrible luck with female friends having first been friend zoned and then ended up with a girl who is not really what I imagined at all. What other options do I have? Cold approaches don't work. OLD? Or Tinder? I'll probably set up some accounts but I don't want to rush it. After the break up I'm just going to chill and then be VERY careful with any potential dates. I know this will probably be a bad move since it'a already so difficult for guys, but I can't end up in a situation like this again. Hah! It is. The wild ones just need some extra training. A shock collar and a riding crop should make her good in no time ----------------------------------- Don't worry dude. For you, getting the next GF won't be hard at all. You've had a very great learning experience from this. Despite her turning out bad, you've been extremely lucky to have her. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Think about how much you learned about women since between the time you started dating her and now. You should have also received a confidence boost from being with her as well. Use that to your advantage. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 21, 2014 Author Share Posted May 21, 2014 Think about how much you learned about women since between the time you started dating her and now. You should have also received a confidence boost from being with her as well. Use that to your advantage. True, but how much of it will apply to other women? I feel slightly more confident because I'm not a virgin and I have had a relationship but the thought of dating a new person makes me nervous. I need more experience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 but the thought of dating a new person makes me nervous. True for the most of us. The key is practice. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Glinda.Good Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Don't worry about your future options right now. Offload this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sumathi Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Do you really feel your girl friend is selfish? Selfishness in relationship kills it and there is no hope for success. If you feel that you cannot make your relationship work, it is always better to tell her. Of course it is difficult, but breaking up is always difficult, isn't it? You should not fight with her as it makes her very bitter. You should talk to her in a friendly manner and make her understand why you want to part as friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 21, 2014 Author Share Posted May 21, 2014 Oh she's definitely selfish. I won't go into detail about what she did because the relationship is basically over, but it was a series of behaviours that I always tried to justify, and when I couldn't I argued with her and she stopped it for a while, and then resumed later. It's just been bitter sweet. Even though I know it's the right thing to do it doesn't feel right yet. I don't know if that makes sense. Do you really feel your girl friend is selfish? Selfishness in relationship kills it and there is no hope for success. If you feel that you cannot make your relationship work, it is always better to tell her. Of course it is difficult, but breaking up is always difficult, isn't it? You should not fight with her as it makes her very bitter. You should talk to her in a friendly manner and make her understand why you want to part as friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Don't worry about your future options right now. Offload this. Good point. For some reason I am nervous as hell. I want to do it before the weekend but I keep stalling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Ok, she definitely would have wanted those kids. You must be loaded. The more I think about this the less I like it... love should be about people, not perceived status or wealth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Have you tried to talk to her about the issues you have with her? I really think you owe her a serious conversation if you are going to dump her. My ex suddenly dumped me without any warning, or signs, or talking to me at all about her feelings. Nothing at all like that. She just dropped a bomb on me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 I've tried... she doesn't care. Thinks I am overreacting and I need to relax. Have you tried to talk to her about the issues you have with her? I really think you owe her a serious conversation if you are going to dump her. My ex suddenly dumped me without any warning, or signs, or talking to me at all about her feelings. Nothing at all like that. She just dropped a bomb on me. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Then tell her that if she can't try to change, then you have to break up with her. Just don't suddenly tell her that you're dumping her. Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I disagree SD. It's harsh, but sometimes it just has to happen. Lomo's done. He needs to make a clean break and get out of there Ultimatums don't work. Ever. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I disagree SD. It's harsh, but sometimes it just has to happen. Lomo's done. He needs to make a clean break and get out of there Ultimatums don't work. Ever. It sure as hell would have worked with me. I would have done absolutely everything I could possibly do to stay with my ex. She just didn't tell me anything. The "clean break" destroyed me, and left me with so much rage and hate towards her. Yes I'm projecting here, but I do think that if Lumo's GF is really into him, she can try to change. Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 It sure as hell would have worked with me. I would have done absolutely everything I could possibly do to stay with my ex. She just didn't tell me anything. The "clean break" destroyed me, and left me with so much rage and hate towards her. Yes I'm projecting here, but I do think that if Lumo's GF is really into him, she can try to change. You are projecting.. this isn't your thread. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 It sure as hell would have worked with me. I would have done absolutely everything I could possibly do to stay with my ex. She just didn't tell me anything. The "clean break" destroyed me, and left me with so much rage and hate towards her. Yes I'm projecting here, but I do think that if Lumo's GF is really into him, she can try to change. Ultimatums do not work when one person is already done. Done and checked out. As your gf and Lumo both were/are. Sometimes there is just no way to overcome incompatibilities. Changes are superficial and short lived. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 The more I think about this the less I like it... love should be about people, not perceived status or wealth. In an ideal world, yes. However there will be those that latch on to you for your money, your perceived strengths or weaknesses. You have to look out for users. Everyone has something others want. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 To me it just feels much better to be with a girl than any kind of masturbation technique I have tried. Since getting a girlfriend is so difficult it is a major loss. Never mind though, I've made up my mind to leave her after a recent incident. Gee, really? Because no man on the planet besides you prefers sex to masturbation. Not worth it. Everyone has dry spells. You are 22..you have plenty of time to be in relationships. Go have fun! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 23, 2014 Author Share Posted May 23, 2014 So update on this... I told her. She is upset but didn't get angry or throw anything or try to seduce me. So I guess I'm lucky. I feel like crap though. We have agreed she'll moveher stuff out tomorrow. She wants to know if we are still going to school together. I am really not sure about that because I would have to pick her up every day from her parents. I'm happy it went well but also upset... One slimy thing I think she has done is hidden my car keys. I still have the spares but she was the last one to use my car and now claims she can't find the keys. Oh well I have no idea what she's up to but it could be worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 23, 2014 Author Share Posted May 23, 2014 Gee, really? Because no man on the planet besides you prefers sex to masturbation. Not worth it. Everyone has dry spells. You are 22..you have plenty of time to be in relationships. Go have fun! Lol. I know it sounds pathetic but I was a virgin up until this relationship and it has been a short one, and I really have no idea how long it will take to get another girl. Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Tell her you wont be going to school together anymore. I'm proud of you, this will be a huge ego boost in the future, think about it, you are not a virgin anymore and you had a hot gf ( and you are not the dumpee ) Things will only get better from here. I know it's a sad time for you but she was tooooooo much..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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