organizedchaos Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Say WHY people say you're fun and easy going. Anyone can say that. But give an example. And say what you plan to do with that degree. What does it mean? "...then my plans to be the next Zuckerberg will be complete!" Shows you have goals and are shooting for the top. You say you're fun and easy going. Show it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Say WHY people say you're fun and easy going. Anyone can say that. But give an example. And say what you plan to do with that degree. What does it mean? "...then my plans to be the next Zuckerberg will be complete!" Shows you have goals and are shooting for the top. You say you're fun and easy going. Show it! Normal Person pretty much said the same thing. If I can think of some examples why I'm funny, then I'll use them. For now, I just can't think of anything. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Do you work at all? Or did you have a career & go back to school to get that degree? All I read here is 33 year old guy in college, not working, and playing video games. I think it would be great to give yourself some credit if possible! I agree with posters above--don't like danceswithdanger, especially because you haven't mentioned anything dangerous or daredevil like? Why were you suggesting that name? Also, I immediately picked your 21-34 age & agree that 25-35 seems more appealing (ie doesn't give a huge red flag to a creep) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Do you work at all? Or did you have a career & go back to school to get that degree? All I read here is 33 year old guy in college, not working, and playing video games. I think it would be great to give yourself some credit if possible! I agree with posters above--don't like danceswithdanger, especially because you haven't mentioned anything dangerous or daredevil like? Why were you suggesting that name? Also, I immediately picked your 21-34 age & agree that 25-35 seems more appealing (ie doesn't give a huge red flag to a creep) I worked retail and did temp work for about a year. I'm currently not working but I'm looking into more temp work for the rest of the year. I have no idea how to express that in my profile. I liked the name because it sounds interesting. If it's not clear, I have absolutely no idea what to pick for my name. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 SuaveSalsaStepper Eh, too long? Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 SuaveSalsaStepper Eh, too long? Something like that is good. Use Salsa in the name. That would be something that might pique a woman's interest to know more about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 SpicySalsa Of course it gives the complete wrong idea Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 SpicySalsa Of course it gives the complete wrong idea Which is exactly why I rejected it when it came to mind. (Yes, it did) Maybe just SalsaStep? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Totally off-topic. Posting in Lumo's thread gave me a massive headache. So then I tried to think of some nicknames for my profile, then I thought of PrivateDancer. Then I remembered that I used that joke with my ex calling her my private dancer. I did not take that well Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I got it! Total ripoff, but whatever. StealthDancer "Dancing in a way that you can't detect" Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 This is just a suggestion based on the wordplay of my eighteen year old, twenty one year old and twenty three year old...salsaninja or dancedanceninja. I know nothing about online dating, but channeling them, that was what I came up with. Damn , good luck, OLD sounds complicated. What happened to the days when you just smiled, winked, and they giggled and gave you their phone number? Lovely time, that. Not a clue on online stuff, Grumps 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Some Name suggestions.... *Nat King Cole. (play on your name) *NaturalDancer (play on your name and dancing) *SoldOnSalsa (self explanatory) *DanceTillDawn (exciting and a little but naughty with out being creepy) or my personal favourite... Somedude81 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Can I nitpick? First of all, your photos. Good photos are so important. The most important thing in your profile, actually. If your photos don't pass the screening process, nothing you say on your profile will matter. I have some suggestions on how to improve your appearance. First of all, shave off the facial hair. Second, you need a more youthful hair style. The one you have makes you look mid to late 30s. You said you had longer hair when you were dating your ex. Maybe that would be better. Get a professional hair stylist's opinion. Maybe a different shirt would be good too. My self-summary People say I'm a fun guy and very easy going. (Don't say "People say." It makes you sound like you don't think you're fun. Maybe say something like: "I'm a fun-loving guy who likes to *fill in with fun things you like to do including Salsa dancing*. I agree with the posters who are saying don't mention the video games. You are in your thirties and don't want to come off as immature. What I’m doing with my life I'm currently finishing up my degree in business administration and plan to become a *fill in the blank* upon graduation. I work in computer technology while completing my degree program. Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food My favorite show is Game of Thrones. Brooklyn Nine Nine is great and I like Archer as well. For music I like alternative rock, Offspring, Foo Fighters, Green Day, Fall out boy, etc. I like to try new things and I'm open to trying just about anything. (No creepy names, please. No naughty or goofy names, or something which sounds like you are trying too hard. If you have a nice name like Nick, then use that with some numbers). I agree with the posters who are saying don't put the age range as very young. It sounds creepy. You look like a mature man of mid to late 30s. I'd suggest putting your age range at 24 to 33, and your location as within 50 miles. And maybe saying something like: "I'm looking for a woman who is easy-going like I am, who likes to do fun things, who is between 24 and 33, lives within 50 miles, and appreciates a man who will treat her well. I would suggest not putting some racial preference or appearance preference, since that will limit your prospects quite a bit, and it would help if you didn't limit yourself. Just contact those you are interested in and be open to responding to women who might contact you. If you've had no luck at all after trying online dating for quite some time, then you need to open your dating field/prospects more than you have been. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I don't understand that point of excluding women I'm interested in. Because it's predictable, a man listing girls that young. Oh, of course he wants a college girl, but he's willing to go for a woman his own age if he has to. Don't put "suave" in your name. It's lounge lizard bad, and reminds me of those guys from SNL. Alec Baldwin played one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 (edited) I got all the pictures of me that are barely halfway decent up there. Frankly I hate how I look in the vast majority of them. Are they true to how you really look? I am not photogenic. I almost always look better in person (I have been told often). So in order to get a "true" picture, I have to get a few shots. I also think some faces look better in motion. I think your top priority for your posting needs to be to get better pictures, because even if they like your words, if your pictures don't match your presentation of yourself as a fun, easy going guy (I don't think they do), then you are likely to be passed over. Get better pictures! I agree with Kathy that that main one makes you look older than you are. It may be that you have a more mature look (nothing wrong with that), but I suspect it's just not a good picture. Consider hairstyle and clothing too, as Kathy said. Maybe go to a salon and talk to someone there, and go to someplace with shoppers that help with clothes, just to get an idea of how you could switch things up. Edited May 22, 2014 by lollipopspot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 (haven't read the entire post so might say some stuff that has already been said neither am I very familiar with OLD) You said you do not want to be single, why put in short term dating? Might turn those women off who are not into it for the short term. Everything in between Dark Souls and Skyrim. There are both RPG's. I bet you get more responses if you put in Mario Kart. And I am serious as its a fun couples game. Desired age more than 10 years your junior, not complaining about how it comes off but do you really want that big an age difference at this age? In my experience salsa and dancing in general really isn't that attractive to the non dancing crowd. Do you go to socials? I used to go and some of the regular ones are pretty much speeddating on the dancefloor. If not, you should try it. Are your favorite tv shows really what defines you as a person? It is all pretty static, I would try to put something in about hopes and dreams, what you are trying to accomplish etc. What do you do on holidays? Doer or bather? To some (not me, if she wants to lie on the beach its fine by me, Ill be scuba diving regardless) that is important. Maybe think about picking up some sport. Besides increasing confidence you will come off as a more dynamic guy. I suggest American Football or Ice Hockey, awesome sports and I dont have acces to them 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Normal Person pretty much said the same thing. If I can think of some examples why I'm funny, then I'll use them. For now, I just can't think of anything. You don't need to think of examples why you're funny. You need to show you are funny through funny comments in the profile. Inject humor somewhere, about school or dancing or even online dating. Names: Salsa buff Salsa devotee Salsa fan Salsa enthusiast Aim for a non offensive, mildly interesting, accurate name. Your entire profile is just too surface and dull. Add some humor and depth. What sets you apart from other 32 year old gamers, other than a couple sentences about salsa? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I'll get you through my thoughts when reading your profile. Lets say I'm a woman who is considering replying to your profile. Ready? My OLD profile just isn't working. I know it needs major work. Profile Name: Naughty_Neff_81 ( Neff is replaced by my real name which also starts with N) Naughty? Omg. Next. My self-summary People say I'm a fun guy and very easy going. So you are boring as hell. Nothing that describes your true inner self, only something safe and definitely not interesting. What I’m doing with my life I'm currently taking time off work so I can go back to school and finish up my degree in business administration information systems. I'll be done this year and then I'll reenter the corporate world. Is he gonna be surrounded by 20 years old half naked chicks all the time? Is he gonna be mature enough to carry a decent conversation or will his interests be only facebook, nails and stupid tv shows? I’m really good at Salsa dancing as well as other types of ballroom dancing. It's just so much fun to do a structured couples dance. It's a lot easier to dance than you think it is, and don’t worry, I can teach you! I do computer repair and other technology support. I'm also a great listener. Dancing sounds like gay-ish to me, and he dedicates 3 sentences on it. I like the enthusiasm but I guess it's too much. "A great listener"? Let me decide that.... Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food My favorite show is Game of Thrones. Brooklyn Nine Nine is great and I like Archer as well. I watch a lot of anime. If you don't know what that is, that's fine. If you do, tell me some of your favorite shows. For music I like alternative rock, Offspring, Foo Fighters, Green Day, Fall out boy etc. I also really enjoy ambient beats when I just want to chill. I'm a gamer, enjoy Dark Souls and Elder Scrolls and everything in between. Of course I know when to put down the controller and give you the attention you deserve. Of course you're welcome to play along. Being a gamer myself, I don't like this sentence. It sounds like you'll do me the favour to stop your valuable gaming and do me the honour to talk to me for a while. No. Delete this sentence. I’m looking for Straight girls only Ages 22-34 Near me Who are single For long-term dating, short-term dating "short term dating" in my ears sounds like "basically I just want to f&ck you, but if this goes somewhere further, I guess I'll be fine with this as well, but not my favorite option". Delete short term dating. You are looking for a serious girlfriend, not ONS. You should message me if You're a down to Earth woman who likes to dance, have fun or just play a game or two. What makes you a down to earth man to deserve a down to earth woman? The only info I know about you by now is what your hobbies are. What is your character like? What makes you special? Why message you and not someone else like you? "play a game or two"? Are you looking for a guild or a girlfriend? Sorry I was tough with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 sooooooo get rid of Naughty... might as well use '69' in your name if you want to continue with using naughty. and the short term dating thing has to go... As far as the rest... fluff is fluff... get yourself some great pictures...and show some of your humor in your profile... Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 (edited) You just aren't man enough....And Ive outlined the reasons in the other thread.....its as simple as that, sorry to say...Still a boy...Thats the reason you arent getting any action.. Salsa dancing would be a great attribute to a real Renaisssance Man, but to you looks silly and effeminate.. Your lifestyle and hobbies(even your posting style on threads) aren't appropriate for your age..If you had stunning good looks or a great body, maybe you can lasso in the superficial types, but they are pretty much worthless in the long haul anyway.... If I were you, Id focus on my life and my career and try to build some self confidencs....And saying stuff like "I am not waiting til X time to have a girlfriend" reeks of desperation, which is a huge turnoff to anybody(and no, you dont have to say it, they will pick up on this).. Sorry to be harsh and I know it looks like I am cutting you down, but the answer to your "problsms" is right under your nose.. Sorry to be blunt, but hey, you asked... TFY Edited May 22, 2014 by thefooloftheyear 4 Link to post Share on other sites
yajiuma Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 How about Salsa Knights as a name? It's kind of romantic/playful and takes themes from your interests of dance/gaming. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I know I need to change the name, but I'm not sure what to. Salsa_dancer_81 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 People say I don't care if it's true that people say it, but 1) it's a terrible cliché to say that on a dating site - I'm sure you're bored of reading that phrase yourself 2) Be positive and write about yourself using your own voice. Try "I am...". It sounds more confident. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Two of the pictures used in my LoveShack are used in my OLD profile. I went and looked at your profile. First pic has inconsistent lighting between the subject (you) and the background. Your left shoulder has some weird back-lighting which doesn't seem to match the sun position based on the shadows of the bushes in the distance, for example. Are you really there in that scene? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Some of this depends on what kind of women you want to attract. Other than age, dancing and video game interest, what other qualities are you looking for in a woman? Do you want someone who likes to travel, likes doing outdoorsy stuff, likes wine, likes to go out to eat, likes going to live music events, has a college degree, has a career, is into fashion, likes to read, is an introvert, is an extrovert, likes to hike, likes to ride bikes, likes to lay around at the beach, is spontaneous and adventurous, is into running or working out, loves dogs ....etc...? Consider what type of life you want to have with whatever woman you end up with. What is she like? What do you do for fun? You get up on Saturday morning...what does your ideal day look like? What do the two of you do on Tuesday night? Determining some of the above can help you tailor your profile to show that woman why she should pick you above all of the other men who are sending her messages. The key to your profile is remembering that the woman reading your profile knows nothing about you, and every word of your profile clues her in to who you are. It is very easy to turn someone off in a dating profile. As far as your username, there is nothing wrong with using your name followed by a number or something somewhat bland like that. That kind of username will not offend or turn anyone off. Other types of usernames can easily do so. Some of the suggestions above seem kind of corny to me, but that's your call. SalsaKnights is probably my favorite of the suggestions made so far, if you want something a little different. My self-summary People say I'm a fun guy and very easy going. I agree with removing the "People say." It makes you sound not confident. "I'm an easy going, fun guy who [insert something witty/funny/attention grabbing about you.]" What I’m doing with my life I'm currently taking time off work so I can go back to school and finish up my degree in business administration information systems. I'll be done this year and then I'll reenter the corporate world. "After [doing whatever type of work you used to do], I went back to get up my degree in business administration information systems. I'll finish this year, and then I plan to work/get a job doing [insert what you want to do. Make it witty.] I’m really good at Salsa dancing as well as other types of ballroom dancing. It's just so much fun to do a structured couples dance. It's a lot easier to dance than you think it is, and don’t worry, I can teach you! I do computer repair and other technology support. I'm also a great listener. I always think "I'm a great listener" type statements mean the guy is going to be mute or that he expects me to talk a lot. Eh. Tell an anecdote about something funny that happened when you were doing computer repair or other technology support. Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food My favorite show is Game of Thrones. Brooklyn Nine Nine is great and I like Archer as well. I watch a lot of anime. If you don't know what that is, that's fine. If you do, tell me some of your favorite shows. For music I like alternative rock, Offspring, Foo Fighters, Green Day, Fall out boy etc. I also really enjoy ambient beats when I just want to chill. I'm a gamer, enjoy Dark Souls and Elder Scrolls and everything in between. Of course I know when to put down the controller and give you the attention you deserve. Of course you're welcome to play along. Food? I’m looking for Straight girls only Ages 22-34 Near me Who are single For long-term dating, short-term dating Ok. You should message me if You're a down to Earth woman who likes to dance, have fun or just play a game or two. I feel like everyone asks for the "down to Earth" woman. "have fun..." -- does anyone not want to have fun? This is throwaway. "play a game or two..." -- you might eliminate women who don't like gaming. This is where you can really stand out. "You love to dance (or want to learn how), ..... " I might be able to add more if you answer the first question about what you are looking for. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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