R3d Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 I have heard that abstinence from masturbation has greatly ameliorated people's "game". I want to know, have any of you tried it and has it worked? Do you have to go all the way? Or can you still masturbate say once a week? The thing is, I am a 16-year old guy (for those of you who don't know) and haven't had any success with girls. I am considering trying out nofap or "muchlessfap" but first I want to know if it actually has worked for a considerable number of guys. The thing I am concerned about is what am I going to do with all that sexual energy when I can't even have sex (I am of age of consent in my state, but still)? That's why I was considering of going once a week (or even less, but still at least a bit) instead of never. I have to "let it out" at least occasionally... Link to post Share on other sites
GypsieFlower Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 What is nofap/ And what is the outcome you want to achieve? lowering your sex drive or? Link to post Share on other sites
potsticker Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 I think the only real point of nofap is to resensitize your dick in case you're having trouble orgasming with real sex after fapping too long to a point where your penis is desensitized. Otherwise, I don't think there's any point ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author R3d Posted May 23, 2014 Author Share Posted May 23, 2014 What is nofap/ And what is the outcome you want to achieve? lowering your sex drive or? Nofap is abstinence from masturbation. The desired outcome is getting dates with girls (or even one girl). I heard nofap has been the game-changer for some people (suddenly getting jobs, getting laid, etc.) Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) Your mind is way too focused on sex and women. You're only 16, and you act like you're a 50 year old virgin. Why not just focus on making friends, and doing 16 year old things, instead of being obsessed about women, posting on a internet forum? That's a horrible way to live, especially at your age. Edited May 23, 2014 by endlessabyss 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Masturbation has nothing to do with jobs or women. Abstaining will neither help you nor hurt you (though you might get more unwanted public boners). Fap away kid. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 I'd say it depends on the person. There are times where I haven't gotten the poison out in a while and as a result I've gone on a hitting on and flirting rampage. Whether or not that actually leads to getting the girl depends primarily on other factors though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author R3d Posted May 23, 2014 Author Share Posted May 23, 2014 Your mind is way too focused on sex and women. You're only 16, and you act like you're a 50 year old virgin. Isn't that to be expected given my age? And a substantial part of "16-year old things" IS dating. I agree that not getting a girlfriend in high school is not the end of the world, but my problems aren't going to magically disappear in college or later. Girls are still primarily going to be attracted to tall white guys for the most part. Unless some miracle happens and I have a huge growth spurt, I am ****ed. And it's not even just that. I am still going to have to learn "game". That's why I am giving that a lot of attention now. Why not use this time to get good and comfortable at interacting with the opposite sex in a flirtatious manner since I am going to havee to learn eventually no matter what? I am not going to just wake up one day and have loads of game. But it's hard to do anything when you're sexually repulsive, but life's not fair am I right? I am going to have to work harder. I realize that, and that's why I am starting that work now. Anyway, I will give "nofap" a small try just because I am curious, since it HAS worked for many people. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 It couldn't hurt to abstain for short periods. Say every 7 days. After that testosterone levels plateau. Don't go for ****ing months though. You'll end up on the news. I do notice a difference, in both work, dating and exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) Isn't that to be expected given my age? And a substantial part of "16-year old things" IS dating. I agree that not getting a girlfriend in high school is not the end of the world, but my problems aren't going to magically disappear in college or later. Girls are still primarily going to be attracted to tall white guys for the most part. Unless some miracle happens and I have a huge growth spurt, I am ****ed. And it's not even just that. I am still going to have to learn "game". That's why I am giving that a lot of attention now. Why not use this time to get good and comfortable at interacting with the opposite sex in a flirtatious manner since I am going to havee to learn eventually no matter what? I am not going to just wake up one day and have loads of game. But it's hard to do anything when you're sexually repulsive, but life's not fair am I right? I am going to have to work harder. I realize that, and that's why I am starting that work now. Anyway, I will give "nofap" a small try just because I am curious, since it HAS worked for many people. There is nothing wrong with having thoughts about women, time to time, but it seems like you're obsessing about it in a unhealthy manner. If you have friends, you should be out with them having fun, or focusing on your studies. If you were busy you wouldn't be torturing yourself with these unnecessary thoughts. Use your energy for something more productive. In the meanwhile, stop bashing yourself. Every post I have read of yours you complain about your inadequacies. Read something uplifting, and understand that, as a human being, you have value. There is only one of you. Life is unfair, but there is someone out there for everyone. Not everyone is blessed with supreme genetics, and all of that is vain anyways. Edited May 23, 2014 by endlessabyss 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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