sharpshooter3 Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 My wife and I have been physically separated for 4 months and emotionally for years. I live with my girlfriend but my soon to be ex still lives in the house with our 4 children (20,17,15,10). My kids haven't met her and her kids yet and my soon to be ex assumes there I someone else..Although I really haven't come out and told her. Keep in mind that my 17yr old has had some unacceptable behavior, that has taken a toll on my other children. This started before the separation. Anyway.. I spent Easter and recently my 15yr olds bday with all the kids and my soon to be ex. My home is in the same town I work in and one day I was so physically ill (my girlfriend home is15min away) I ended up crashing at my home until dinner time. My girlfriend to say the least was not happy..she says we are separated and shouldn't continue family things like this. She gets that school events and athletics are different. I dont have a place of my own and don't have a place to spend time alone with my kids except my home. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted May 20, 2014 Share Posted May 20, 2014 Does your wife have the same view about your M as you do? In the early days I allowed my ex into our home like this purely to keep some stability for the children. For me personally I hated him coming into the house, but my situation is different to yours. You will probably find that your GF feel uneasy/insecure with your arrangement.. At the end of the day it's not forever and things will change. However your ex wife... If she isn't on the same page emotionally as you, then you crashing there is unfair 'it's too familiar' my ex came around on day and took a shower and sat in the house in a towel! If your ex knew about the GF I'm pretty sure she would be hurt and would begin to set boundaries. Talk to your GF I'm sure she understands the importance of your children's happiness... But you will need to arrange something eventually. Make your children feel important... Take them away for a short trip, always give them 'quality' you & them time... Wish my ex did this SS x Link to post Share on other sites
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