WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Hello all! I am very new to this forum and first and foremost i wanted to say hi!. I have been floating around here and now I finally decided to post. Here goes...... My uncle died on Sunday. So naturally, we had to go to the wake. Now that side of the family we never really spoke to. My cousins i rarely saw, only at funerals. So last night after my uncles wake, my cousins and everyone went out for a drink to catch up and reminisce when we were little. So the tequila is flowing and the beer is unlimited. I have this great connection with my one cousin. He's great. We have wonderful conversations, we laugh and joke. Now keep in mind I haven't seen my uncles kids in like 20 years. If i saw them on the street i wouldn't have the foggiest who the hell they are. As the night progressed, i felt this weird sexual tension between my cousin and I. Like when I'd sit, my leg would be touching his and when he stood up, he'd use me as a clutch. We flirted all night. Am I sick? I mean this is my first cousin. I feel dirty that I even have to ask this question. And i know for a fact that if i met my cousin in a bar or wherever and we didn't know we were cousins, He would have been making me breakfast cause i would have gone home with him. WHEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWW Feels good to get that off my chest. Any input? Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Whay do you feel that way? Is it because of the situation (beer and lot of flirting) or because he is your cousin. There are many on earth today who were married to their first cousins. It is on of those cultural taboos that the human community imposes on us in some parts of the world. It is a natural male/female reaction I believe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by sami Whay do you feel that way? Thats why I'm asking for people advice. I don't know why I'm feeling like this. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 People can feel sexually attracted to members of their families, including their parents and children. However it's biologically a very bad idea to act on that attraction. There's even a syndrome observed in families which have been separated by adoption; it seems that sexual relationships can happen even among siblings or parents and children when they meet each other again after many years' separation. It has something to do with being attracted to people like ourselves! Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 There's nothing wrong in feeling attracted to someone. Question is: What you want to make out of it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 Thanks for all your input. I'm not going to act upon this. I mean thats just sick. Guess we'll just stick to innocent flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 My cousin is super hot! I know I get excited talking to him. And I'd only be sick if I took it past talking. My friend went to bed with her cousin. I wish I was spared in knowing about that Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 You're situation is, well yes, a little different. Nonetheless, you guys are still kinfolk. You don't want no family trees looking like a telephone pole (with no branches). I'd cease all flirting outside of what's already gone on. Oh, and welcome to LoveShack, where we're sick, but not THAT sick. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by tiki You're situation is, well yes, a little different. Nonetheless, you guys are still kinfolk. You don't want no family trees looking like a telephone pole (with no branches). I'd cease all flirting outside of what's already gone on. Oh, and welcome to LoveShack, where we're sick, but not THAT sick. Like everyone else said, you were attracted it's human nature since you didn't see him in over 20 years but as long as you don't take it "past" the innocent or else you'd be verging on some "Jerry Springer" sh*t! Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by WHATINTHE... I'm not going to act upon this. I mean thats just sick. Is it really that sick? Think about it - just THINK - before bombarding your brain with socially imposed constructs. As long as you don't have children with him, where is the harm? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by Israfil As long as you don't have children with him, where is the harm? Are you saying its ok to f*ck with him as long as i don't have children? Thats gross. I would never. I was just simply asking if this is normal for cousins to flirt and if the tension is normal. I'm not going to act on this whatsoever. And thanks for the welcome all! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 I have a 2nd cousin that I worked with and became friends with in high school. He was such a cutie. But that was it!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by WHATINTHE... Are you saying its ok to f*ck with him as long as i don't have children? I'm not saying its ok for you to do anything you don't want to do. I just asked you to think about it outside of the prison of social constructs that you have abided by your whole life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 So your saying go outside of society and break every moral rule out there? That's all it is. Morals, ethics. But i can see what your saying. Society taught us that certain things are bad. Well in this case society is right. You just don't do that with family members. But there are other things that society makes you this is taboo....which really aren't Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 He can be hot, just don't do him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted February 10, 2005 Author Share Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by tiki He can be hot, just don't do him. Thanx tiki........I have a sick mind...but not that sick! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted February 10, 2005 Share Posted February 10, 2005 I am not a sick minded person. I think it might be more of a character flaw. Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 Originally posted by Israfil I'm not saying its ok for you to do anything you don't want to do. I just asked you to think about it outside of the prison of social constructs that you have abided by your whole life. Thinking outside of socially constructed prisons? Marry ME!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 Originally posted by MassiveAtom Marry ME!!!! Now, MA, I think it is you who were propositioned first! *wink* http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56715/15-4 Originally posted by WHATINTHE... Thanx tiki........I have a sick mind...but not that sick! I find it strange that you would start such a thread with sex seemingly implicit in your initial query, and then deny it! You have nothing to prove to anyone here. Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 Yeah Israfil, That's what got me in trouble the last time! WHATINTHE, look, the Cousin thing is normal. I've had a couple cousins tell me if it weren't for the fact that we WERE cousins..... Try thinking outside the box, it might change your perspective on OTHER things. Maybe not f***ing your first cousin, but that sort of open-mindedness leads to growth. Link to post Share on other sites
nattfodd Posted February 12, 2005 Share Posted February 12, 2005 It seems that you knew this man was related to you at the time the flirting occurred. I have no doubt that the situation must have made you feel quite uncomfortable. I have no idea why you persisted in flirting with a relative, or why you have resolved to limit your interactions to what you call innocent flirting. To me, this all sounds quite awry. Incest is viewed as wrong; incestuous behavior is, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 It's not as if it's a sibling.....My first cousins are married to one another (yes they are also first cousins) Link to post Share on other sites
Fuzzy Chickens Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 Originally posted by Israfil Is it really that sick? Think about it - just THINK - before bombarding your brain with socially imposed constructs. As long as you don't have children with him, where is the harm? My thoughts verbatim. So many concepts of morality have no basis in reason or reality. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 14, 2005 Share Posted February 14, 2005 Originally posted by Shaun It's not as if it's a sibling.....My first cousins are married to one another (yes they are also first cousins) You can't marry your cousin. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 14, 2005 Share Posted February 14, 2005 Dyer, in many countries it is not illegal to marry first cousins. I have a friend whose parents are first cousins. Link to post Share on other sites
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