Popsicle Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 I don't envy you. It sounds like you have done all you can. Just wait for the hearing in 3 weeks. It will be a good thing. Even if you don't end up getting the restraining order, just her being there should send enough of a message to her, and if she continues after the hearing, you should be able to get one the next time. I have seen it happen where it was denied the first time for not enough evidence, but the second time appearing for the same problem is enough for them to grant it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 how might I document damage to business? One example would be video identifying the person hurling a brick through the window of your business location. Another would be verifiable damage by them to personal property. Another would be terrorist threats which inhibit your freedom to conduct business. Generally, for most social interactions, the cost of such pursuits isn't worth the benefit unless money isn't important relevant to the outcome; IOW you have deep pockets, no fear of public record of the action, and don't care about a monetary outcome, rather sending a message. That said, IMO it never hurts to have good video surveillance or a VAR just in case. If nothing else it can bring their feet to the fire if they in fact don't leave you alone. Dollars to donuts though they'll move on. Time usually fixes these things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author StomachFlu Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 So, I ended up having the order of protection retracted. Why? It seemed like it was just playing into their game and upping the drama even further. My whole point is that I don't want to be an ongoing participant in their marital feuding. Both parties collecting evidence and facing each other in court further implants my presence in their minds, when I want the exact opposite. Luckily, I did "send a message" to her. She'll receive the summons, immediately followed by my "order to vacate." I was able to write out why I was rescinding the order - a.) her telephone harassment hasn't yet re-grown to its prior intensity at this time (underlined on her copy) b.) I was concerned that a court summons would continue drama while my hope was to cease undesired involvement in her personal, marital discord. On a related note, ...but just remember you participated in this and possibly would still be participating if you two hadn't gotten caught. To clarify, I stopped participating months before being caught. I couldn't go NC because he was a work client, but wouldn't respond to romantic/sexual/personal texts. By the way, their marital discord had been going on for years before I entered the picture with both parties being unfaithful to each other. While the harassment may continue, she will now receive legal documentation that I'm serious about taking action and will do so again if the calls re-start; I also confirmed I can re-file if necessary. Crossing my fingers that I did the right thing! Link to post Share on other sites
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