Would an apology from OW/OM even matter?

[Spectre]

Personally, I WOULD want an apology from the OW. NOT because I would accept it, no. More because I would get some sort of perverted satisfaction out of knowing she realized what she had done was wrong at least.

 

I get this, but you have to realize that part of the appeal of an affair is because they know it is wrong, so..that is the thing here. They already knew it was wrong otherwise they wouldn't of hidden it from you. That is why I feel an apology is pointless. Like I said: words can't unbang my girl.

 

Personally, I get NO remorse from my OW. She flaunts their affair on FB and when I initially discovered the A, I messaged her telling her what a W she was, etc. She didn't show one bit of remorse. Instead she bragged about the A and how much the "love" each other. It was sickening. I don't message her anymore but I do check her FB page from time to time and she's still flaunting it.

 

First I think you should stop checking her FB, this woman is skanky. She brags about the affair because deep down she knows how bad it makes her look. If your husband had an ounce of actual love with this woman he wouldn't be coming and sleeping with you several times a week.

 

To see any form of remorse from her would not make me feel better, necessarily. But it would give me a perverse since of satisfaction knowing she felt any amount of guilt/sorrow/remorse over her behavior. I would want her to wallow in it as much as possible.

 

That's just my two cents.

 

I get it, but I guess for me it is like..I want to see remorse, but I don't want to see it up close. I would see it as fake this person came to me apologizing. I'd maybe enjoy over hearing her having a convo with someone..or something where she talks about how much she regrets it. A face to face apology would just feel fake.